oftentimes, you see people accusing other people of "trying to be perfect".

This happens mainly when folks are feeling you are judging them for their lifestyle choices. Or they disapprove of your own lifestyle, say you don't do things THEY do, for example, for whatever reason.

Let's take a look at "perfection".

Look at these scenarios:


1. Someone does not like children and does not see him or herself having any. This person then hooks up with a partner who also does not want children.

2. A man does not like the idea of dating or marrying a woman with kids (single mother). Therefore he only dates women who have not had kids yet, and marries one of them.

3. A woman does not feel she would be able to cope with a baby daddy. She wants a man who doesn't have kids. Therefore she dates only single men with no kids, and only considers this group for marriage.

4. A man is ok with dating a single mother, but only if the kids are no more than two. Therefore, anyone with more than two kids, is a no no for him.


5. A woman can date a baby daddy and thinks she is ok with any baby mama drama he is involved in, her only condition being there should not be more than one kid, or one baby mama

6. A man can date and marry any woman regardless of kids, even if they (kids) are up to 20. As long as he loves her, its not a problem, in his opinion. Therefore he dates anyone he fancies, regardless how many kids are involved.

7. A woman can marry and date a man with any number of kids or baby mamas, its not a problem as long as she loves him, in her opinion. Therefore, she does not limit her dating circle based on presence, number or absence of kids.


8. A man is attracted to married women, and just doesn't get the same jingle with single ladies. Therefore, to him , any married woman is fair game and he does not want to be bothered by anyone's opinion as long as the woman is willing.

9. A woman considers married men fair game, as long as they are into each other, if he is cheating on his wife, that is not her concern, she is not the one cheating on the wife. Besides, women are more than men, so. . . . . .

10. A man can marry or date a woman who has had series of abortions, been a runs girl, had myriads of lovers, etc etc, he is not bothered as long as they both understand each other currently, or as long as she does not interfere too much in his own runs now.



and so on and so forth.


Is it perfection to date and marry whatever context you are comfortable with?