cococandy:
but it is not the norm. Maybe his experience

However, it's something to think on and be guarded against.

I don't believe it's only his experience, I've heard many stories and personally know some men unfortunate enough to have being caught in such situations.

crackhaus:

However, it's something to think on and be guarded against.

I don't believe it's only his experience, I've heard many stories and personally know some men unfortunate enough to have being caught in such situations.

I'm pretty sure if his wife comes up with her own experience too, it would be like he's the monster.

Is this Nigeria's reality?

cococandy:
I'm pretty sure if his wife comes up with her own experience too, it would be like he's the monster.

So let's assume he got issues too, is that enough to take half his assets, or collect alimony and child-support payments, and/or decide when he should see his kids?

Remember she's probably going to get married again and be a beneficiary of new husband's money, while ex-husband who's providing for his new wife will still be sending his hard-earned money to her...

crackhaus:

So let's assume he got issues too, is that enough to take half his assets, or collect alimony and child-support payments, and/or decide when he should see his kids?

Remember she's probably going to get married again and be a beneficiary of new husband's money, while ex-husband who's providing for his new wife will still be sending his hard-earned money to her...

and that right there is where family courts are fücked up. in some US states, the income of the new partner of a broke dad can be used to provide child support. up till this minute, the income of the partner of a broke mum cannot be used for that purpose - why? cos her new partner isn't the father of the child. so is the broke dad's new partner the mother of the child?

some of these family courts are insane!

crackhaus:

So let's assume he got issues too, is that enough to take half his assets, or collect alimony and child-support payments, and/or decide when he should see his kids?

Remember she's probably going to get married again and be a beneficiary of new husband's money, while ex-husband who's providing for his new wife will still be sending his hard-earned money to her...

Half his assets?

Really she was supposed to just pack her bags and leave after 10yrs of marriage and sacrificing her career to be the stay home mom that he wanted?

It was their assets. Not his.

Whatever they made while married belonged to both of them. And in the event of a divorce it is split down the middle.
Sometimes the man even gets a lot more than half.(I wonder why they still complain)


If they have kids both of them will support their kids hence he has to pay child support.
Sometimes you see a man who pays 500 dollars a month in child support whining about it when it takes more than 1000dollars a month to keep his children going. Da heck.


Alimony doesn't apply in every case. There are conditions that make it necessary but in many cases the husband and wife split up and go their separate ways without the husband owing the wife any dime especially if there were no kids involved.

Clean break.
I know quite some divorced couples. Don't take these nairaland porkies to be the fact out there

bukatyne:


You guys want to eat ya cake and have it

Some women have become smarter than y'all

I don't know any woman who will leave a loving hubby because of $

Like you alls say, a woman should not be verbally abusive because she cannot control the man's physical reaction...

Bukatyne says: a man should love his wife because he cannot control her financial reaction! Shakashaka!

Nor be Naija where husband go leave wife, claim everything including the belle in her womb!

He can very well control her financial reaction in Nigeria. I'm a Nigeria who lives primarily in Nigeria, I'm good with that.

Please how many of these people get into marriage completely oblivious of the consequences of divorce?
Too many people trying to play victim where its not even appropriate.

It's all part of the devil's plan. Destroy the family unit, destroy the love between man and woman, destroy mankind.

Timbuktou:
He can very well control her financial reaction in Nigeria. I'm a Nigeria who lives primarily in Nigeria, I'm good with that.

These laws do not apply to Nigeria

Instead of concentrating on how to ensure the women get nothing nothing the Naija way, why don't the men concentrate on being better husbands?

I still insist that no woman who is in a loving marriage will scheme on how to take hubby to the cleaners.

5minsmadness:
It's all part of the devil's plan. Destroy the family unit, destroy the love between man and woman, destroy mankind.

Lol!

Poor devil who is smoking weed in Jamaica!

The things some people do amaze the devil himself.

The heart of man is desperately wicked.

bukatyne:


These laws do not apply to Nigeria

Instead of concentrating on how to ensure the women get nothing nothing the Naija way, why don't the men concentrate on being better husbands?

I still insist that no woman who is in a loving marriage will scheme on how to take hubby to the cleaners.

It's not the naija way to leave women destitute. It's the naija way that after marriage, every one should answer their papa name. That's fairness as far as I'm concerned. Never will you hear a naija man whine about that his wife divorced him and left him nothing. Abi, naija women don't divorce their husbands ni?

And I insist that any woman who take her husband to the cleaners is a greedy pig. I saw the movie "Why Did I Get Married Too" and was disgusted with Malik Yoba's character for asking for more from his divorce with Janet Jackson's character. She was hell bent on giving only as much as he contributed to their union. That's how it should be.

Timbuktou:
It's not the naija way to leave women destitute. It's the naija way that after marriage, every one should answer their papa name. That's fairness as far as I'm concerned. Never will you hear a naija man whine about that his wife divorced him and left him nothing. Abi, naija women don't divorce their husbands ni?

And I insist that any woman who take her husband to the cleaners is a greedy pig. I saw the movie "Why Did I Get Married Too" and was disgusted with Malik Yoba's character for asking for more from his divorce with Janet Jackson's character. She was hell bent on giving only as much as he contributed to their union. That's how it should be.

