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Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 7:56pm On Jun 28, 2015
Please everyone here i want to ask a question and i need y'all guys opinion:

After the legalization of gay marriage in America,i have read so many opinions about the matter,but one thing kept ringing in my mind is others calling those who do not support this development hypocrites.

Should we also call them hypocrites when a man decides to marry more than 2 wives and they condemn the act outrightly especially if it is a Christian brother or sister involved;Yet we have Christian gays?

Let's discuss.
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 7:58pm On Jun 28, 2015
pickabeau1:
edwife


You are called a hypocrite if u dont support SSM because hetero marriage has been the norm for so long
You have known 'love' for so many centuries. Why deny people who cant help the way they feel about people of their own sex

the supreme court judgement was expected

What you should be interested in how it practicallt affects you first as a person in your interactions and how to explain this to your kids
As a business person, you cannot refuse service to a person(s) on the basis of their sexual orientation

on polygamy or polyamory as it is called in the West
maybe that will be the next fight after transgenders get their own rights entrenched to be recognised as a gender

laverne cox and caitlyn jenner are helping to push their fight


Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 7:59pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:


people who call anti-gay marriage crew hypocrites are rëtards.....majority of them are brainless too. God created marriage - between a man & a woman. there were conditions set by God for any marriage to function - a submissive wife & a loving husband.

now, if a woman feels she cannot be submissive, she shouldn't marry & she should not describe any relationship she forms with deviants or animals or objects as marriage.

similarly, if a man knows he cannot love his wife, he shouldn't marry at all & he should not even use the m-word for any relationship he intends to have with fellow men, animals or objects.

it's as simple as that.....

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 7:59pm On Jun 28, 2015
pickabeau1:
edwife


You are called a hypocrite if u dont support SSM because hetero marriage has been the norm for so long
You have known 'love' for so many centuries. Why deny people who cant help the way they feel about people of their own sex

Well i for instance find nothing wrong in allowing people do whatever feels right for them,my question was isn't it the same thing with polygamy,a man loving many women because they feel that way?

the supreme court judgement was expected

What you should be interested in how it practicallt affects you first as a person in your interactions and how to explain this to your kids
As a business person, you cannot refuse service to a person(s) on the basis of their sexual orientation

Again it does not affect me directly but it seems to affect other people.Those people have families,friends.....

Yep business is business.

on polygamy or polyamory as it is called in the West
maybe that will be the next fight after transgenders get their own rights entrenched to be recognised as a gender

I don't think polygamy will ever win in the west.You didn't really give me what i was looking for but thanks.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:00pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:


people who call anti-gay marriage crew hypocrites are rëtards.....majority of them are brainless too. God created marriage - between a man & a woman. there were conditions set by God for any marriage to function - a submissive wife & a loving husband.

now, if a woman feels she cannot be submissive, she shouldn't marry & she should not describe any relationship she forms with deviants or animals or objects as marriage.

similarly, if a man knows he cannot love his wife, he shouldn't marry at all & he should not even use the m-word for any relationship he intends to have with fellow men, animals or objects.

it's as simple as that.....

Yes i get your point,but what is your view regarding people who condemn polygamy but embrace homosexuality?
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:00pm On Jun 28, 2015
pickabeau1:

Before polygamy prefer for incE#st ... wink
After all these are two adults in love and with genetic methods, defective genes can be removed from the sperm or ovum to ensure defective babies are not born.

It affects everyone. These guys will push their ways on to everyone
I assume you live in the West?


Its a matter of time...

What were you lookin for if i may ask?


Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:01pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:


backward reasoning....
they are confused by satan.....it's a western construct anyways & since most countries in africa had western education, i can totally understand how they got brainwashed.

in the middle-east, polygamy is cultural & homosexuality is a death sentence.
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:02pm On Jun 28, 2015
pickabeau1:

just saw this....I guess this was your point

Ultimately its about evolution

Someone will argue marriage as we know it - monogamy too was an evolutionary choice

Any african man that condemns polygamy - natural sex and supports homo - butt sex is truly asinine
Imagine sometimes you go in the loo to take a dump and u r constipated and u struggle and grunt and even cry(let me make it worse... imagine u have hermorhoids too - jedi)
the pain you feel right


Then imagine someone ramming his manhood into another man's arse and they say that is natural

Yeye dey smell

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:06pm On Jun 28, 2015
Pickabeau your description is crazy meh... grin

Ewwww

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by pickabeau1: 8:12pm On Jun 28, 2015
edwife:
Pickabeau your description is crazy meh... grin

Ewwww

When there is natural lubricated hole
then me i will look for unnatural hole

fiakwa!

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 8:14pm On Jun 28, 2015
Protect the environment.
do not intensitionaly cause harm to others except in a tight situation.

Homosexuality is based on two adults who want same thing. They are not causing harm to others and their immediate environment.
Polygamy can cause harm to others directly or indirectly. Heartbreak, multiple sexual partners that might transmit diseases sexually. Most of the time the other party have no say and will have to remain in the union against her wish.
population control is a major factor, with the way we are going if nothing is done the population will take lots of earth natural resources.

So we need more gay partners (less children )., less polygamy families. At most 2 children to parents.

And above all more wars and bombs.
the world is over populated. The earlier we cut the population the better. smiley

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by EfemenaXY: 8:17pm On Jun 28, 2015
edwife:
Please everyone here i want to ask a question and i need y'all guys opinion:

After the legalization of gay marriage in America,i have read so many opinions about the matter,but one thing kept ringing in my mind is others calling those who do not support this development hypocrites.

Should we also call them hypocrites when a man decides to marry more than 2 wives and they condemn the act outrightly especially if it is a Christian brother or sister involved;Yet we have Christian gays?

Let's discuss.

I don't get it. What's the correlation between a gay couple and a polyandrous one?

That notwithstanding, I haven't got issues with either set. To each their own.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:21pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:
Protect the environment.
do not intensitionaly cause harm to others except in a tight situation.

Homosexuality is based on two adults who want same thing. They are not causing harm to others and their immediate environment.
Polygamy can cause harm to others directly or indirectly. Heartbreak, multiple sexual partners that might transmit diseases sexually. Most of the time the other party have no say and will have to remain in the union against her wish.
population control is a major factor, with the way we are going if nothing is done the population will take lots of earth natural resources.

So we need more gay partners (less children )., less polygamy families. At most 2 children to parents.

And above all more wars and bombs.
the world is over populated. The earlier we cut the population the better. smiley


Sexual relationships between members of the same sex, however, expose gays, lesbians and bisexuals to extreme risks of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), physical injuries, mental disorders and even a shortened life span. There are five major distinctions between gay and heterosexual relationships, with specific medical consequences. They are:

Levels of Promiscuity read more
Similar extremes of promiscuity have not been documented among lesbians. However, an Australian study found that 93 percent of lesbians reported having had sex with men, and lesbians were 4.5 times more likely than heterosexual women to have had more than 50 lifetime male sex partners. Any degree of sexual promiscuity carries the risk of contracting STDs.

Physical Health read more
Male Homosexual Behavior
Female Homosexual Behavior

Common sexual practices among gay men lead to numerous STDs and physical injuries, some of which are virtually unknown in the heterosexual population. Lesbians are also at higher risk for STDs. In addition to diseases that may be transmitted during lesbian sex, a study at an Australian STD clinic found that lesbians were three to four times more likely than heterosexual women to have sex with men who were high-risk for HIV.

Mental Health read more
It is well established that there are high rates of psychiatric illnesses, including depression, drug abuse, and suicide attempts, among gays and lesbians. This is true even in the Netherlands, where gay, lesbian and bisexual (GLB) relationships are far more socially acceptable than in the U.S. Depression and drug abuse are strongly associated with risky sexual practices that lead to serious medical problems.

Life Span read more
The only epidemiological study to date on the life span of gay men concluded that gay and bisexual men lose up to 20 years of life expectancy.

