if u happen 2 know ur man has a mistress,how will u handle her or d situation?

Welcome her to the family. Less sexual responsibility for you

i don't think i can handle somthing like dat so i'll rather leave him to figure out what he wants

I have friends that are going through that now.(the age is right)
If the man is bent on keeping her there is nothing they can do about it.
They stay or they go.
Funny enough  its Africans.
The wife will rent and rave the police will come and go. Because no one will say whats going on. Or why they are fighting.
Till they are fed up of fighting.

My husband has a mistress!?!

. . .didn't even know I was married. . .


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Well firstly, I'd stopped having marital relations with him. I guess my self drive is really high, I'd leave him so I could find someone else to have marital relations with. Kicking him out of my (our?) house would somewhere in there.

If I was older & filthy rich, I'd buy a loft & move myself in. One day he'd come home & be very surprised. . .

chinani:

If I was older & filthy rich, I'd buy a loft & move myself in. One day he'd come home & be very surprised. . .

but b4 he comes back?

It mostly happens to women with half grown kids

olunifemi:

but before he comes back?

I meant that I'd do this slowly over several weeks but uh yea it's not really a realistic game plan. On the realer side, I'd just do what was best for me.

I guess you have to go down on your kness and tell God

Pray i don't have to deal with any.

well, i guess i'll say she is welcome to him, if i have kids when this happen, i'll just pray and hope that once the novelty wears out he'll do thesame to her, once a cheat always a cheat. I have no time for cheats,i'll leave him. My mother taught me that, she didnt stand for it and now she is in such a loving marriage with another, there is absolutely no need to put myself through crap for any mortal.

True talk Euphoria.

Chinani!!!!!! True talk Euphoria?mmmmm i keep wondering.Is there a guaranty that the next husband wouldn't do something worse?If u find yrself there  pray and be good.God will turn him around.
Just look good and get busy!Make sure you take good care of yourself.With his money though!
As for the mistress,let her be the fool act like she's inconsequential.

Thatz right, prayer is the only thing to do
remember PRAYER CHANGES THINGS

This is every woman's nightmare,
I will not handle the mistress at all,
I will handle him, ie once confirmed i will leave him. Period.

so u got to wait for him to change plssssssssssssssssss sorry can't wait for no man cos he is a man i got to suffer

first of all b4 i get married d guy gon know me very well. all my likes and dislikes wat makes me tick and wat makes me go crazy. I'm gon be giving him wat he wants so he's not gon look elsewhere 4 it.

but lets just say it happened i don't have beef with d gurl cept 4 if she knows he's married and still went out with him anywayz then she gon know wat crazy really looks like. i don't respect women who gon be dating other peeps husband. and d guy better not come home d day i know cuz i'm not gon be responsible 4 wat i do.
after i'm done the so called mistress gon be d one dumping him and if a guy i love would hurt me dat way then we not 4 each other. he better get a good lawyer too.

I won't handle anyone. I'll just simply "dash" him to her and get myself a better life. No cheat is worth the effort, and life's much too interesting to live in misery  . And yeah, he'll be needing a good lawyer too

:d

tough question,it should be how do i handle both of them 

damygurl:

first of all before i get married d guy gon know me very well. all my likes and dislikes what makes me tick and what makes me go crazy. I'm gon be giving him what he wants so he's not gon look elsewhere 4 it.

but lets just say it happened i don't have beef with d girl cept 4 if she knows he's married and still went out with him anywayz then she gon know what crazy really looks like. i don't respect women who gon be dating other peeps husband. and d guy better not come home d day i know because i'm not gon be responsible 4 what i do.
after i'm done the so called mistress gon be d one dumping him and if a guy i love would hurt me that way then we not 4 each other. he better get a good lawyer too.

ThoniaSlim:

tough question,it should be how do i handle both of them

so,how??

You really don't want to know ,anyway never mind cause am not telling you.

Clearly a lot of the ladies here (except maybe mamaput) nefer marry. i no dey easy oh!!! just pray that it does not happen - all the 'gra-gra' no go solve the problem.

i'll find a gun and shoot her for taking my place without my permission

haba how many times would you tell us any way congrats

why shoot her? did she rape your husband? or did he accidentally slip his willy in her kitten? or maybe she pursued him til he was too weak to run and she had her wicked way with him. Please no man is worth going to jail for and i would never lower myself to the point of getting physical with another woman over his thrifling ways now no way

@Eurphoria
AM with you 101% No body steals your man it always his choice or greed!

@ the topic
it not easy but i would have to talk it through with him and get the situation clear. But no matter my reaction she wont feel the heat from not to talk of the fire.

but slow and steady the guy would taste every letter of "Mental torture" .Though it will take God's grace, if he is not willing to end the relationship
_{(Usually gragra no dey work )}

euphoria . .i guess you are right . .

no damn man is worth going to prison for . .

truth is i'll leave both of them and move on with my life

Why leave both of them ? what if the the misteress is for a short while. esp'y when Men fall in and out of thier weakness
_{no saint anywhere}