And those who say:

"Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes,and make us leaders for the Muttaqûn"

Those will be rewarded with the highest place(in Paradise) because of their patience.

Therein they shall be met with greetings and the word of peace and respect.(Qur'an 25:74-75)

Salam alaiykum waramatullah wabarakatuh.
Brothers and sisters in Islam!
Can anyone please provide answers to these questions on Nikkah?
What is expected of a man who wants to take a woman's hand in marriage,
from the stage of getting her consent to the "AKDUL" and the NIKKAH ceremony.

Most of the wedding ceremonies(NIKKAH)  i've seen in recent times are filled with lots of glamour and Glitterati.
Is it in line with Islamic stipulations to show extravagance while tying the knot?

Can anyone please educate us on this topic with Quranic and hadith quotations.

Since nobody seems to to want to contribute to this thread, i think i'll go ahead and provide all available information on the topic.

Marriage is an important part of a Muslim’s life and, it starts with choosing the right partner.
When it comes to life decisions, choosing your spouse is among the most important ones you will ever make. It is a decision that will have a major impact, not only on your life, but also on your future wife and those who are close to you.

Marriage completes half your Islam. It is a sacred contract in the presence of Allah that compels you to make commitments never before asked of you, whether you are male or female.

Don’t expect perfection – No one is perfect. Your future husband or wife may have model good looks, PhDs and high Imaan, but there will be flaws that you won’t spot until after you are married.

The Engagement

In many parts of the Muslim world, the engagement marks the day in which the two sides agree for their daughter and son to eventually get married.

It is a day of celebration with relatives and guests from both parties gathered in a single place to feast and get to know each other.

However, getting engaged as understood in Western society is alien to Islam. In reality, there is no true engagement process in Islam, with men and women being encouraged to get married as soon as possible once both parties agree.

Because of this, many cultures actually combine the engagement with the nikah, which means the man and woman become husband and wife immediately under the eyes of Allah.

This solves many problems for the groom and bride, who may not be able get married officially for various reasons, be it education, financial considerations or other practical issues.

For instance, in many Muslim societies, it is frowned upon for unmarried couples to fraternize in public, even if it is only holding hands.

This is overcome by conducting the nikah on engagement day, as long as both parties agree that cohabitation would only take place once the marriage is officially registered.

In any case, the engagement process begins with the two families and their guests enjoying a function to formally accept the union.

During this time, they may decide on a date for marriage. Quite often, the date would not be finalized until much later, especially if either one of the fiancés are studying or looking for employment.


The groom’s contingent arrives and a male leader of the delegation, usually the father, will utter words to the bride’s male guardian as a formal marriage proposal. The two sides then sit down and discuss the mahr, or dowry, that the husband pays to the wife.

Once this is agreed upon, the couple is officially engaged.

The Nikah process

The nikah is sacred and special ceremony that binds a man and a woman together as husband and wife under the eyes of Allah.

It is a simple process that involves a contract between the husband and wife. Once agreeing to the contract, both parties must do their utmost to fulfill their duties to each other, to Allah (swt) and to their kith and kin.

The laws in many Muslim countries these days requires the nikah to be conducted by a recognized official, be it an imam or registrar. This is to safeguard the legal validity of the marriage and to make sure the proper paperwork is issued.

For a nikah to be valid, there are some conditions that must be fulfilled.

The woman has to agree to the marriage. Some practices call for the woman to be asked if she agrees to marry a certain man. She should say “yes” or keep silent, which implies agreement. A woman cannot be forced to marry anyone.


Guardian – A nikah is not valid without the consent of a male guardian, or wallee. This is usually the woman’s father, or it can be any male mahram. If no wallee can be found, the imam can act on the woman’s behalf.


Two witnesses – Two trustworthy witnesses, generally males, must attest to the nikah. Some Muslim societies require two witnesses each from the groom and bride’s sides in addition to two unrelated witnesses, making six in all.




Mahr – the groom’s side must offer a certain amount of mahr, or dowry. This could be in the form of cash, jewelry or other items of value, as long as the bridge agrees. The mahr does not have to be physically handed over to the woman at this stage but a contract of intent must be sealed for the marriage to be valid,
Muslims should know that it is not compulsory for a imam to be present at a nikah for it to be valid in the eyes of Allah.

However, to adhere to specific country laws, you may be required to have an official of the mosque or marriage registrar present to legally verify the union.

Another aspect of the nikah is that it is not essential for the bride to be present at the ceremony. Many societies perform the nikah at the masjid with only the men presebt while the women stay at home.

What is required is for the wallee to give away the bride in front of two witnesses, and afterwards, the bride’s agreement is sought.

Other cultures organize big functions where relatives and guests of both husband and wife are present, with the nikah performed in front of everyone in a grand ceremony.


The Wedding Day (Walima)

The walima is a wedding feast aimed at letting the community know that this particular couple is now husband and wife. In societies where people adhere to Islamic guidelines, this is very important because married couples must be allowed to be together in public without arousing suspicion as to their marital status.

There are differences of opinion among scholars on the timing of the walima – wether it should be part of the nikah ceremony, after nikah but before consummation or after consummation.

Wa alaykum salam,

Some of us have been busy with other things and unable to come to NL. Some of us have no detailed answer to the question you asked. But Alhamdulilah, you've provided us with good information.
Jazakallah Khayran.

Islamic marriage is polygamy (Muhammed's style )

God have mercy

Abrahamic style

Abuzola 1:

Abrahamic style

Abrahamic style ? Are you kidding me ??

Islamic marriage is pure Muhammed's style

Go get a bible let me teach u where ur bible says so

What do you know about the bible ? You don't even know anything in the Quran and Hadiths.

Abraham married Sarah, because they did not have a child that is why his wife suggested to him that her maid Haggar should have a child for her. After the whole ordeal, Haggar was sent away with her child.

After the death of Sarah , Abraham married Keturah.

Muhammed married only Khadijah. It was after the death of Khadijah that Muhammed began to marry a lot of women. Some were taken as booties (what a shame!) and he even rape women.

So abraham is a player ? you are stupid for insulting abraham

Abuzola 1:

So abraham is a player ? you are stupid for insulting abraham

Abraham is NOT a player. Abraham is a righteous man and the father of faith.

You are sooooo stupid and infact your first name should be stupid. I am sure you know the history of Abraham unless your Quran have told you lies.

you are so daft, why are you contradicting urself again

Abuzola 1:









you are so daft, why are you contradicting urself again

Stupid idiot. You are the confusionist here.

Deluded son of jesu

Abuzola 1:

Deluded son of jesu

Deluded son of Saudi black stone(allah).

I pity you and I pity the people who gave birth to you.

You are a bastard