Monogamy read more
Monogamy, meaning long-term sexual fidelity, is rare in GLB relationships, particularly among gay men. One study reported that 66 percent of gay couples reported sex outside the relationship within the first year, and nearly 90 percent if the relationship lasted five years.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by tpiander: 8:24pm On Jun 28, 2015
pickeabu

hetero marriage has been the norm for so long

the "norm"?

"for so long"

are you a gay?

that would explain a lot though.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 8:24pm On Jun 28, 2015
EfemenaXY:


I don't get it. What's the correlation between a gay couple and a polyandrous one?

That notwithstanding, I haven't got issues with either set. To each their own.


errr i am not talking about correlation but people who criticize polygamy but embrace homosexuality.I wanted to know what were their reasons.

Thanks anyway. smiley
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by pickabeau1: 8:24pm On Jun 28, 2015
I hope you are aware HIV was first discovered among gays
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by coogar: 8:30pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:
Protect the environment.
do not intensitionaly cause harm to others except in a tight situation. Homosexuality is based on two adults who want same thing. They are not causing harm to others and their immediate environment.

same can be argued for incêst....
the angle that they are not causing harm to others is a weak angle. the act itself is repulsive!


Polygamy can cause harm to others directly or indirectly. Heartbreak, multiple sexual partners that might transmit diseases sexually. Most of the time the other party have no say and will have to remain in the union against her wish.

so today's monogamy isn't causing harm to others indirectly? there are more unhappy people in monogamy than in polygamy.

besides that, the west has a backward reasoning. what's the difference between a man that married 4 wives AND a man who has had 10 different wives in 10 years? grin


population control is a major factor, with the way we are going if nothing is done the population will take lots of earth natural resources.

So we need more gay partners (less children )., less polygamy families. At most 2 children to parents.

And above all more wars and bombs.
the world is over populated. The earlier we cut the population the better. smiley

if the issue is about population control, the government should invest more in proper family planning. condoms should be given free of charge & the world would work itself out.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 8:33pm On Jun 28, 2015
edwife:




Smoking also causes death but people still take it. It's all about the choice you make as an adult.
if you know about all these and still insist, then what's the problem.

My own ish is forcing people to accept polygamy due to fvcked up tradition.

People should be able to make a choice if it DOES NOT affect others and the environment.
Most polygamy aren't based on mutual consent.
Polygamy was better then because of manual labour that was needed in cultivation, War etc.

These days we don't need it.
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 8:41pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:


same can be argued for incêst....
the angle that they are not causing harm to others is a weak angle. the act itself is repulsive!



so today's monogamy isn't causing harm to others indirectly? there are more unhappy people in monogamy than in polygamy.

besides that, the west has a backward reasoning. what's the difference between a man that married 4 wives AND a man who has had 10 different wives in 10 years? grin



if the issue is about population control, the government should invest more in proper family planning. condoms should be given free of charge & the world would work itself out.

The government in the west are way ahead and politically inclined.
population is already controlled by catching all those dead beat runaway dads. By the time you pay child support for 2 baby mamas no one will tell you to tie up your condom.

Africa is used as experiment. What do you think all those boko haram running amok is doing? Raping teenage girls while African leaders relaxes and send all their savings in the west.

For happiness, if you are not happy in a marrrage., you should be able to leave that marriage and work out something better for your kids if there are kids involved
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by coogar: 8:52pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:

The government in the west are way ahead and politically inclined.
population is already controlled by catching all those dead beat runaway dads. By the time you pay child support for 2 baby mamas no one will tell you to tie up your condom.

child support only restricts people who care. there are some people who don't give a rat's arsë about child support. desmond hatchet lives in america & yet he's sired 30 children with 11 different women. people don't need to marry to produce illegitimate children....polygamy can't be worse than babymamaism that america is ridden with.



Africa is used as experiment. What do you think all those boko haram running amok is doing? Raping teenage girls while African leaders relaxes and send all their savings in the west.

