Mynd44:
When your husband says something that hurts you and makes you cry, cry to his face so he knows what his words mean.

mutter:
When I had one of my kid`s I put on allot of weight and was still in hospital. I asked my husband if he still liked me that way. He asked me if I thought he was a fool. I better loose that weight that I looked like a whale that had been stranded on Land
I busted out in tears and he tried to tell me it was a joke but he meant it.
He did me a favor because that is like an alarm bell that constantly rings in my head years later that I have to pay attention to my weight.
But that was hard especially from a man that hardly talks!

I think it is better that your husband tells you the truth than that, he goes behind your back looking for a woman that is more to his taste.
The fact that you are slim now is no excuse for you to have an unhealthy eating habit, breastfeeding is also not an excuse for gluttony.
You have two children congratulations! But when I complain about my weight my friends tell me, it is okay with the number of kid`s I have. But then is that written on my Forehead when you walk around! I have 2 Kid`s so I am allowed to be fat.

As to what you did! That is really ridiculous to say the least.
Your husband was probably not hungry but seeing you eating that bread, he got an appetite for the bread.
HE WANTED BREAD! and not something else.
So the 3/4 left over was not enough for him
You just wanted to hide it and eat it up all alone later. That was nasty of you.
IF you love your husband and he asks you for bread. You stop eating if it isn`t enough and give it to him.
That is what a woman that loves her husband would do. Even if he doesn't want to deprive you, you would insist that you have had enough.

Hope you are not eating out of frustration or boredom. I know some women who have gotten terribly fat that way and they were all skinny before

5minsmadness:

Rubbish. Is she a child? Is that what you do?

moca:
Phema,u r back?
Welcome.
U dint tell me that thing again
Forget mail. Can't access any.
Stylishly post it somewhere and beckon

ireneidiva:

You want a pity party right? You should be happy you married someone that tells you the truth. You may tell yourself now that you are still okay but if you continue to eat anyhow, you'll eventually be as fat as a cow. So you better watch what you eat and start working out.

Chillisauce:
Op, breastfeeding sucks all they nutrients and energy in you . Just try and replace your gluttony by eating healthy meals and snacks.
Don't mind people crucifying you, if you reduce your intake you might decrease the quantity of supply for your baby, or might faint one day.

Instead of eating half loaf of bread, replace it with protein . Learn about healthy eating, go for a walk outside with your baby. Like that you reduce the contact you have with food.

You can also introduce baby formula, at least it will help you retain some energy for yourself.

Hang on there, your healthy baby is more important. It's just 6months, baby will relieve you of that duty by eating solids.


as for your husband, just ignore him. You know some men can nag. He never know how Hungar dey wire person

Tiredwify:


why are people like this? Why the insult? It was totally out of place.
Someone comes to a public forum to share her story, fully stating her issues and what she needs information on; and the next thing to do is to hurl insults at her as if you have seen her before or knew her before she had her children. Haba! This is uncalled for. Just advice her and move on. She didn't say she needed a pity party. She was actually looking for a way to change her eating habit.

@OP, I had a baby 6 months ago, and my eating habit changed also. It happens. I am even pregnant again, and now it is worse. But you know what? I don't give a hoot. I am in a stage in my life when I will add weight. When the right time comes, I will shed the weight. The truth is that our body make-up is different, and the most important thing is to understand ourselves. I wouldn't say you should cut down on your food intake because your baby needs the nutrients, but try and reduce your intake of fatty foods and do light exercises. My dear, when the time comes, you will lose the weight. Love yourself for who you are, it is a great thing to be a mother!!!

mutter:
When I had one of my kid`s I put on allot of weight and was still in hospital. I asked my husband if he still liked me that way. He asked me if I thought he was a fool. I better loose that weight that I looked like a whale that had been stranded on Land
I busted out in tears and he tried to tell me it was a joke but he meant it.
He did me a favor because that is like an alarm bell that constantly rings in my head years later that I have to pay attention to my weight.
But that was hard especially from a man that hardly talks!

I think it is better that your husband tells you the truth than that, he goes behind your back looking for a woman that is more to his taste.
The fact that you are slim now is no excuse for you to have an unhealthy eating habit, breastfeeding is also not an excuse for gluttony.
You have two children congratulations! But when I complain about my weight my friends tell me, it is okay with the number of kid`s I have. But then is that written on my Forehead when you walk around! I have 2 Kid`s so I am allowed to be fat.

As to what you did! That is really ridiculous to say the least.
Your husband was probably not hungry but seeing you eating that bread, he got an appetite for the bread.
HE WANTED BREAD! and not something else.
So the 3/4 left over was not enough for him
You just wanted to hide it and eat it up all alone later. That was nasty of you.
IF you love your husband and he asks you for bread. You stop eating if it isn`t enough and give it to him.
That is what a woman that loves her husband would do. Even if he doesn't want to deprive you, you would insist that you have had enough.

Hope you are not eating out of frustration or boredom. I know some women who have gotten terribly fat that way and they were all skinny before

mutter:


I agree when the time comes

That is why I still have some cloths I don`t fit into 20 years later!
When the time comes I will slim into them.

