zleemshaddy:
#jxt incase

Serenity22:
This thread was not in anyway created to bash anybody. Its just to express my opinion and hear other people's opinion.

Addressing the issue of cheating, We often hear people blame the single girls for having affairs wwith married men but the truth is some of these girls don't even know at d early stage that the man is married.

Even if we succeed in getting all the runs girls off the streets n prostitutes from the hotels, do u not think men will start lying that they r single just to hook up with these single ladies.

I also think that these men will resort to raping minors since they can't get matured girls to willingly agree to satisfy their sexual appettite and this is not good.

You can never stop a thief from stealing by hiding all you stuff all the time, he would always find something to steal. But, assuming he is able to get his psychic off stealing, then he wouldn't have to steal again and u would have a more free society. In the same vein The only solution to stopping cheating lies in the hand of the cheat.
Once he is able to convince himself on why he should stop cheating, the human mind being dynamic will follow suit.

I have often asked a few men who claim they don't cheat why they don't, and the answer was all the same; they all DECIDED not to.
In essence, it wasn't as if they didn't have the opportunity or their marraiges was perfect. It was a conscious effort on their part not to.

There, in my opinion, lies the answer to every cheating man and woman, a decision not to and a will power as strong as ur will to breathe and voila we can now face other issues.

carefreewannabe:
It is wrong to sleep with a married man when you know he is married.

It is more wrong to cheat on your husband / wife.

My two cents.

ileobatojo:

Serenity22:
I do know its wrong to do all that, we all know its wrong but its still trending, so what do we do? Do we just condemn the act and not find a solution to d problem, or do we just keep advicing people to either pray more or divorce?

carefreewannabe:



As long as men think it is something to be proud of to have slept with more than 20 women and consider it an achievement and as long as people / women value money more than their bodies, change will not happen quickly.

Children need to be taught the right values and they should be kept away from different media as much and as long as possible.

Serenity22:
forget their boosting on every thread, tpia's thread told me that they r not really proud of it, they just don't know how to stop it so they resort to justifying it. You see most of them in reality do it secretly only that they get caught.
Again when you say children should be taught the right values, can u educate me on what values these could be?

crackhaus:
They are the ones who usually end up with husbands who cheat; or if that doesn't happen, they end up with in-laws that keep causing problems.

#MyOpinion

carefreewannabe:


Honesty, consideration, hard work, compassion, diligence, helpfulness, generosity, fidelity, empathy, to mention a few.

crackhaus:
They are the ones who usually end up with husbands who cheat; or if that doesn't happen, they end up with in-laws that keep causing problems.

#MyOpinion

Serenity22:
these are good values and cheating people know it but they still cheat anyway, prostitution is one of the oldest professions since the creation, even with all that values generations before ours

alutacontinua:


I wish life was that fair

Serenity22:
lol, crackhaus you know that isn't true, in most cases its even the other way round. Life is not fair you know

Serenity22:

There, in my opinion, lies the answer to every cheating man and woman, a decision not to and a will power as strong as ur will to breathe and voila we can now face other issues.

Serenity22:
just incase what?
Don't even think of booking space here, just share your opinions

carefreewannabe:


Knowing values and leaving by them are two different things.

I am not sure about that but I doubt that a girl who comes from a good home and who was brought up by loving parents who set the right examples and taught her that there are things that are more important than material goods and assets will sell her body unless she needs to do it to survive.

I also doubt that a confident adult who had decent role models needs to brag about the number of women he has slept with to feel validated and like a man.

Teach children the right values in the right way and most of all give them the strength to be determined to stand by these values in an environment that discourages individuals to have what would make a society a better place for all.

Serenity22:
just incase what?
Don't even think of booking space here, just share your opinions

crackhaus:

Did you also miss the sarcasm?

crackhaus:
They are the ones who usually end up with husbands who cheat; or if that doesn't happen, they end up with in-laws that keep causing problems.

#MyOpinion

cococandy:

Serenity22:
cos even if runs girls or sugarboyfriends do not exist people who want to cheat will still find some helpless person like a minor to harrass or will blackmail someone into doing what they want.

crackhaus:

Serenity22:
owkie, I get but its very misleading tho

cococandy:
That a man is a cheat doesn't mean he can resort to raape if he doesn't find someone to cheat with.

Rapistss are specially sick people and their illness doesn't emanate from lack of sex partners.

Serenity22:
I get your point which is quite right. But lemme give you this illustration, I read a story of on lib a few days back of a teenager who was harrassed by her aunts husband whom she was putting up with, now this man will definitely not be proud of making sexual advances at his wifes teenage neice and the girl is very much young and likely didn't know what to do. My point in this thread is that runs girls with no moral values are not the problem, cos even if runs girls or sugarboyfriends do not exist people who want to cheat will still find some helpless person like a minor to harrass or will blackmail someone into doing what they want.