For happiness, if you are not happy in a marrrage., you should be able to leave that marriage and work out something better for your kids if there are kids involved

the women in polygamy are happy in their marriage. aren't mormons mostly polygamous. do they not exist in america? being happy in marriage is a different thing entirely to outlawing polygamy. some women don't mind sharing their husbands with another woman. majority of the muslims in the UK live with more than one wife.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 8:54pm On Jun 28, 2015
Anybody referring to the gay-hating/polygamous supporting demographic as hypocritical has a mental short-circuit. The anus is not a sexx organ, if they don't know this they can't be helped and certainly shouldn't be intellectually engaged.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by coogar: 9:03pm On Jun 28, 2015
Timbuktou:
Anybody referring to the gay-hating/polygamous supporting demographic as hypocritical has a mental short-circuit. The anus is not a sexx organ, if they don't know this they can't be helped and certainly shouldn't be intellectually engaged.

the government via the media is responsible for the brainwash. if you are not a feminist/gay activist, you are not modern. grin

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:


child support only restricts people who care. there are some people who don't give a rat's arsë about child support. desmond hatchet lives in america & yet he's sired 30 children with 11 different women. people don't need to marry to produce illegitimate children....polygamy can't be worse than babymamaism that america is ridden with.




the women in polygamy are happy in their marriage. aren't mormons mostly polygamous. do they not exist in america? being happy in marriage is a different thing entirely to outlawing polygamy. some women don't mind sharing their husbands with another woman. majority of the muslims in the UK live with more than one wife.

When we say the 'West', you think say UK follow? Dem sabi fear Muslims ehn.

As per Polygamy, it made Northern Nigeria the way it is.
it made Nigeria the way it is. Because the north controls the country. Nothing good can come out of over populated country with good for nothing leaders British puppets ruling the country.

They are using the result of polygamy against Africans.
plenty children, send aids, take their resources... when someone is hungry, you lack common sense.
that's why we have 98% roaming around this forum with dead brains.

Effect of polygamy

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by bukatyne(f): 9:10pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:


Smoking also causes death but people still take it. It's all about the choice you make as an adult.
if you know about all these and still insist, then what's the problem.

My own ish is forcing people to accept polygamy due to fvcked up tradition.

People should be able to make a choice if it DOES NOT affect others and the environment.
Most polygamy aren't based on mutual consent.
Polygamy was better then because of manual labour that was needed in cultivation, War etc.

These days we don't need it.


The major problem with polygamy apart from the fact it is very selfish.

MoSt first wives in polygamy are in the union because they don't want to 'lose'. their investment in the marriage.

Homosexuals are two people of same sex who decided to be together; no force.

Is it crazy and wrong? Yes but So is adultery (favorite hobby), fornication, stealing, lying, greed, excess partying, back biting, slander, gossip etc. etc.

Also, I do not understand the numerous threads online since the it was legalized;

If you are not gay, hug your guy/girl and leave them to their business. If you are gay, goodluck.

Legalizing gay marriage (not gay relationship as gays have been existing since Sodom ), would not cause an influx in gay relationships.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 9:20pm On Jun 28, 2015
coogar:


the government via the media is responsible for the brainwash. if you are not a feminist/gay activist, you are not modern. grin

What a damn shame. My fear is 'progressives' infiltrating the NASS, don't want the likes of Francesca entering such exalted chambers.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 9:21pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:


Smoking also causes death but people still take it. It's all about the choice you make as an adult.
if you know about all these and still insist, then what's the problem.

My own ish is forcing people to accept polygamy due to fvcked up tradition.

People should be able to make a choice if it DOES NOT affect others and the environment.
Most polygamy aren't based on mutual consent.
Polygamy was better then because of manual labour that was needed in cultivation, War etc.

These days we don't need it.

chilli do you know that gays affect others especially the closet one? do you know that some women are deceived everyday into marriage by gays?

Those women suffer emotionally and psychologically because those men can't have a normal relationship with them.Even in America where being gay is not that discriminated yet many gays deceive women.They live a double life deceiving everyone around them and transmitting STDs to these women.
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by dinachi(m): 9:24pm On Jun 28, 2015
bukatyne:


The major problem with polygamy apart from the fact it is very selfish.