Tiredwify:


why are people like this? Why the insult? It was totally out of place.
Someone comes to a public forum to share her story, fully stating her issues and what she needs information on; and the next thing to do is to hurl insults at her as if you have seen her before or knew her before she had her children. Haba! This is uncalled for. Just advice her and move on. She didn't say she needed a pity party. She was actually looking for a way to change her eating habit.

@OP, I had a baby 6 months ago, and my eating habit changed also. It happens. I am even pregnant again, and now it is worse. But you know what? I don't give a hoot. I am in a stage in my life when I will add weight. When the right time comes, I will shed the weight. The truth is that our body make-up is different, and the most important thing is to understand ourselves. I wouldn't say you should cut down on your food intake because your baby needs the nutrients, but try and reduce your intake of fatty foods and do light exercises. My dear, when the time comes, you will lose the weight. Love yourself for who you are, it is a great thing to be a mother!!!

Tiredwify:


Immediately I read this post, I knew it was Mutter that posted it. Haba! I have read some of your previous posts on other threads and it seems as if you are "Ruth"...if you know what I mean. For the fact that you are a "Ruth" does not mean that every other woman must be a "Ruth". Haba! We sha have our lives before we got married. Why would all my thoughts and decisions be based on my husband's satisfaction, even at my detriment. I beg, forget o! Husbands are not gods. They are humans like us. We treat them with respect, yes! But not with "fear and trembling". Please if that is your way of life, kindly stick to it; but stop castigating other women for not reasoning like you.

LordReed:
OP does not find it ironic that after being accused of eating like a thief she goes to the kitchen to find solace? Not the bedroom, not the bathroom but the kitchen. OP check yourself, you too like food.

mutter:


Please what has that got to do with it and as different a we are we all have some things in common.

- going down memory lane.
I remember as a kid if you did not want to share something with someone we would do like we are spitting on it and then say "take". The other person will reject it and someone close like your sister would say "give it to me still".
- I remember how we would share food in the village from a tray with other kids. That was much more fun than eating from your plate at home.
- i remember biting a sweet in two to share it with friends.
- sharing cabin biscuit and egg at school.

Life was all about sharing.
Sometimes i and my husband share things like a mango. You need to see the big argument on who took the bigger part and who is cheating who. That is the joy of sharing. That is part of the fun and joy of being in love.

angeldupe:


God bless you Chillisauce, best advise so far.
@op, pls don't try to diet now o. I am a nursing mother with similar experience but mine is the opposite. I told my hubby that I won't be eating everytime I am hungry so that I won't get fat. He warned me seriously that I must not do that now.
Please eat lot of vegetables and drink a lot of fluid.

cococandy:
lol.

Tiredwify:



@OP, I had a baby 6 months ago, and my eating habit changed also. It happens. I am even pregnant again, and now it is worse. But you know what? I don't give a hoot. I am in a stage in my life when I will add weight. When the right time comes, I will shed the weight. The truth is that our body make-up is different, and the most important thing is to understand ourselves. I wouldn't say you should cut down on your food intake because your baby needs the nutrients, but try and reduce your intake of fatty foods and do light exercises. My dear, when the time comes, you will lose the weight. Love yourself for who you are, it is a great thing to be a mother!!!

Tiredwify:


I understand your story. I share too. In my house, we don't eat alone. My husband and I eat together. We share meat, fish, etc. Just like we practice, we share 3 pieces of meat...not that we cannot take four, but that has been the practice even while we were courting. Now, understand my drift, there are times that he eats two pieces of meat out of the three...I understand there and then that it is probably he likes the soup or he likes the type of "protein" I cooked; and there are times that I eat two out of three or even times when I eat like two while cooking and I give him one. He doesn't crucify me for it. That is how life should be. There are times that the partner might want to take it all, allow him/her, don't whine or crucify him or her. Haba! We've got one life to live jare.

LordReed:
OP does not find it ironic that after being accused of eating like a thief she goes to the kitchen to find solace? Not the bedroom, not the bathroom but the kitchen. OP check yourself, you too like food.

Chillisauce:


Make you dey laugh, you no no how e go be for you.

You can't control hormones. You can try but sometimes you just see yourself doing things you never envisaged

naijaboiy:
In this thread,,instead of them to advice you they'll leave the topic at hand and face your husband.

Others will tell you to leave your marriage.

cococandy:
i know jare but that comment was funny.

Chillisauce:


I will be here to laugh with you. When you see yourself stealing chicken from pot because you are so hungry that you could eat a cow.
For me, breastfeeding is worst than pregnancy.
pregnancy was like the food hanging on my throat but breastfeeding, it's like you are now on empty stomach as baby is out.

my dear, after 3 months, I jack formula give o. No be me wan die

Chillisauce:


I will be here to laugh with you. When you see yourself stealing chicken from pot because you are so hungry that you could eat a cow.
For me, breastfeeding is worst than pregnancy.
pregnancy was like the food hanging on my throat but breastfeeding, it's like you are now on empty stomach as baby is out.

my dear, after 3 months, I jack formula give o. No be me wan die