theunusualmoon:
Log out of Nairaland,walk into your parents' room and let the cat out of the bag.

missdebs:
hah, u won cause gobey, op i thnk u shuld keep dis info confidential as she chose to disclose this to u and keep prayin nd encouragin ha

isacolukay:
What do u need nairaland for?
U no get homies wey fit dey with u make una go run d guy down?
Beat 2015 out of the bastard till he makes a confession and use the same confession to arrest his uncontrollable d.i.ckhead.

sexyseun:
Rape case is very delicate and as such that's why we usually conceal it. The moment you tell someone you were raped(mostly guys that aren't blood related) they start nursing illicit ideas of eating their own cake too(talking from experience) My advice is for the girl should tell her parents so they can contact the police.

captcochrane:
26th of december? and has missed her period?

abeg, try again later

isacolukay:
What do u need nairaland for?
U no get homies wey fit dey with u make una go run d guy down?
Beat 2015 out of the bastard till he makes a confession and use the same confession to arrest his uncontrollable d.i.ckhead.

dhabeautyjas:
hmmm, this is very sad.
but pls, dont let her conceal it. Personal problems like this has reduced effect if she gets justice.
Also, the guy must be allowed to face the music of his crime.
she needs to go to a standard hospital for thorough check up.
G*d works in mysterious ways, i wish she keeps the baby, it may be her saving grace in life.
G*d will help and heal her physically and psycologically

I want to use this medium to talk to all parents, pls lets get very close to our wards so we can be able to partake in their lives fully.

donkelz:
My cousin just told me few minutes ago that she was raped on 26th December, last year by a male childhood friend that she went visiting.

She was a virgin and she's traumatized by the incidence. Am the only one that she's told about it and am short of words because;

#1 Its almost two weeks it occurred, without anyone being aware;

#2 She bathed and washed the clothes she wore during the incidence because it was bloody, thereby wiping off every evidence;

#3 She's missed her period, which means she is/might be pregnant;

#4 She's thinking of killing the baby or herself to avoid the shame and

#5 She's the only child.

Nairalanders, please I need honest advice, am so sad and dumbfounded about this tragedy.

N:B Mods please frontpage, I need urgent solutions, advices and recommendations fast!

samflexxy:
This one strong
First and foremost why didn't she report the case immediately? Am examination would have been done to know if she was really raped.
Now she might be pregnant, I think nonetheless she should still report the case to the authorities they are ways you can get the guy to confess he raped your cousin. She can go visiting again and record all there conversation and table that as an evidence



Kiling her self/baby is not the solution she has no choice than to keep the baby the boys parent will be responsible for the affairs of the child


Pls in case you need more advice on this issue mention me or pm me

veave:




i swear. block d goat for dark lonely corner. carry recorder go dia. beat craze commot for e head first...

if e see woman next time, e go tear race..

5minsmadness:
She had sex on the 26th and Ten days later she has missed her period? Hmmmn.


Anyway, rape cases are delicate in that you need evidence to show she was actually raped. Most girls that get disvirgined even after agreed/consensual sex feel guilty soon afterwards, especially if it wasn't as good as they were expecting. Some of them feel so bad they turn around to say they were raped because that eases the guilt.

However, even if she was raped you have to look out for signs of a struggle. Did she have scratches or bites or was she bleeding from anywhere else apart from her vagina? If she had gone to hospital immediately they would have checked for all these.

She may also have contracted a sexual disease.

The main issue now is that legally its her word against his unless he confesses to raping her.
She should do a pregnancy test to check if she really is pregnant.

Ask her if she wants you to arrange guys to beat him up. Wether her response is yes or no, ask her to explain her response. Watch her body language. I have arranged for police to arrest a rapist before only for the girl to say I should stop that she has forgiven him. In one week they were in a relationship again.


All the best.

SAMBARRY:
She should do (D)og and (C)at to save the child of transfered aggression much more it is an unplanned and unwanted child who the circumstances surrounding its conception is not pleasant to the ears. How will the child feel if he was told the father is a r@pist


you people should quit all this hypocrisy jare. After all the yorubas say when there is peace in a home its because the bastard there hasn't grown. Abi you think children don't take after their spam donors in character

missdebs:
hah, u won cause gobey, op i thnk u shuld keep dis info confidential as she chose to disclose this to u and keep prayin nd encouragin ha