I'm depressed. i don't understand myself any longer. i'm tired of these bad habits. i'm greedy, and not contented with what i have.
e.g- "i see this shoes or cloth in someone's body. i sell my own, and buy it. few weeks later, i get tired of it. sell it, and start looking for another one"

i keep loosing and loosing. selling off my things. i'm tired of this of lifestyle. i need solution, please.

Have you always been covetous?

These things don't happen here in.................. Oklahoma...
What did i just typed?

Evina:
Have you always been covetous?

yes. i always desire to obtain every thing i see ( shoes, money, clothes, phones). even though i'm not working. thats the root of every problem.

SkinnyDude:
yes. i always desire to obtain every thing i see ( shoes, money, clothes, phones). even though i'm not working. thats the root of every problem.

When did you start observing this attitude?

I am going to be asking you quite alot of questions, because in answering these questions, a solution will come up.

there is an exception for this happening here in France.

Evina:


When did you start observing this attitude?

I am going to be asking you quite alot of questions, because in answering these questions, a solution will come up.

i can't remember. but it's been long now. i'm 19.

SkinnyDude:
i can't remember. but it's been long now. i'm 19.

Okay. So it is a habit that has become your weakness and dealing with weaknesses can be pretty tough. One of the things you can do is to make yourself accountable to another person whom you trust and who can support you in your quest to manage that weakness.

Dealing with covetousness requires a lot of discipline and also requires you working on your self esteem. You want what others have because you feel inadequate with what you have and consider others to be more superior because of their material acquisitions.

You need to begin to understand that your self worth doesn't increase or diminish with how much possessions you have. You create your own value.

One of the most effective ways of changing your mindset is to start reading the right books. As a wise saying goes, "our lives go in the direction of our most predominant thoughts". So, basically, we eventually become what we think because thoughts form actions, consistent actions lead to habits and habits forms our character which defines us. So, to become some thing different, you have to start again, with changing your thought patterns and feeding your mind with the right materials will help achieve that.

Evina:


Okay. So it is a habit that has become your weakness and dealing with weaknesses can be pretty tough. One of the things you can do is to make yourself accountable to another person whom you trust and who can support you in your quest to manage that weakness.

Dealing with covetousness requires a lot of discipline and also requires you working on your self esteem. You want what others have because you feel inadequate with what you have and consider others to be more superior because of their material acquisitions.

You need to begin to understand that your self worth doesn't increase or diminish with how much possessions you have. You create your own value.

One of the most effective ways of changing your mindset is to start reading the right books. As a wise saying goes, "our lives go in the direction of our most predominant thoughts". So, basically, we eventually become what we think because thoughts form actions, consistent actions lead to habits and habits forms our character which defines us. So, to become some thing different, you have to start again, with changing your thought patterns and feeding your mind with the right materials will help achieve that.

thank you so much. you must be a Psychologist.

SkinnyDude:

thank you so much. you must be a Psychologist.

Always welcome

Can we talk about your depression? what is getting you depressed?

Evina:


Always welcome

Can we talk about your depression? what is getting you depressed?

my inability to speak well. i'm a stutterer and it's getting out of hand.

SkinnyDude:
my inability to speak well. i'm a stutterer and it's getting out of hand.

Oh. I know someone, she was once a colleague. Now, she is doing very well, working as an on air personality in one of the top radio stations in Abuja.

When she told me she was once a terrible stutterer, I couldn't believe it. She said she had the worst kind, those who actually tap themselves before speaking Now, there is absolutely no trace of stuttering when she speaks. She has a clear, strong, soothing voice.

I was once intrigued about the cause of stuttering and through research, I discovered that it was purely psychological. People stutter when they get really nervous.

You should decide to deal with it. And you sure can.

First, you need to observe what triggers it. I think your self esteem is at a very low point. Try seeing the good things about you and appreciating them.

For one, you write really well that is a plus. I don't know you, but I sense a really creative, intelligent dude who has set limitions for himself by looking down on self.

Why not make a list of ALL that is good about you? Start from there.

Evina:


Oh. I know someone, she was once a colleague. Now, she is doing very well, working as an on air personality in one of the top radio stations in Abuja.

When she told me she was once a terrible stutterer, I couldn't believe it. She said she had the worst kind, those who actually tap themselves before speaking Now, there is absolutely no trace of stuttering when she speaks. She has a clear, strong, soothing voice.

I was once intrigued about the cause of stuttering and through research, I discovered that it was purely psychological. People stutter when they get really nervous.

You should decide to deal with it. And you sure can.

