hello all.
i am a career woman doing night duty most of the time,i presently do not have an househelp/nanny for fear of wat might be going on wen im not around.Going for night duty leaving my kids, with my hubby and housemaid brings so much tots to my mind.wat do i do?Not even this era of hubby and househelp digging it while u er not there.Really so afraid

How about your husband digging it with the neighbour when you are not there?

The phobia for househelps is unnecessary.

First you need to know the kind of man you married.You can also get a teenage househelp and not one that is full blown.
You should also treat househelps like your own daughter or sister and not like a slave.Showing someone love will make it hard for them to want to hurt you.

Lastly pray.You can ask God to bring the right people into your life.Bring helpers and indeed a good househelp.Also you can fix CCTV in your house to monitor activities.

Implant cctv cameras in your house , makes it easy for you to monitor what happens whenever you're not around.

vkoni:
hello all.
i am a career woman doing night duty most of the time,i presently do not have an househelp/nanny for fear of wat might be going on wen im not around.Going for night duty leaving my kids, with my hubby and housemaid brings so much tots to my mind.wat do i do?Not even this era of hubby and househelp digging it while u er not there.Really so afraid

You don't need a live in since you are there during the day. Just an older lady who comes to clean and go. No tempt the devil

vkoni:
hello all.
i am a career woman doing night duty most of the time,i presently do not have an househelp/nanny for fear of wat might be going on wen im not around.Going for night duty leaving my kids, with my hubby and housemaid brings so much tots to my mind.wat do i do?Not even this era of hubby and househelp digging it while u er not there.Really so afraid

Get someone closely related to your husband. Even at that, find sufficient time for ur hubby. Taking of being on nite duty "most of the time", I'm afraid you may hav to change your job. In any case, discuss it extensively within him, feel his pulse and also giv him an opportunity to appreciate how much you care.

there are 2 things involved either you change your job, or bring in a sexy house help so dat ur husband can b digging it wen u are at work.... chose one..

good luck

elantraceey:
Implant cctv cameras in your house , makes it easy for you to monitor what happens whenever you're not around.

And the house will be on 24 hour power supply?

More so, do you have any idea how much it takes to install CCTV cameras?

Installing four good cameras in the house will cost nothing less than a hundred and twenty thousand naira.

Anyway, OP, if this is your decision, contact me whenever you want to have your CCTV installed as it's what I do for a living. You can check my threads to see my previously done jobs.

As for steady power supply, an inverter might help.

PS: You can simply tell your husband you want CCTV installed so as to monitor the maid against maltreating your kids.

There have been so many stories on this issue for anyone to be afraid. I will advise you don't consider any since your mind is already against it. Even if nothing happens between them, your mind may not give you peace when you are at work. Just allow the thought of housemaid die and do your things your own way. God bless.

Provie:


Get someone closely related to your husband. Even at that, find sufficient time for ur hubby. Taking of being on nite duty "most of the time", I'm afraid you may hav to change your job. In any case, discuss it extensively within him, feel his pulse and also giv him an opportunity to appreciate how much you care.

Maybe she is a nurse? she did not say "most of the time" She just said she goes for night duty.

OP, if your hubby is not the skirt chasing type, get a young girl to help you around the house.
Like one poster said before, a girl that you will be a big sister to. Not a slave. Pkele. May God bless your hussle and your family.

elantraceey:
Implant cctv cameras in your house , makes it easy for you to monitor what happens whenever you're not around.

what kinda advice is dis? Ur asking her to defy her husband's privacy and supremacy as head of the family and snoop around without his consent. bad

Engrtemmy:


And the house will be on 24 hour power supply?

More so, do you have any idea how much it takes to install CCTV cameras?

Installing four good cameras in the house will cost nothing less than a hundred and twenty thousand naira.

Anyway, OP, if this is your decision, contact me whenever you want to have your CCTV installed as it's what I do for a living. You can check my threads to see my previously done jobs.

