where the f.uc.k is onila?

People are talking as if they did not go to school. Smh!


Op, as you grow older your hymen doesn't stay the same as it was when you were born. Your hymen most likely eroded on it's own. Many v!rgin women just have bits and pieces of the hymen left and even if you have the whole hymen, there is no guarantee you will bleed. Is your husband an illiterate? He could read books you know. Tell him to read.

Smh!

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

Thetruth isthat dman is100% right inhis

How could you have been pleasuring yourself and still claim virginity. Go and apologise to your husband. He got a raw deal. If you claim virginity, your first heavenly feeling should have come from your husband and not by pleasuring yourself. You robbed him and you are a cheat.

As for me, if you tell me you are a virgin, the deal is off. Experience is not for sale, it can only be acquired. I have no intention of being a coach.

Pishure of your thing so I can analyze what the problem is...

braine:


Ok.

Did you guy sweet before penetrating ur pusy? Or he enter d place easy...?

Platnum1:

Thanks for taking out d time to study my profile. We are only married traditionally. Sometimes I can say my fiancee especially to someone I knw frm church cos we are not married in d church yet.

which one be you are not married in church yet even when you have been blessed by your parents traditionally..naija sha

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

I don't think you need anyone's justification. If your hubby dosen't believe you, I might just say he's been childish (I am really sorry to say). Must everyone bleed? From experience, I think no

Oh despair

Some men here have no idea about the female anatomy. Since when do females always penetrate to self-service, especially if she is claiming virginity? Novices. There is no wonder why women turn to witchcraft for stupid natural 'problems' in their relationships hahaha. Rubbish.

OP tell your husband to get off his high horse and educate himself.

You did not lose your virginity to your husband, you lost it to your lust.

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

I share ur pain. sorry abt it don't let it kill ur Moral. I hope he believe u soonest. u can take him to a specialist so dey can explain to him dat not all Virgin bleed at their first.




I hope I won't b disapointed on my wedding night.

ammyluv2002:
Should I stop telling the truth just because I lost mine? Say the truth and it shall set you free

You've lost yours? Na wa o...we will be waiting for your thread in a few months then.

Dis is bullshit ,,,,,,,since u have disvirgin urself ,,,why are u disturbing your self

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

u are not a virgin my dear. U've been masturb@ting and that makes u a solo fvcker. Babes be deceivin guys about their virginity since the days of Noah.

Make una see person wey de chuk herself de claim virgin o! Nothin wey man pikin no go hear for Naija

virgin ko, virgo ni, oti open the place babe, ur husband no dull ni.. To make thinhz easy 4u babe, jst tell him U've open the place wt thy mid-finger.

Platnum1:

I decided I won't bring it up again but sometimes like last night he asked me how far I went intimately wit my ex and that it's not possible I didnt sleep wit him...it pisses me off

maturity matters in marriage. Ur husband will destroy his affection for u in a long run. Issues of ex shldnt b discussed in marraige.for God sake u went thru dat in dating. And my dear hymen is a soft tissue,ur fingers can break it. Some guys even use dia hands before penetratn. So my sister u hv disvirgin urself by urself. And ur husband is already feeling lied to just 5months into ur marriage.dats not good o. And to all my ladies in the house never tell ur man u are a virgin.let it b a suprise pakage for him.if he finds out himself he will b very proud of u. If she did dis in dis case,and d guy didnt see blood.matter for no dey afterall she no tell am before. And my dear u have to tell him u finger urself in d past it may irritate him though and the thought of wot u will b doing to ursef wen he is not around will cloud him.its really complicated. Pls make sure u settle dis matter now that d marriage is still early so it doesnt b a yardstick for quarels in d future. May God give u wisdom in dis. Let ur husband stop?asking questn abt ur ex. U r his beloved wife not new gf he just met.

There only proof to confirm what you claim to be was the blood which he didn't see. i am sure he must have searched under the pillow, blanket, laundry, under the bed for just a little appearance of blood but he didn't so don't blame him if he asked you where you put it.
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Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

Bring your vagina for proper analysis and scrutiny

Platnum1:

I decided I won't bring it up again but sometimes like last night he asked me how far I went intimately wit my ex and that it's not possible I didnt sleep wit him...it pisses me off

http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/2372.aspx?CategoryID=118

Go through the link, it has some answers to your question and I'd also suggest your husband reads it too. Trust is very important in every home

okiezman:


LoL....who loses virginity without bleeding hearing it for the 1st time...

