cococandy:

Brandnew2:
Married men have always been known to be cheats from time immemorial. There are only a few who don't.

Serenity22:
so you do agree with me that runs girls are not the problem because there has always been runsgals from time immemorial yet the one's who didn't want to cheat did not cheat

crackhaus:

You don't believe in karma?
You know, that thing about life choices/events coming full circle and balancing itself?
Yin-yang?

No?

Serenity22:
no, I don't believe in karma, I am a living testimony to karma being a farce. The fact that you have a squeaky clean record doesn't mean your life or relationship is going to be a smooth sail.

Brandnew2:
It takes two to play the game. If there wasn't demand, there wouldn't be Supply so Men actually get the blame for their existence. Do you know that a man who patronizes a prostitute is also a prostitute? Lol!

Brandnew2:
Was that your story?

Serenity22:
never heard that one before cos going by my definition of prostitute its someone who offers sex for money or material gain.

Serenity22:
no, I don't believe in karma, I am a living testimony to karma being a farce. The fact that you have a squeaky clean record doesn't mean your life or relationship is going to be a smooth sail.

carefreewannabe:


It still boils down to wrong values.

I refuse to accept that men are controlled by their testosterone or in other words the thing between their legs.
I refuse to believe that a man who has such values like honesty, loyalty, fairness and fidelity will make advances at his wife's niece.

But in Nigeria women are considered a trophy and their value is determined by their age and ability to push out babies and this is why you will VERY OFTEN hear stories of men sleeping with their housemaids, their wives' nieces, their students and with women who could be their daughters.

It is not the same everywhere. The way in which women are treated is different and the frequency of such incidents seems to be much lower in some other places.

In some countries people emphasize other values more.

Serenity22:
very true, its not that nigerians do not know about values, its just that they lack WILL POWER to see through does values.

carefreewannabe:


People misunderstand the concept of karma.

Buddhists believe that our karma (good or bad) is not only the result of our actions and reactions in the present life but also the accumulated result of our actions and reactions from previous lives.

carefreewannabe:


Yeah, teaching kids self-discipline is another necessity that will go a long way.

Brandnew2:
They discipline aspect reminds me of when my mum warned me not to sleep with women that if I did, they would become pregnant. I was only 13 y.o then and the lesson sunk so deep. If not I would have had a baby momma by now.

crackhaus:
They are the ones who usually end up with husbands who cheat; or if that doesn't happen, they end up with in-laws that keep causing problems.

#MyOpinion

pinkycute:


Hmmmmmmmm interesting you

Serenity22:
so you do agree with me that runs girls are not the problem because there has always been runsgals from time immemorial yet the one's who didn't want to cheat did not cheat

crackhaus:

Floodgater:
you justify the runsgal by exempting her from the blame. As long as the earth exist there will always be evil but our duty is to reduce it for our good. You saying absence of runsgal will encourage r.ape is like saying telling children not to steal will not stop stealing adults. Some cheats will stop if there are no runsgals. Some r.apist prefare minors or 'expensive' ra.ping to 'cheap' runsgals. People do no cheat cos its in their blood or born to cheat. People do not just wake up to be disciplined cos that act itself is no fun. I want to classify the people who dont cheat into three- 1. That smallest percentage that dont like to be hurt or hurt others (they are usually the one man one gal at a time regardless of friends insult they are naturally faithful). 2. The ones indoctrinated by parents to be faithful from childhood. 3. The ones indoctrinated by religion, situations etc at adulthood esp. to be faithful.

UjSizzle:
You know it's just easier to blame people, rather than accept your responsibilities.

It's the woman's fault I cheated; she seduced me.
No wait. My wife got so fat she stopped being sexy.

It's his fault the roof is leaking, the faucets bad and everything in my life is wrong.

It's my parents fault I sleep with men. They got divorced and raised me in a bad environment. Erm they don't give me money too. I feel so neglected.

It's the governments fault people go into prostitution. If they provided basic amenities, people would have better economic opportunities.

It's the Devil. He came from behind and pushed me onto those succulent thighs.

And there's almighty biology. Men have been hardwired with sexual urges that can't (won't?) be controlled. Women like money and will follow it like flies (wait. Is that biology too).


So yeah, we know the battle is a mental one. It's just easier to push the burden of guilt by blaming someone or something.
Or if people have really lost all sense of morality, they'll probably feel nothing.

Floodgater:
Most of the runsgals had no good or sound moral background, same goes for cheat. Some regret their background and wish it was different. It is the attitude of there will always be cheat that has enhanced cheating. A woman that will not accept cheating will hardly raise cheating boys. A woman that accepts or manage a cheating husband will hardly break the cycle with her son even after experiencing the hurt first hand. Such a woman rarely has a voice in her home. It is obvious from the other thread that cheating fathers dont want to stop at their practical cheating examples, they also want to indoctrinate their sons as their best legacy or inheritance to them. Where the father do not give cheating lectures and the mother still fails to inculcate faithfulness by saying and teaching her son, merely expecting him to feel her hurt afterall he is angry at father's actions hurting mum he will still go ahead to cheat tommorrow cos on the one hand is father's footstep and on the other is the best mum who accepted it thus any 'best girl or wife' should accept it.

Serenity22:
are you sure about that? To me, people who cheat have an uncontrolled sexual appettite fuelled by lust. Same with cheats.