As for steady power supply, an inverter might help.

PS: You can simply tell your husband you want CCTV installed so as to monitor the maid against maltreating your kids.

my brother, cctv or not, a man will still do what he wanna. abi na evey nuke and cranny cctv wan cover. if I off my lights for midnight make cctv come see me na

delishpot:


Maybe she is a nurse? she did not say "most of the time" She just said she goes for night duty.
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Hello Friend, could you help me read out the first to second line of the Original Post Maybe my eyes are deceiving me.

lofty900:
my brother, cctv or not, a man will still do what he wanna. abi na evey nuke and cranny cctv wan cover. if I off my lights for midnight make cctv come see me na

Ignorance is bliss.

Infrared CCTV cameras can capture visions even in total darkness.

If you like, switch off the light of the whole street. As long as the camera is powered, it will capture visions.

And yes, cctv cameras can capture every nook and cranny of the house.

Provie:


Hello Friend, could you help me read out the first to second line of the Original Post Maybe my eyes are deceiving me.

My bad. I am sorry. Nor vex. Your eyes were not decieving you. Mine were

lofty900:
what kinda advice is dis? Ur asking her to defy her husband's privacy and supremacy as head of the family and snoop around without his consent. bad

Will she do that without her husband's consent before?

vkoni:
hello all.
i am a career woman doing night duty most of the time,i presently do not have an househelp/nanny for fear of wat might be going on wen im not around.Going for night duty leaving my kids, with my hubby and housemaid brings so much tots to my mind.wat do i do?Not even this era of hubby and househelp digging it while u er not there.Really so afraid

Waoh! This is truly a cause for concern o

How old are your kids? You are better off getting a live-in nanny - someone who reports in the morning and leaves at night.

delishpot:



My bad. I am sorry. Nor vex. Your eyes were not decieving you. Mine were

No hard feelings. Gud monin & have a great day.

OP,

since you have stated your fears......


then I expect you to stay off house help then

Engrtemmy:


Ignorance is bliss.

Infrared CCTV cameras can capture visions even in total darkness.

If you like, switch off the light of the whole street. As long as the camera is powered, it will capture visions.

And yes, cctv cameras can capture every nook and cranny of the house.

did u mention infrared camera in ur previous post? since u think u r smarter than everyone else, u should have talked about a better technology than cctv. ever heard about snoop devices? ignorance is bliss

lofty900:
did u mention infrared camera in ur previous post? since u think u r smarter than everyone else, u should have talked about a better technology than cctv. ever heard about snoop devices? ignorance is bliss

So, I have to mention infrared cameras?

Good you've learnt one or two things from the thread:

1. You didn't know CCTV cameras can capture in the dark.

2. You also didn't know CCTV cameras can capture every nook and cranny of the house.

That's enough for now. Now, saunter along.

Ooh wait. Snoop Devices? Can you mention one example of a snoop device and how it works?

This exactly is my problem with nairaland. You find kids who open their mouth to say things they know absolutely nothing about.

Engrtemmy:


So, I have to mention infrared cameras?

Good you've learnt one or two things from the thread:

1. You didn't know CCTV cameras can capture in the dark.

2. You also didn't know CCTV cameras can capture every nook and cranny of the house.

That's enough for now. Now, saunter along.

Ooh wait. Snoop Devices? Can you mention one example of a snoop device and how it works?

This exactly is my problem with nairaland. You find kids who open their mouth to say things they know absolutely nothing about.

I know cctv can capture every part of an apartment depending on the no of cameras. i also knw dat cctv can capture silhouettes of people in dark areas. snoop devices are more innovative, they use memory cards and very. powerful lenses for recording. have you seen d movie 'the wolf of wall street '? DiCaprio placed a Teddy bear on the bedside table but unknown to his wife,d Teddy's eyes were made of cameras . the Teddy is a snoop device, or whatever they choose to call it. go and upgrade ur self. be innovative in ur profession not old school

thorpido:
How about your husband digging it with the neighbour when you are not there?

