DavidDylan:

that's the problem. You can't run ur fingers through a black woman's natural hair. Well in order to please us they fix their hair . . . not bad in my opinion.

tiickl3mii:

common, ignorant misconception
yes you can 

WesleyanA:


LMAO I bet your black grandpa had fun running his hands through your black grandma's nappy hair back then when perms didn't really exist.
universal my nose
science of touch my neck

WesleyanA:

what we are trying to get through your thick skull is that you can't run your fingers through a black girls hair unless she has "fixed" it with a fresh perm (no natural undergrowth etc). so you are contradicting yourself.
on that note, I will advice you to stick with non-Africans.
some people fancy fixed hair, some don't. I personally am biased towards "unfixed" hair. but one man's meat is another man's poison.

LRNZH:

I take this as a compliment
''A hard head makes a soft arse'' as they say
Infact I'm tryin' to increase my craniage
LOL

savanaha:

Well you can massage black scalp with natural black hair and its very relaxing.

Funkky123:

Black people need to stop critisizing what black people do.

We get our hair done because we have versatile hair and we can!

I can decide on an Afro today, a straight weave tomorrow n braids the next simply because we can.

Everytime I go to work with a new hairstyle, European girls look at me enviously and say they wish they had versatile hair that they can do things do.

The simple reason we get our hair done is because we can! It's like me asking you y u didnt wear the same shirt u wore yesterday?

*Hauwa*:

careful what you stroke through. . . kwarikwata dey

ogugua88:

If I was ruler of the world, I'd ban it lol.

ogugua88:

Am I self-centered? If you have a problem confining yourself to weaves and braids, don't blame it on my hair texture. There are plenty of natural haircare videos on youtube; probably just as many as there are for relaxed heads.

First of all, any hair texture is a good hair texture. There's no such thing as bad hair. You have to make your hair work for you in order for it to flourish. I refuse to masquerade myself with wigs and weaves. There's nothing wrong with a woman suffering from permanent baldness, alopecia, or hairloss from chemotherapy to the point where she needs to use a weave or wig. Absolutely nothing wrong with that; if they choose to do so, then I'll support them 100%

HOWEVER, a lot of the women I see wear it without knowing their own hair, and therefore damage their hair. I am lucky to have had a (Nigerian) mother who knew how to care for my hair. She simply passed on what she knew to me. I also credit www.longhaircareforum.com for having healthy hair. There is such a thing as being a black/Nigerian/African woman and having long or healthy hair. I was going natural as well, and I didn't like it. It hurt to put a comb to my hair. Detangling would take hours due to matting and horrible tangling. My hair was breaking and as a result, went back to doing what worked for me. My hair is relaxed and "not killed" by the relaxers. If you know how to properly balance your hair with pH levels, moisture, and protein, there shouldn't be anything holding you back.

I can show you pictures of my hair before I relaxed it again last month if you like. I couldn't do anything with it.

I'm 100% Nigerian. My hair is 100% Nigerian; course and stubborn as well. I have learned how to care for my hair and keep it healthy. No crime in being proud of what God gave me to work with.

sophienwa:

i actually find this thread and some of the comments very funny. i think we are forgetting the most important thing here which is that it is YOUR hair and you can do WHATEVER u want to do with it without having to defend yourself ; and this is coming from someone with naturaln hair.

topup:

My general opinion is literally to each their own.

Many men will come here professing that they don't like weaves or extensions, only to be dating the girl with the 'longest' hair, or the fullest hair. I do think deep down inside everyone wants to be trendy, not necessarily white, because even white people dye their hair, to get more european or asian browns and honey colours, or even scandinavian colours AND believe it or not, many use extensions too - practically ALL the Hollywood starlets use extensions, and even some men get hair transplants.

I guess, no one is ever happy with what God gave them.

My only problem with hair extensions, is that ok, I understand women have been wearing wigs worldwide for centuries (even asians), BUT not to the point where it was causing serious problems.

Wear a weave, wear a wig, wear glue extensions, fry your hair whatever, but at least take care of what God gave you.

It isn't true that you can't run your hands through afro hair, I didn't use to be able to run my fingers through my hair because I didn't know how to take care of it, but now I condition it and twist it, there are BARELY any kinks, which gives me less reason to want to relax/perm my hair.

I don't understand how my friends do what they do, most of them are balding if not already bald at the sides, yet they continue. I think it's as bad as those who wear too much makeup despite being sensitive to acne, if they just took care of their natural skin, went through the spotty phase, they would have beautiful healthy skin, just like hair, why let it break, why let the tight trendy braids and glue rip out your hair??

I don't understand why women do this. I used to never condition my hair and it used to break, as soon as I found my techniques, I took off my weaves, my hair is not in the healthiest condition so I refuse to relax it, people look at me as if 'why' am I doing this to myself.



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I do sigh though, next to all my girlfriends with their 20 inch 'gorgeous' long 'feminine' extended manes, I feel just so simple, I find myself having to adorn myself more with makeup and jewellery, I need to find an in between.

For now, if I want a straight and sleek look, I will continue to straighten with a hot comb or straighteners, but NEVER relaxer.

Now, I'm just trying to grow my hair full and long - it's working!!