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|Leaving Home For The First Time by Mickey7(m): 4:17pm On Oct 05, 2014|
Congratulations if you have been offered admission into one of the universities in Nigeria(or outsiDE Nigeria even).A new journey,a new phase of your life is about to begin.
Leaving home for the first time invokes different feelings in different people.For some the feeling is that of happiness.For them,it is the time to explore the world,be "free",no limitations,do things they couldn't do before.Join the "happening guys" maybe etc.
For some,the feeling is that of fear.they do not know what life away from home'd look/feel like.they are scared to take the step.they've heard so much about cultism,prostitution etc and all that keeps popping up in their heads are the "what ifs".
For others,it's a mixture of both.
Well,I wouldn't say there's no need to be terrified.in fact you should be!ok maybe I put it the wrong way but really,it's ok to be a bit scared.More like nervous.considering it's the first time that you'll be living alone,far from home.
Here is my advice;
Be calm!the benefits and joy of being independent,taking your own decisions and making and learning from your own mistakes should keep you calm.Don't worry!the university is not as bad as nollywood make it out to be,trust me.It can be fun.it all depends on you.
If you are the type that does all the chores for your very busy mum,your worry will be how your parents are going to do without you.How is mum going to cope with work and the chores?who'll wash dad's car?
Goodnews:don't worry!nature has a way of balancing things.Your mum,your dad,they'll find that balance.
If all you think is "I will miss my mummy".You'll definitely miss them hehe but it'll pass.You'll learn to live without your family,time will teach you.You should know you are gradually stepping into adulthood and that more than half the time you needed to have spent with family has been spent already.From now on,you'll be with them only once in a while.two/three times a year,once a year even, as time goes on.
To be continued...
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|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by Neldrizzy(m): 5:55pm On Oct 05, 2014|
mickey nice one... Tanks for this.
|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by Mickey7(m): 9:19pm On Oct 05, 2014|
|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by Mickey7(m): 10:18am On Oct 06, 2014|
You don't have to bring the whole of your house to school.Try to make sure you bring only what you need.A luggage box,pots,spoons,cutlery generally,toiletries,the right amount of foodstuff etc. You could even get these things in school so you won't have much to 'drag'.I advice you endeavour to travel light.EspeciaLly for those who do not have a permanent place to stay.You don't want to stay in a temporary accommodation hostel with a mountain of luggage.It can get really inconvenient
You might want to go say a week early,so you'd get used to the school environment and know your way around school.you don't want to have that "freshers' look of confusion" all over your face on the first day of resumption/clearance.know the venue before hand.Also,gather as much info as possible about the clearance procedure so you'd know where to start when you get to school.Nairaland really helped me during my time.As more people get to know the first step,the queue gets longer.That's why you need to know where to start before others know.
Knowing a few people online,making friends before resumption helps.it make things a lot easier.You don't want to reach school and not know anyone there.You'll be clueless trust me,that's apart from being bored of course...you won't know what to do.the guys I met on Nairaland,they were(some;still are)my family in school.so make sure you maintain a good relationship with newly admitted students online who are just like you.Met them,don't try to hide!you'll be the one to lose.
However,do not be in a hurry to choose your close friends.True friends,they come with time and naturally.Take your time and most importantly You can't trust just anyone!In my naivety I felt everyone could be trusted.That was my greatest mistake and it cost me(till date).so don't rush.People will walk in and out of your life.Do not worry when this happens,it's all a part of the process.you'll get to know who your true friends are with time.
Stop here I must lest I bore you
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|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by HonourablePomk: 11:58am On Oct 06, 2014|
Mickey7 nice one keep updating me I'm following and anytime you update drop the link at our usual spot... Nice one me sef don gain admission ooo we dey together
|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by Nobody: 12:12pm On Oct 06, 2014|
Mickey7:Please expatiate this
|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by Mickey7(m): 12:56pm On Oct 06, 2014|
|Re: Leaving Home For The First Time by chue(m): 2:30pm On Oct 06, 2014|
Mickey7:Take your time and most importantly You can't
trust just anyone!In my naivety I felt everyone could be
trusted.That was my greatest mistake and it cost me(till
date).I love dis''you can't trust just anyone''sims we both av trust issues
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