The phobia for househelps is unnecessary.

First you need to know the kind of man you married.You can also get a teenage househelp and not one that is full blown.
YOU SHOULD ALSO TREAT YOUR HOUSE HELPS LIKE YOUR DAUGHTER OR SISTER.SHOWING SOMEONE LOVE WILL MAKE IT HARD FOR THEM TO WANT TO HURT YOU

Lastly pray.You can ask God to bring the right people into your life.Bring helpers and indeed a good househelp.Also you can fix CCTV in your house to monitor activities.

@ The capitalized story for the gods. Your treating them right doesn't determine or limit what they can do or what they will do so the best thing to do is to create an air of fear when they are with you so that if they are entertaining anything stooped the fear of what they know you can do to their bodies will not let them dare it. E.g plugging hot pressing iron on their body till the mark shows . rubbish!

SAMBARRY:
@ The capitalized story for the gods. Your treating them right doesn't determine or limit what they can do or what they will do so the best thing to do is to create an air of fear when they are with you so that if they are entertaining anything stooped the fear of what they know you can do to their bodies will not let them dare it. E.g plugging hot pressing iron on their body till the mark shows . rubbish!

Are you saying the threat of violence against maids is good?

SAMBARRY:
@ The capitalized story for the gods. Your treating them right doesn't determine or limit what they can do or what they will do so the best thing to do is to create an air of fear when they are with you so that if they are entertaining anything stooped the fear of what they know you can do to their bodies will not let them dare it. E.g plugging hot pressing iron on their body till the mark shows . rubbish!

You are right in saying that treating them right does not mean they will do right but it's the same with children.There are children who turn out bad despite the fact that their parents make all efforts to lead them right.

Experience has shown that high handedness and violence has seldom produced the desired result.

pickabeau1:



Are you saying the threat of violence against maids is good?

yes to scare them from perpetrating evil

thorpido:
You are right in saying that treating them right does not mean they will do right but it's the same with children.There are children who turn out bad despite the fact that their parents make all efforts to lead them right.

Experience has shown that high handedness and violence has seldom produced the desired result.

so what produces the desired results

SAMBARRY:
yes to scare them from perpetrating evil

So to you the best way to keep your child's minder in line is to use threats and violence then you come online to rant when you see cases of domestic abuse...


Such standards

SAMBARRY:
so what produces the desired results

It takes grace.One should make efforts too and try to raise them in love.

vkoni:
hello all.
i am a career woman doing night duty most of the time,i presently do not have an househelp/nanny for fear of wat might be going on wen im not around.Going for night duty leaving my kids, with my hubby and housemaid brings so much tots to my mind.wat do i do?Not even this era of hubby and househelp digging it while u er not there.Really so afraid

Please differentiate between a job and a career. I can`t imagine a career that involves night duty. Probably is a job or at the best a job that requires qualified skills.

If your kid`s aren`t old enough to stay at home alone and your husband cannot handle them on his own then you better get a day time job.

Most men can take care of their kid`s at night. After all they are sleeping most of the time.
Perhaps your kid`s are still very young. Then they need a mother at home.

BTW, you are already suspecting the nanny before even bringing her into your home,

If you live in fear of anything, you have no business being alive!

lol @ husband digging it with neighbor since nanny does not exist @op, have you thought of your husband digging it with his female colleagues at work

PS: when your mind starts telling you negative things, you need to talk to a shrink

Whatever! It's my daughter we are talking about and not just anybody. It's the house help that will determine the way i will treat her. If she treats my baby right i will also treat her right but if she abuses my baby i will also unleash on her. So issues like this are subjective

pickabeau1:



So to you the best way to keep your child's minder in line is to use threats and violence then you come online to rant when you see cases of domestic abuse...


Such standards