HUSBAND SCARCITY!
This may not be the best time for me to
write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I
can no
longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has
become one of the challenges faced by
many
young girls today. If you go to prayer
houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers
and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or,
maybe there were
more men than women then, or there
was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the
women had
values and were prepared to build a
home and not
park into a built home. Then, once a young man
comes of age and can at least feed
himself and his
wife, he goes out in search of a wife
and the
woman really appreciates him and helps him to
build a future. What am I really trying to
say? We
created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity"
for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask
an average girl to define her dream
husband; you
get things like "he has to be tall,
handsome, fair,
and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in
order not to sound so worldly. Then,
check the
number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and you will
see the
problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in
my father's
house and then go and start suffering with a man."
What a wonderful dream! What if from
the
beginning, you have everything you
want and
there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one
prays for
suffering, but it is good to start small
and end big, than start
big and end small. The problem is that
the
description majority
of girls give of their ideal man is
virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same
kind of man
and the man that fits what they want is
just 1
man, and the man can only pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply
start lamenting
of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is
hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a man
who is of marriage age who possesses
all those
things these ladies want, legally
(except those
involved in Internet fraud); even the number of
those in Internet fraud is not enough
to match all
those searching for already made
husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready
to build a home with a man who has
prospects,
are married and not complaining of husband
scarcity. The easiest way to find a
husband now,
is to change your view of who a
husband is. A
husband is that man God made and then saw that
it may be hard for him to really
actualize his
purpose for making him, without a
help mate and
then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS
NOT A
POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a
mission
of building the family of God here on earth. For
those who see marriage as a way out
of poverty, it
is a way into bondage. Women are
HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS
DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route
to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow.
Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST
MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
alleviating
"husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT
VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick
anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage,
not all men
are husband materials. What I am
saying is that you should stop setting your standard
on material
acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond
the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO
HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE
LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.

me i dey look for wife ooooo

some of our ladies choose alot.i hope dey learn from dos already older

there is no husband scarcity

the ladies are just looking for too much in a guy and dat make dem remain single and unmarried.

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Another female basher on d prowl...hmmm

This comes to mind.

Lovely write -up