The couple in question are both under 40, the husband is a banker while the wife is into business things. The man calls the wife and tells her that he has been chosen by his father to be the next king of a town at Ijebu. They are both christians, the wife is totally against the idea, but the man wants to be king. The wife is afraid he might marry another wife in the long run, she is scared her husband may go into occult in the process, the issue has generated so much debate and raised so much dust. Should the man resign from the bank and accept coronation,with all its consequences which includes but not limited to marrying more wives, occultism etc. Or should he yield to his wife's cry to forget about kingship, continue with his bank job. Pls advice

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seyi360:
The couple in question are both under 40, the husband is a banker while the wife is into business things. The man calls the wife and tells her that he has been chosen by his father to be the next king of a town at Ijebu. They are both christians, the wife is totally against the idea, but the man wants to be king. The wife is afraid he might marry another wife in the long run, she is scared her husband may go into occult in the process, the issue has generated so much debate and raised so much dust. Should the man resign from the bank and accept coronation,with all its consequences which includes but not limited to marrying more wives, occultism etc. Or should he yield to his wife's cry to forget about kingship, continue with his bank job. Pls advice

Become a king in his 30's
No offence but it's bullshyte
That's what he's gonna do till he dies mehn
Taaaaahhhhhhh


If he wants it, his wife cannot stop him
If she does, that marriage will not remain the same again as he'll start seeing her as enemy of progress

alutacontinua:


Become a king in his 30's
No offence but it's bullshyte
That's what he's gonna do till he dies mehn
Taaaaahhhhhhh


If he wants it, his wife cannot stop him
If she does, that marriage will not remain the same again as he'll start seeing her as enemy of progress

Awujale of Ijebuland became a king at 27, at the time was brought from the UK.

There are many other kings who became king at young age. It is not about age but the will of the gods...

The wife should be bothered about other things than her husband marrying a second wife. There are other more important issues that she will deal with than second wife.

Merry Christmas.

If shes scared of polygamy then she should advice her husband not to take the crown or else she is on for a lonnnng thing

bellong:


Awujale of Ijebuland became a king at 27, at the time was brought from the UK.

There are many other kings who became king at young age. It is not about age but the will of the gods...

The wife should be bothered about other things than her husband marrying a second wife. There are other more important issues that she will deal with than second wife.

Merry Christmas.

u r dere talking of 27yrs, d chancellor of unilorin became d egwe of his town at d age of 12. Though, i av 4got d his state n town name sha.he studied abroad den came back to retain his position.Tell ur frd nt to use jealous spoil dis man's greatness.dia r many kings dat av one wife na, dat depends on who his husband is. Dis type of opportunity comes one in a lifetime.ur frd shd be at peace with him since he didn't fought 4 it,it was given to him. She shd be worried abt many oda tins dan polygamy self.

bellong:


Awujale of Ijebuland became a king at 27, at the time was brought from the UK.

There are many other kings who became king at young age. It is not about age but the will of the gods...

The wife should be bothered about other things than her husband marrying a second wife. There are other more important issues that she will deal with than second wife.

Merry Christmas.

Interesting

It's not only polygamy she should be worried about, being a king here usually involves him performing some duties to whatever local deity his people worship

bellong:


Awujale of Ijebuland became a king at 27, at the time was brought from the UK.

There are many other kings who became king at young age. It is not about age but the will of the gods...

The wife should be bothered about other things than her husband marrying a second wife. There are other more important issues that she will deal with than second wife.

Merry Christmas.

I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm only saying it's bullshyte

The coronation rite is something not too good for a Christian. It portrays occultism. Sometimes, the to be crown king carries sacrifice and bows before idols etc. A lot of things are involve o. But why does his father wants him to become king? his he afraid? or he feels he's too old? As For me o, if they would agree to crown him without passing through demonic initiations and eating all sort of concortions, he should accept. But he should know that, all those demigods will fight back except he's a strong Christian that can liberate the throne from the grasp of demonic powers.

Haywhymido:
u r dere talking of 27yrs, d chancellor of unilorin became d egwe of his town at d age of 12. Though, i av 4got d his state n town name sha.he studied abroad den came back to retain his position.Tell ur frd nt to use jealous spoil dis man's greatness.Dis type of opportunity comes one in a lifetime.ur frd shd be at peace with him since he didn't fought 4 it,it was given to him.

