This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretation, but I can no
longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls today. If you
go toprayer houses, majority of the intentions are
prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers
and grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were
more men than women then,
or there was an adequate corresponding numbers
of both genders. I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values and were
prepared to build a home and not park into a built
home. Then, once a young man comes of age and
can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out
in search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What am I really trying to say?
We created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl
to define her dream husband; you get things like "he
has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then she adds
"God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and you will
see the problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's
house and then go and start suffering with a
man."What a wonderful dream!
What if from the beginning, you have everything you
want and there is no suffering, and later in the
marriage, the table turns around, then comes
suffering?
Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end small.
The problem is that the description majority of girls
give of their ideal man is virtually the same.
When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the
man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the
man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49
others?
They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the
economic reality to find a man who is of marriage
age who possesses the qualities these ladies want
legitimately (except those involved in Internet fraud/
scam, 419); even the number of those into fraud are
not enough to match all those searching for already
made husbands. If you look around, majority of the
ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready
to build a home with a man who has prospects, are
married and not complaining of husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is.
A husband is that man God made and then saw that
it may be hard for him to really actualize his
purpose for making him without
a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and
fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of
God here on earth.
For those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME
BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE
A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be
tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE
ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and proceed into marriage. Not all
men are husband materials!
What I am saying is that you should stop setting
your standard on material acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond the
physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE
OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS. IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE
UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times,
not seen with the physical eyes. Only its effects can
be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever
is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did
not just make Eve for making sake. He made her
for Adam's need to be met

What will be will be. I believe in destiny,and some women don't realize that early

ikeepitreal:
What will be will be. I believe in destiny,and some women don't realize that early

yea vry true