If the hubby was deserving, she will not take him to the cleaners

Strive to be a deserving hubby

bukatyne:


If the hubby was deserving, she will not take him to the cleaners

Strive to be a deserving hubby

same to be said to the women.. So strive to be a deserving wifey.

Mutaino7:
same to be said to the women.. So strive to be a deserving wifey.

Is it the women crying about divorce settlement?

bukatyne:


Lol!

Poor devil who is smoking weed in Jamaica!

The things some people do amaze the devil himself.

The heart of man is desperately wicked.

laugh all you want, but its the truth.

5minsmadness:

laugh all you want, but its the truth.

Sorry

bukatyne:


If the hubby was deserving, she will not take him to the cleaners

Strive to be a deserving hubby

Strive? Woman, please! On my worst day I'm the shiit. The missus will tell anyone who cares to listen that she was practically dead before she met me. I am the thing women want but can't explain. My mom is jealous of my wife. Fact. . Think Peabo Bryson's "A Whole New World"

Timbuktou:
Strive? Woman, please! On my worst day I'm the shiit. The missus will tell anyone who cares to listen that she was practically dead before she met me. I am the thing women want but can't explain. My mom is jealous of my wife. Fact.

if your mom is jealous of your wife then all your exes must be on a suicide watch as we speak.

Timbuktou:
Strive? Woman, please! On my worst day I'm the shiit. The missus will tell anyone who cares to listen that she was practically dead before she met me. I am the thing women want but can't explain. My mom is jealous of my wife. Fact.

Enough mouth

cogar:


if your mom is jealous of your wife then all your exes must be on a suicide watch as we speak.

You dey mind am?

coogar:


if your mom is jealous of your wife then all your exes must be on a suicide watch as we speak.

I kid you not bruv. She used to like me fvcking up just so I could cook for her, you wanna try my cooking? I used to make food when I offend her, till I got her tricks and locked up. Even my mother-in-law can't deny the boy's quality, and I don't take shiit from her o.

"Ah, oko mi kaabo". And I go dey feel like Tony Montana.

bukatyne:



Enough mouth

Lol. I'm a fun-loving person and have a sharp sense of humour. Maybe one day I'll post what my mornings are like at home. My son prefers me bathing him, my wife will shrivel without me. I'm too good to lose. . Mo quality mehn.

Timbuktou:
I kid you not bruv. She used to like me fvcking up just so I could cook for her, you wanna try my cooking? I used to make food when I offend her, till I got her tricks and locked up. Even my mother-in-law can't deny the boy's quality, and I don't take shiit from her o.

"Ah, oko mi kaabo". And I go dey feel like Tony Montana.

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coogar:


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Merci, mon ami. Thinking of sending the woman to Mecca on pilgrimage, she'll forever be in my debt and in my corner. . *Evil grin.

Timbuktou:
Lol. I'm a fun-loving person and have a sharp sense of humour. Maybe one day I'll post what my mornings are like at home. My son prefers me bathing him, my wife will shrivel without me. I'm too good to lose. . Mo quality mehn.

You sure don't sound like that online and can't picture you that way.

As long as your wife is happy, All good.

Timbuktou:
Merci, mon ami. Thinking of sending the woman to Mecca on pilgrimage, she'll forever be in my debt and in my corner. . *Evil grin.

try & do that...
i sent my mom to jerusalem few years back - her greatest wish. i dunno what it is about mothers & all those holy places.

Timbuktou:
I kid you not bruv. She used to like me fvcking up just so I could cook for her, you wanna try my cooking? I used to make food when I offend her, till I got her tricks and locked up. Even my mother-in-law can't deny the boy's quality, and I don't take shiit from her o.
"Ah, oko mi kaabo". And I go dey feel like Tony Montana.

What 's wrong with cooking for wife if is that she likes?

bukatyne:


What 's wrong with cooking for wife if is that she likes?

Nothing, actually. I just don't like being manipulated. If I tell her I'll be home early, she knows to get asun because she knows there no work for her to do. I can't stand clutter and just basically do everything before she gets back. The asun is payment for helping her out. So, it's asun and wine or orijin after Junior's asleep and er...you know the rest.

coogar:


try & do that...
i sent my mom to jerusalem few years back - her greatest wish. i dunno what it is about mothers & all those holy places.

Will do. It's all about prestige, my brother. Do you what it means to be an alhaja in the neighbourhood? . And she didn't want me to marry the girl before o.

Timbuktou:
Nothing, actually. I just don't like being manipulated. If I tell her I'll be home early, she knows to get asun because she knows there no work for her to do. I can't stand clutter and just basically do everything before she gets back. The asun is payment for helping her out. So, it's asun and wine or orijin after Junior's asleep and er...you know the rest.

OK, I get the manipulation part.

Keep up the good work

bukatyne:


You sure don't sound like that online and can't picture you that way.

As long as your wife is happy, All good.

Oh, she's happy, I assure you. I make sure of it. But I don't hesitate to nip shiit in the bud. Love her to bits too.