Mynd44:
When your husband says something that hurts you and makes you cry, cry to his face so he knows what his words mean.

TTNI:
Its my first time on nairaland, dont like ere much but am here because of how I feel now. Its not like I eat much but there are some certain foods wen I eat I eat it well. Now my appetiete seems to be increasing, I dont know Its because am a breastfeeding mum, my son feeds alot,once I breastfeed him eventhough I just ate I immediately feel hungry again. I dont know if its me or there mums with such change in their diet due to breastfeeding. Please share with me, may be it will stip my husband from making my life miserable.
Yesterday I bought myself a loaf of bread, I ate a quater of it, my husband didnt seem interested but wen he saw me eating I think he got interested. HE said I should serve him some and I said d rest wont satisfy him so I offered to make him something else. Thats how I became his huge topic. He lamented and lamented and ended it saying ,"you eat like a thief" and also said my tommy has grown bigger due to too much eating. If I had my way i would post a photo of me , I am sexy and fit as a lady who has never had kids, men still make passes at me so sorry to say that, and even women walk up to me and admire my shape, am not saying I av a totally flat tommy, but after two kids still looking this way then I tried. Those words hurt me so much that I went into d kitchen and cried. I felt really bad, you know it gets to a point where u just feel its not necessary to tell him how u feel about something he just said or did. So I just moved on acting strong. But I tell u since then I dont eat around him, even if I will eat in d same plate with him I would just take 2_ 3 spoons and leave. And am almost having Inferiority complex like am nt good enough or appealing to him. I am beautiful in my own way but I dont know if he still sees me that way.
I want hear breastfeeding mums lifestyle to diet. So I can compare to mine to know whete and how to fix me. Cos I know my appetite wasnt this bad, I had d appetite quiet alright but not this much. Please mums share ur opinions with me.

ireneidiva:

You want a pity party right? You should be happy you married someone that tells you the truth. You may tell yourself now that you are still okay but if you continue to eat anyhow, you'll eventually be as fat as a cow. So you better watch what you eat and start working out.

ireneidiva:

You want a pity party right? You should be happy you married someone that tells you the truth. You may tell yourself now that you are still okay but if you continue to eat anyhow, you'll eventually be as fat as a cow. So you better watch what you eat and start working out.

tbaba1234:
Hmmm... your husband probably said that as a joke, you took offence and failed to communicate with him. Ladies are just complex creatures.

tbaba1234:
Hmmm... your husband probably said that as a joke, you took offence and failed to communicate with him. Ladies are just complex creatures.

bukatyne:


I hope you would not might if your wife said something like that to you in future

TTNI:
Those words hurt me so much that I went into d kitchen and cried. I felt really bad, you know it gets to a point where u just feel its not necessary to tell him how u feel about something he just said or did. So I just moved on acting strong. But I tell u since then I dont eat around him, even if I will eat in d same plate with him I would just take 2_ 3 spoons and leave. And am almost having Inferiority complex like am nt good enough or appealing to him. I am beautiful in my own way but I dont know if he still sees me that way.
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tbaba1234:


That I eat like a thief?? I doubt.

To be honest, when I first read it, I thought, it sounded like banter. Yabs.

If she took offense, let him know.Do not assume, he knows that he hurt you.

bukatyne:


You doubt your wife would tell you something like that?

Why?

Ujujoan:
Please don't take this the wrong way, but I think you need to listen to your husband.

Gluttony is a very unattractive trait, especially in women. You not only guzzled a quarter loaf of bread alone, you refused to share the remaining with him. Honestly, I don't think this is a one off thing. He must have noticed this trait in you and that incident is probably the last straw.

But he handled it badly, he should have spoken to you gently about it, instead of lashing out and hurting you.

Please wipe your tears and forgive him. And then learn to control your eating habits.

pickabeau1:


These words can kill someone sef
Na wa

OP... he may have meant it in a jocular manner
Tell him the words hurt you
Make corrections if any

Phema:
You were that hurt and you didn't tell him? How was he supposed to know that his words hurt you that much? He shouldn't have used those words. I'm hoping he didn't mean it that way. It just didn't come out right.

And nope! Breastfeeding is not a reason for gluttony. I know, cos I'm a nursing mother too. One feels so drained and hungry after each round of breastfeeding that you can eat a full goat. But, you've got to watch it.

You should also start working out. It doesn't matter what outsiders say about your figure. It doesn't matter how many guys make passes at you. What matters is that your hubby is not comfy with your tommy and you should be concerned.

Pele dear. Please don't feel so bad. I know how it can be when you're being blamed for "something he put you through".

mutter:
She didn`t want the kid`s?

Phema:


I'm very sure you noticed its in quote.

That is what many women in her situation say.