Living Your Life
"You do not become good by trying to be good,
but by finding the goodness that is already with
you" ~Eckhart Tolle.
As humans we all have "good" that is already
embedded in us. The task now is to locate that
"good". Locating it maybe very difficult for some
people as it was to me. There are things to get
rid off in order to identify that good in you and
live your life.
FACTORS TO GET RID OFF.
1. Doubt.
According to wiki, doubt is a status between belief
and disbelief, it involves uncertainty or distrust or
lack of sureness of an alleged fact, and action, a
motive, or a decision. So you see being uncertain
of yourself is a big hindrance to living your life. If
you can't trust yourself, nobody can trust you.
So you need to get rid of doubt. Don't have
negative thoughts about yourself. Thoughts like
"what if I fail", Thomas Edison failed 999 times
but he never gave up. Don't let doubt deprive you
from trying.
2. Pleasing People
"I can't tell you the key to success, but the key to
failure is trying to please everyone" ~ed sheeran
Pleasing people is not bad, but trying to please
everyone is one impossible fact. You don't have
to sacrifice what you want because you are trying
to please someone. They are not the only ones
created to live a good life. Learn how to say "NO"
sometimes, don't just accept anything. In fact,
many people pleaser have low self-esteem. You
can listen to others, but ultimately what you do is
your choice. Keep a balance, stop basing your
self-worth on how much you do for other people.
The greatness act of kindness are those done by
choice.
If you are helping others in such an extent that
you are neglecting yourself, is that really wise?
3. Comparison.
A consideration or estimate of the similarities or
dissimilarities between two things or people.
Recognize that comparing yourself with others is
a bad habit. The engine room of comparison is
the "society". Society is extremely successful in
being able to brainwash people into believing they
should look a certain way, act a certain way, be a
certain someone, when in reality every single one
of us is different. What society does is to
categorise people, and they want you to believe
that you have fewer rights to be happy because
you do not fit an idealistic lifestyle. Comparing
yourself to others is a fine way to throw your
self-esteem down the earth, as there will always
be people who are better than you, those who are
worse than you. Realize that everybody is
different. Even identical twins are different from
each other. Stop being afraid to be yourself. Be
proud of yourself.
"It's better to be the original you than to be a
copy of somebody else"
The meaning of your life is what you create day
after day with your own actions and thought.
These steps helped me, I believe it can help
someone there. Life is a personal race. Don't
blame other people if things ain't the way you
wish. Nobody is too old to dream, why not live
your dream. It's your life.
Live your Life


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