First, you need to observe what triggers it. I think your self esteem is at a very low point. Try seeing the good things about you and appreciating them.

For one, you write really well that is a plus. I don't know you, but I sense a really creative, intelligent dude who has set limitions for himself by looking down on self.

Why not make a list of [b]ALL that is good about you?[b] Start from there.

okay. i will try it when am chanced. and yes, i have a very low self esteem. always comparing myself to people.

Nice one Evina, you pretty much covered everything.

As an addendum, @SkinnyDude:

Work on your self-esteem and self-worth, that's just about it - when you're comfortable in your own skin without feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, you begin to live a fairly simple and easy life totally dependent on your own rules.

Cheers...

crackhaus:
Nice one Evina, you pretty much covered everything.

As an addendum, @SkinnyDude:

Work on your self-esteem and self-worth, that's just about it - when you're comfortable in your own skin without feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, you begin to live a fairly simple and easy life totally dependent on your own rules.

Cheers...

Thank you Crackhause

At the highlighted, how does he work on it. I am sure he knows he ought to but not sure that he knows how to.

Evina:


Thank you Crackhause

At the highlighted, how does he work on it. I am sure he knows he ought to but not sure that he knows how to.

Right here:

crackhaus:
Work on your self-esteem and self-worth, that's just about it - when you're comfortable in your own skin without feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, you begin to live a fairly simple and easy life totally dependent on your own rules.

I believe the starting point is accepting oneself, status, and capacity for what it is at specific moments. This does not mean he shouldn't strive to be better and achieve more, but this desire should be borne out of his own personal need at that moment and not dependent on what someone else has/has achieved.

There's this thing about confidence, people who have it may not be those who stand out the most in a crowd, or the loudest, or those who attract the most attention - this does not mean there aren't exceptions.
The world we live in now makes it even more difficult for people to be content in themselves - society has created materialistic standards by which it defines people...so it is left for individuals to break free from such mental captivity.

He only just needs to find/discover himself; know exactly who he is & what he stands for, and also have his own set of guidelines by which he lives - everyone should have something they believe in, live by, and strive towards...this is what fuels healthy feelings of self-esteem, self-worth, and adequacy.

Very well said Crackhaus.

Your moniker though Makes me feel like I'm chatting with a junkie No offense

Evina:
Very well said Crackhaus.

Your moniker though Makes me feel like I'm chatting with a junkie No offense

No offence taken...





































Apologize!

crackhaus:


No offence taken...





































Apologize!

I am sorry

But what prompted such moniker? Do you use?

Why dunyoo consult the oracle in your village?

Might be a family curse.

KanwuliaJara:
Why dunyoo consult the oracle in your village?

Might be a family curse.

best advice ever

Evina:

I am sorry

But what prompted such moniker? Do you use?

Never have!

It's just an old nickname - actually, the nickname on there is just the 'crack' bit. It's added to my first name when called by a specific group of friends.

For further enquiries as to how/why someone decided to start the nick, apply within...



Apology accepted!

crackhaus:

Never have!

It's just an old nickname - actually, the nickname on there is just the 'crack' bit. It's added to my first name when called by a specific group of friends.

For further enquiries as to how/why someone decided to start the nick, apply within...



Apology accepted!

Lol at apply within I may consider, still observing

SkinnyDude:
I'm depressed. i don't understand myself any longer. i'm tired of these bad habits. i'm greedy, and not contented with what i have.
e.g- "i see this shoes or cloth in someone's body. i sell my own, and buy it. few weeks later, i get tired of it. sell it, and start looking for another one"

i keep loosing and loosing. selling off my things. i'm tired of this of lifestyle. i need solution, please.

Don't beat yourself over it.
Thank your stars it's not like you sell things to gamble or to take drugs or to sleep with prostitutes.
You will outgrow it trust me.
The older you get, the easier you shed those habits and that's why you are even growing tired of it.

Evina:


Lol at apply within I may consider, still observing

Please observe quickly o...

I'll be checking out for you as well.

crackhaus:

Please observe quickly o...

I'll be checking out for you as well.

Lolz...

SkinnyDude:
I'm depressed. i don't understand myself any longer. i'm tired of these bad habits. i'm greedy, and not contented with what i have.
e.g- "i see this shoes or cloth in someone's body. i sell my own, and buy it. few weeks later, i get tired of it. sell it, and start looking for another one"

i keep loosing and loosing. selling off my things. i'm tired of this of lifestyle. i need solution, please.

Go and master the book of Ecclesiates and read it over and over again...back it along with prayers and it will stop...just believe.