The igwe was enthroned at age 5 not 12..

alutacontinua:


I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm only saying it's bullshyte

Its not yet a shit... Its a dung...

bellong:


The igwe was enthroned at age 5 not 12..

thank u 4 d correction

bellong:


The igwe was enthroned at age 5 not 12..

bia, how you come know all of them like this?
you sure say you no dey campaign for kingship at Saki?

Haywhymido:
u r dere talking of 27yrs, d chancellor of unilorin became d egwe of his town at d age of 12. Though, i av 4got d his state n town name sha.he studied abroad den came back to retain his position.Tell ur frd nt to use jealous spoil dis man's greatness.dia r many kings dat av one wife na, dat depends on who his husband is. Dis type of opportunity comes one in a lifetime.ur frd shd be at peace with him since he didn't fought 4 it,it was given to him. She shd be worried abt many oda tins dan polygamy self.

Dein Of Agbor
Delta State

alutacontinua:


bia, how you come know all of them like this?
you sure say you no dey campaign for kingship at Saki?

Have you forgotten I am the high priest?

I understand her fears.

There are so many christian traditional rulers

I don't see the issue here


The throne does not change people neither does money or advancement

Its what is therein that is brought forth

If he is convinced go ahead and help your people

seyi360:
The couple in question are both under 40, the husband is a banker while the wife is into business things. The man calls the wife and tells her that he has been chosen by his father to be the next king of a town at Ijebu. They are both christians, the wife is totally against the idea, but the man wants to be king. The wife is afraid he might marry another wife in the long run, she is scared her husband may go into occult in the process, the issue has generated so much debate and raised so much dust. Should the man resign from the bank and accept coronation,with all its consequences which includes but not limited to marrying more wives, occultism etc. Or should he yield to his wife's cry to forget about kingship, continue with his bank job. Pls advice

LET HER GO INTO PRAYERS.



GOD IS STILL IN THE BUZINESS OF ANSWERING PRAYERS, ESPECIALLY SINCERE ONES LIKE THIS TYPE THAT WILL COME FROM SOMEBODY'S WIFE; FOR THE GOOD OF GOD'S OWN INSTITUTION(MARRIAGE)

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seyi360:
The couple in question are both under 40, the husband is a banker while the wife is into business things. The man calls the wife and tells her that he has been chosen by his father to be the next king of a town at Ijebu . They are both christians, the wife is totally against the idea, but the man wants to be king. The wife is afraid he might marry another wife in the long run, she is scared her husband may go into occult in the process, the issue has generated so much debate and raised so much dust. Should the man resign from the bank and accept coronation,with all its consequences which includes but not limited to marrying more wives, occultism etc. Or should he yield to his wife's cry to forget about kingship, continue with his bank job. Pls advice

This is a fake story.

In yoruba land kings are chosen by king makers.

@ juman, If u dont have any advice for the woman, i"ll appreciate your exit from the thread

So because of her selfish purpose,she should stop her hubby form becoming a king..

Women at times are funny,they want a successful man,yet won't want the things associated with the success..

she's just enemy of progress.

Yomieluv:
So because of her selfish purpose,she should stop her hubby form becoming a king..

Women at times are funny,they want a successful man,yet won't want the things associated with the success..

she's just enemy of progress.

She has every right to be concerned bro. Let's not act like we do not know what these traditional ruling exposes one to. She didn't sign up for this. Same way some wives do not want their husbands to go into Nigerian politics. And please success is relative. Some people just want an easy-going lifestyle.. She obviously doesn't want to be associated with this kind of success.

That said, if the husband is determined to accept it, there's nothing she can do from stopping him. She will just need to support him the way she can and be a prayer warrior too.

cytochromeC:


She has every right to be concerned bro. Let's not act like we do not know what these traditional ruling exposes one to. She didn't sign up for this. Same way some wives do not want their husbands to go into Nigerian politics. And please success is relative. Some people just want an easy-going lifestyle.. She obviously doesn't want to be associated with this kind of success.