MoSt first wives in polygamy are in the union because they don't want to 'lose'. their investment in the marriage.

Homosexuals are two people of same sex who decided to be together; no force.

Is it crazy and wrong? Yes but So is adultery (favorite hobby), fornication, stealing, lying, greed, excess partying, back biting, slander, gossip etc. etc.

Also, I do not understand the numerous threads online since the it was legalized;

If you are not gay, hug your guy/girl and leave them to their business. If you are gay, goodluck.

Legalizing gay marriage (not gay relationship as gays have been existing since Sodom ), would not cause an influx in gay relationships.
What of incestous couples? Would you support a relationship between your adult mother and adult brother? Following your line of argument would you just look away and leave them to their decisions, remember after all they are two consenting adults.
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 9:24pm On Jun 28, 2015
edwife:

chilli do you know that gays affect others especially the closet one? do you know that some women are deceived everyday into marriage by gays?

Those women suffer emotionally and psychologically because those men can't have a normal relationship with them.Even in America where being gay is not that discriminated yet many gays deceive women.They live a double life deceiving everyone around them and transmitting STDs to these women.

That's why they passed the bills so they will come out of the closet and stp pretending.

We have so many of them in Nigeria doing same thing you listed.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by Nobody: 9:26pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:


When we say the 'West', you think say UK follow? Dem sabi fear Muslims ehn.

As per Polygamy, it made Northern Nigeria the way it is.
it made Nigeria the way it is. Because the north controls the country. Nothing good can come out of over populated country with good for nothing leaders British puppets ruling the country.

They are using the result of polygamy against Africans.
plenty children, send aids, take their resources... when someone is hungry, you lack common sense.
that's why we have 98% roaming around this forum with dead brains.

Effect of polygamy

Laughable. A huge population is a major asset in today's world. There's a reason Nigeria is a leading light in Africa despite the many problems we seem to have. China is a more relevant country today than the whole UK is. Think about that.

Caucasians are going to become second class citizens in the UK in the future. Outsiders are taking over, and then they'd wish they had kept outsiders out and protected their legacy.

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Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by bukatyne(f): 9:27pm On Jun 28, 2015
dinachi:

What of incestous couples? Would you support a relationship between your adult mother and adult brother? Following your line of argument would you just look away and leave them to their decisions, remember after all they are two consenting adults.

Would you support your father Bleep.ing his secretary?
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by edwife(f): 9:29pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:


That's why they passed the bills so they will come out of the closet and stp pretending.

We have so many of them in Nigeria doing same thing you listed.

I don't think this bill will help them come out.America already is a free world,they were in the open.Many of them don't come out not because it was not legalized but because many are still confused,some still don't want be rejected by family and so on....

Here in Nigeria yes,it will still go on.....
Re: Let's Talk About Marriage(homosexuality,polygamy And Others) by coogar: 9:29pm On Jun 28, 2015
Chillisauce:

When we say the 'West', you think say UK follow? Dem sabi fear Muslims ehn.

if the UK isn't west, then where is it? east? grin
close to half a million people stay in polygamous households in france, all those malian immigrants with their numerous wives. maybe france isn't west too. grin


As per Polygamy, it made Northern Nigeria the way it is.
it made Nigeria the way it is. Because the north controls the country. Nothing good can come out of over populated country with good for nothing leaders British puppets ruling the country.

polygamy doesn't necessarily aid over-population. if those women in polygamy married another man in a monogamous relationship, they would have children there too.


They are using the result of polygamy against Africans.
plenty children, send aids, take their resources... when someone is hungry, you lack common sense.
that's why we have 98% roaming around this forum with dead brains.

Effect of polygamy

i am not convinced polygamy is the reason for our staggering population in nigeria. we just love sex too much in that country. there are many islamic african countries that aren't as populous as nigeria & polygamy is more prevalent there.

a monogamous man with a dozen concubines is not polygamous & yet he has more than 20 secret love children. 2face is "monogamous" but how many kids does he have with different women? let's be honest - the issue here isn't poly/mono, it's about sex deviance!

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