EfemenaXY:
What nonsense.

Never heard of such and I think this gimmick would only work for desperate chicks wanting to marry at all costs - chicks that don't mind trading in their self respect and doing all sorts in the vain bid to "get" the man.

What do your parents say about this?

I certainly won't allow any man put my beautiful, precious, princess through such crap.

shalomp:

I understand ur point but it's not always about desperation. some men do it to give their parent a sense of belonging, because some parents will feel they are not being carried along in the whole process. I mean it's a way of telling the girl indirectly that the parent means a lot to him. so if your man truly loves and you love him, there is nothing fear. just go there and show them that u have accepted them and their son too.

shalomp:
@ Sophy, no family is the same. understanding differs. what worked for you won't work for every other person. In a normal situation, ur right. but now the request has been made by the man. so wisdom have to be applied. If she knows her interest will be protected by her man then there is nothing wrong for her to go. it's just for a weekend.

shalomp:
@Godmystrenght, I hear you but,,,, it's
only the op that knows the man she is getting married to and the"tempo"
of their relationship.

samyan12:
I am a female too and I dont see any big
deal in this situ. Take it as an opportunity to get to know your inlaws
too. Dont join the crowd of ladies who want to marry their husbands
alone, and do not want to giv their inlaws the respect they deserve. You
will be suprised u'll end up having a great time there.

Mondisweets:
you can cancel what?

AdeniyiA:

my correction post.
i planned to cancel /remove d post after she'd av made the correction, but so far she hasn't

AmandaLuv:
i'm so grateful and thanking each and every one of u for taking out time to respond, GOD BLESS U ALL. i appreciate.

i had anoda discussion with my fiance on this matter this afternoon nd after registering my displeasure on why he wants me to go alone he said there's no motive, dat he wants me to go 'chill out with his family'. das the exact word he used. i asked him if his mum or sister prompted such decision he said no, then i knew he was lying becos i wonder how i'll jus pack my bags and go paying a visit to his parents tomoro without pre-information to them of my arrival.
i'm jus praying we come to a middle ground b4 tomoro.

samyan12:
I am a female too and I dont see any big deal in this situ. Take it as an opportunity to get to know your inlaws too. Dont join the crowd of ladies who want to marry their husbands alone, and do not want to giv their inlaws the respect they deserve. You will be suprised u'll end up having a great time there.

AmandaLuv:
i'm so grateful and thanking each and every one of u for taking out time to respond, GOD BLESS U ALL. i appreciate.
i had anoda discussion with my fiance on this matter this afternoon nd after registering my displeasure on why he wants me to go alone he said there's no motive, dat he wants me to go 'chill out with his family'. das the exact word he used. i asked him if his mum or sister prompted such decision he said no, then i knew he was lying becos i wonder how i'll jus pack my bags and go paying a visit to his parents tomoro without pre-information to them of my arrival.
i'm jus praying we come to a middle ground b4 tomoro.

Anyways, whatever works for one jare. There is really no black and white when it comes to these things

Phema:
I don't know the kind of families these ladies come from that will let them sleep over at a fiance's family house. Even during a festive period that you are meant to be with your family? My father/family will not be alive and see that happen. The way they will come and uproot you from that house eeeehhhh. . .

The first time my hubby (then fiance) took me to his mum for official introduction, the mum had prepared the visitor's room thinking I will sleep over. We got there quite late and she was surprised to hear me say I was leaving after an hour. She pressed and cajoled for me to sleep over, saying it was late for me to travel to my parent's, I politely declined. My dad already had my phone blasting with calls and queries about when I will be leaving.

Fast forward to few months after wedding; my MIL came visiting and during the course of our discusion, she admitted that the moment I insisted I wasn't sleeping over that night, she knew I was from a good home. And that she will not be happy if any of her daughters did a thing like that. I just thought to myself "see this woman ooo, after you feigned surprise and sadness when I insisted I was leaving. See set up"

I still haven't even spent any night at my parents in law. More like, I haven't had the time/opportunity.

Anyways, whatever works for one jare. There is really no black and white when it comes to these things.

pickabeau1:
How does a woman,your son wants to marry, sleeping over translate to dignity

Will you do anything that you were not doing kurukere before

Moreover sleeping over does not mean that is an opportunity for the man to nail the babe in his house

AmandaLuv:
i'm so grateful and thanking each and every one of u for taking out time to respond, GOD BLESS U ALL. i appreciate.

i had anoda discussion with my fiance on this matter this afternoon nd after registering my displeasure on why he wants me to go alone he said there's no motive, dat he wants me to go 'chill out with his family'. das the exact word he used. i asked him if his mum or sister prompted such decision he said no, then i knew he was lying becos i wonder how i'll jus pack my bags and go paying a visit to his parents tomoro without pre-information to them of my arrival.
i'm jus praying we come to a middle ground b4 tomoro.

pickabeau1:
How does a woman,your son wants to marry, sleeping over translate to dignity

Will you do anything that you were not doing kurukere before

Moreover sleeping over does not mean that is an opportunity for the man to nail the babe in his house

Sophyrocks:


Why dnt you gather some balls and quote me directly? You scared of me?

pickabeau1:


...
WHY YOUR OBSESSION WITH MALE GENITALS!!!

dignity indeed

shalomp:

I understand ur point but it's not always about desperation. some men do it to give their parent a sense of belonging, because some parents will feel they are not being carried along in the whole process. I mean it's a way of telling the girl indirectly that the parent means a lot to him. so if your man truly loves and you love him, there is nothing fear. just go there and show them that u have accepted them and their son too.