In many parts of Nigeria, it is common practice for families to have a house help/maid (sometimes a relative) who assists madam with domestic chores, while oga concentrates on being the main breadwinner - never cooks or cleans anything. However, we're also seeing a category of men who wouldn't mind helping in domestic things.

So, assuming money isn't much of an issue:

Ladies, would you rather have a maid help out on house duties, or your husband?

Men, why would (or wouldn't) you help your wife with the domestic chores?

I wont be the first to comment. Let others talk first.

No, I don't want a maid. I pray I will be able to get things done myself

I dnt wish to marry a wife dat wil b lazy in d kitchen wether she has a maid or not

asadike:
No, I don't want a maid. I pray I will be able to get things done myself

Even if that involves combining it with regular daytime work?

Having a house help depends on the fate that befalls one and the way one plan to live his or her life. I and my wife decided long before marriage that we will have only two kids and BC of that we packaged our life to that. No housemaid.
However some may get themselves a tasking job after so many years of searching and telling them to carry all burden in the house without a help maid will be a hard advice.

I'd rather have a housekeeper so I have more time with my husband and the kids. The help is not just the help for the woman but for the family.

petikal:

Even if that involves combining it with regular daytime work?

yes dear, all it need is my determination.

Shared responsibilities among couples will be largely dependent on the vocations of the spouse's in a marital relationship in my opinion.
For instance, I'm an entrepreneur while my spouse is in paid employment with a business by the side. Most times during school sessions, I prepare the kids for school though we nave a daytime nanny. I'm very domesticated and help out with house chores as I can't stand a disorganized environment.

It depends on both spouses schedule. if your schedules are super tight, then getting a house keeper is the logical thing to do

I would go for a house help because of the following reasons:

- Doing house chores is boring (most of the time).

- I work a lot.

- I am quite fussy, I don't want to have discussions with him about how it should be done properly.

- We can use the after work time better (reading, going to the movies, out for dinner, watching TV, sport, just relax, play with kids if there are any...)

- Someone is given an employment opportunity.

There is no biggie helping out with house chores.
For example my wife has chose to stay home since the baby came and I don't think it is fair for her to be the one taking care of the baby and the house, so I got her a house help. But every weekend, I insist on cooking for the house and cleaning the kitchen cos I feel they do it all week long and I'm not always comfortable playing 'boss' when I'm at home and others are working. In fact this week, our help was ill and my wife cleans the house during the day and when I return home, I make dinner and clean the kitchen before I sleep for 3 days.
Ko si big deal n'be.

carefreewannabe:
I would go for a house help because of the following reasons:

- Doing house chores is boring (most of the time).

- I work a lot.

- I am quite fussy, I don't want to have discussions with him about how it should be done properly.

- We can use the after work time better (reading, going to the movies, out for dinner, watching TV, sport, just relax, play with kids if there are any...)

- Someone is given an employment opportunity.

Now I understand the reason for the monicker.

If you can get a househelp,then that helps to reduce the work for your wife.However,if there is no househelp,the hubby should help with domestic chores.

With or without a househelp,I still take care of domestic chores.There are just some ways i like things to be, so I get them done myself.

okotv:
Now I understand the reason for the monicker.

Really? Explain.

carefreewannabe:


Really? Explain.

the second to the last paragraph says it all. You just want to be care free.

A little help wouldn't hurt.

Househelp or husbandhelp the important thing is that the woman gets help. Although nothing beats a husbandhelp. Doing chores together can be fun.

I don't believe in babysitters, or house-help. Strange since they actually exist, right?

For how long?
With all those children being bred out of joblessness in AFRICA?
It gets to a certain stage. . . YOU CAN'T EVEN STAND FOR MORE THAN 2 hours in the NIGERIAN HEAT!
Or wash your own FILTHY car with all the NASTY roads all over Nigeria.

Have you ever been to BALOGUN or ONITSHA market BY YOURSELF?
We will always need house-helps IN NIGERIA!!!

As you get older and more BUSY with work. . . YOU WILL NEED HOUSE-HELPS.
At least for once a week!

JUST PAY THEM WELL. . . AND LET THEM HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO PURSUE THEIR DREAMS IN LIFE BY ASSISTING THEM.
They are not slaves!!!!

KanwuliaJara:

JUST PAY THEM WELL. . . AND LET THEM HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO PURSUE THEIR DREAMS IN LIFE BY ASSISTING THEM.
They are not slaves!!!!

That's another thing. The reality is that many of these househelps aren't paid well - some not at all. Sure, you may take care of their academics/shelter and feed them, but that's what most'll get!

petikal:


That's another thing. The reality is that many of these househelps aren't paid well - some not at all. Sure, you may take care of their academics/shelter and feed them, but that's what most'll get!

They are maltreated and oppressed, because big ogas and madams want PERMANENT slaves with no ambitions.
Pathetic!

I would help my wife with the chores. I really have issues with sharing intimate space. We'd have to have a big house and a heavy load of responsibilities to get household employees. Even then I'd be glad to help her with any planning and administration if she needs it.

KanwuliaJara:


They are maltreated and oppressed, because big ogas and madams want PERMANENT slaves with no ambitions.
Pathetic!

when u start treating them nicely they start misbehaving

petikal:


That's another thing. The reality is that many of these househelps aren't paid well - some not at all. Sure, you may take care of their academics/shelter and feed them, but that's what most'll get!

Please is this any different from what children of the house get? What else is there?

If the maid is not in school however ensuring the person also learns a skill or trade while with you is highly beneficial as it empowers the person for the future, the maid work has no future career. Personally i employ only people above 20 for that work no child abuse tins.

I cannot cope with the work alone, i go old. Husband is not the type inclined to help and i would not even bother asking him...fight tins. If one has a spouse that is inclined to domestic work then all good, they can cope without a help.

This is why slavery will continue to thrive no matter what modern name we call it to soothe our conscience.

What kind of chore do you have in your house that both of you(husband and wife) cannot handle by yourself? Being lazy has become so fashionable in this generation that despite the increase in gadgets to make life easier for people, they still complain that the workload is too much when in actual fact they just want to have more time to be carefree and enjoy the benefits of sitting at home doing nothing. Even staying up at night to care for their own children has become so much of a chore for them meanwhile when they were single they would work nine-to-five and still have time to go night clubbing till 3am before resuming work the next day.


Lazy and over-enjoyment generation.

Next thing they will say as long as the househelp is above 18 they can hire her to sweep thier house.

Please stop the hypocrisy and legalise slavery. Even slaves were taken care of and paid stipends for their labour.

But honestly, is a husband really 'helping' his wife with chores?

Is the wife really 'helping' her husband with finances?

@ OP:

If a husband is humble enough to bend down and clean up his house, they might not need a maid.

Some houses need helps sha.

ALSO when the couple is older, they would require help (when all the kids are out of the house)

Nmeri17:
when u start treating them nicely they start misbehaving

That is the truth unfortunately.
It is a hopeless situation!
Real catch 22!

KanwuliaJara:


That is the truth unfortunately.
It is a hopeless situation!
Real catch 22!

its not . push them to the wall!! its not like they're on a vacation

Nmeri17:
its not . push them to the wall!! its not like they're on a vacation

Great.
Good luck to you.

So having a help absolves one of responsibilities? Naija mentality!

Abeg, treat your helps well. Find out their dreams, help them push it and believe me, they will lay their lives for you