That said, if the husband is determined to accept it, there's nothing she can do from stopping him. She will just need to support him the way she can and be a prayer warrior too.

tell me she won't be happy,if the hubby is eventually made the king.

She will,who doesn't like good thing,or position of authority?

She is only concerned about the marrying of more wives,else she won't object it..

There are many kings married to one wife,its all about one personal orientation,and belief.

Resign to be a king? Hmmm

I sometimes see that kinda life boring. No offence.

But with what we see on nollywood,if that's what they actually do;settling cases here and there,wearing one kain thing for head,may be its very heavy seff,so many protocols,and he wouldn't tell me he won't consult ''ifa'' when that's what the people may be use to.

He might not take a new wife though 'cause there are kings with just a wife but
I don't buy the idea of the whole kindship stuff.

Better still,if what he wants is to be a leader,advice him to join politics. E better pass

Yomieluv:
So because of her selfish purpose,she should stop her hubby form becoming a king..

Women at times are funny,they want a successful man,yet won't want the things associated with the success..

she's just enemy of progress.

lol@bolded.
It's not everyone that fancies being the wife of a king y'know.
It's a different kinda life from what they use to live.

Who knows,may be they even intermarried. So she might not be comfortable with it.

Yomieluv:
tell me she won't be happy,if the hubby is eventually made the king.

She will,who doesn't like good thing,or position of authority?

She is only concerned about the marrying of more wives,else she won't object it..

There are many kings married to one wife,its all about one personal orientation,and belief.

lol. How can you be so certain she will? Some people love low-key lives trust me, she might just be one of them. You see it as a good thing, she doesn't. She's comfortable with her hubby being a banker, she enjoys their privacy that way.

And even though she isn't only concerned about the multiple wives possibility(from the original post, she's concerned about the occult practices too) she is right to be concerned about that too. It isn't about being selfish. If you sign up for monogamy and you see an act that might encourage polygamy in your household, you should be bothered.

Would you just accept it if your wife comes home to inform you that she will be crowned the next traditional ruler? And go through some rites?

I understand her fears.

cytochromeC:


lol. How can you be so certain she will? Some people love low-key lives trust me, she might just be one of them. You see it as a good thing, she doesn't. She's comfortable with her hubby being a banker, she enjoys their privacy that way.

And even though she isn't only concerned about the multiple wives possibility(from the original post, she's concerned about the occult practices too) she is right to be concerned about that too. It isn't about being selfish. If you sign up for monogamy and you see an act that might encourage polygamy in your household, you should be bothered.

Would you just accept it if your wife comes home to inform you that she will be crowned the next traditional ruler? And go through some rites?

I understand her fears.

aside the ritualism in kingship,I see no biggie the hubby becoming a king..

Even most of the ritualism are even outdated,and ousted due to civilization..

To be frank,she's not concerned about the ritualism,she's only concerned about the perceived many "wives"

I feel her grievances sha.

cytochromeC:


She has every right to be concerned bro. Let's not act like we do not know what these traditional ruling exposes one to. She didn't sign up for this. Same way some wives do not want their husbands to go into Nigerian politics. And please success is relative. Some people just want an easy-going lifestyle.. She obviously doesn't want to be associated with this kind of success.

That said, if the husband is determined to accept it, there's nothing she can do from stopping him. She will just need to support him the way she can and be a prayer warrior too.

Well said.

Funny woman.

seyi360:
The couple in question are both under 40, the husband is a banker while the wife is into business things. The man calls the wife and tells her that he has been chosen by his father to be the next king of a town at Ijebu. They are both christians, the wife is totally against the idea, but the man wants to be king. The wife is afraid he might marry another wife in the long run, she is scared her husband may go into occult in the process, the issue has generated so much debate and raised so much dust. Should the man resign from the bank and accept coronation,with all its consequences which includes but not limited to marrying more wives, occultism etc. Or should he yield to his wife's cry to forget about kingship, continue with his bank job. Pls advice

She aint even bothered cos of religion but cos of maybe he would marry a second wife. Why are women always talking about second wife or cheating issues?

Simple advice, if u think u won't be able to stand it if he becomes a King and marries a second wife then Divorce him already please.