There is. There are six basic reasons why dat happens. u can check it online.

braine:



Men take things like this seriously. Did you explain to him that you pleasured yourself by yourself? I wonder how one can still claim to be a virgin after self service tho

Backward men take all that serious. We're all humans with blood and hormones that triggers our sensations. We almost always have to act on those sensibilities. We Nigerian men need to educate themselves. We're still Learners.

Now I no a lot of guys are very clueless. U seem to believe women only get pleasure through penetration. U people should read. Understand women and stop being selfish. See all the nonsense am reading sha.



Op, try and read too. From a very young age I was told that women can brake their hymen through various ways wivout the actual act taking place. Number one, when a woman engages in sporting activities a lot, rigorous exercises, accidents, etc. It is possible ur own don break long long time ago. Doesn't mean u are not a virgin.

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

You endlessly finger-fuccked yourself with gusto and yet still have the guts to utter this rubbish, " fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad". Some women are heartless.

firstEVA:
abeg jor, it's penis that disvirgins nothing else.

Yu dey craze oooo

Wen once yu open up that poo place weda tru fingering or penising,uve disvirgin yasef..

Finish.

She is encouraging fingering

Nonsense

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

there is confusion among men on what is losing virginity

a virgin is someone who has never slept with a man/woman

then tearing that the hymen and going in for the 1st time might tear the flesh to bleed but not always

bleeding might because by inexperience the woman is not wet and relaxed therefore her body her body and mind are not relaxed so she is dry
and we force it and always in a rush

yes playing with yourself might tear the hymen/muscle and therefore even on the 1st day she wont bleed but she might feel the pain especially if your 3rd leg is wider than the toys she was using

firstEVA:
abeg jor, it's penis that disvirgins nothing else.

do you masturbate and still claim being a virgin? If ur answer is yes, then u are a tokunbor virgin

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

I am forced to talk because there is a misconception going on.
First of all, the hymen is a thin membrane surrounding the virGina, it's really thin. It doesn't cover the virginal otherwise there would be no passage for our menstrual flow.

Two, all women have different types of Hymen. For some, the hymen covers the whole virgina, for some, it covers around the walls in a perforated format of the virgina and for some others, its covers a half part of the virgina etc. (Please Google to see pictures and specific names).
2) For those whose hymen covers their whole vegee, surgical operation has to be done to remove it so that menstrual flow can flow and stuffs.

3, Depending on the size of the penis, if the penis were to be really big, and there would be lots of friction between the walls of the virgina, the hymen breaks or bleeds, hence blood comes out. If the penis is just the actual size of the veegee, and there is no friction, nothing happens to the hymen because it's afree entrance and the lady may not bleed at all. Sometimes, she may just give in to few drops of blood, sometimes no blood at all.

4, You have to educate your hubby. Well, maybe not you yourself but he has to undersrtand that it is not all women who bleed as virgins. Its a MYTH that's ALL VIRGINS bleed as virgins and its also unnecessary pressure to expect your wife to bleed as a virgin especially if you were not even a virgin yourself and so how does she even test yours? Please let him get some good godly sex books to read or google 'types of hymen' and he would see and understand properly.


5) You don't loose your virginirty or break your hymen while mastubating which is what you call self servicing. Except you dipped a sharp object into your hole.Mastubating makes you become a tLastly, I'd advise you stop this act. Harmless you think but if you wanna enjoy the real pleasures of sex with your hubby, then its wrong and its a sin to mastubate! I don't wanna go into details because this is not the koko of your post.

Please make sure you read well, google about the types of hymen. Its necessary if you'd need to educate your hubby. Remember it' be difficult to convince hinm of what you have no knowedge about. Please ensure you know. Then you both can come together and explore and enjoy the wonders of your body.Technical virgin' Techincal virgings are those who have all sorts of sex styles or mental pictures of sex In their head but not physically had sex that is, not the actual penetration if a penis. They also service themselves to give them the pleasure that meeting with a man would give them.

6) Lastly, I'd advise you stop this act! Harmless you think but if you wanna enjoy the real pleasures of sex with your hubby, then its wrong and its a sin to mastubate! I don't wanna go into details because this is not the koko of your post.

Please make sure you read well, google about the types of hymen. Its necessary if you'd need to educate your hubby. Remember it' be difficult to convince him of what you have no knowedge about. Please ensure you know. Then you both can come together and explore and enjoy the wonders of your body.

I hope this helps.

Bring him before my shrine to swear before etefia ndem ikono so that he will believe u. But if u are guilty u will pay me 200,000 naira