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| Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by uzo4Christ(f): 5:09pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Am so confused,wil I b a bad mum if I drop my kids in d village wit my mum-In-law? Bin married 4 6yrs wit 4kids,my hubby hs bin joblex 4 3yrs n dosn't liv wit I n my kids,hs in abuja n we r in lagos. Recently he askd me 2 snd him tfer,after sndin d money last week Thursday,he called me leta dat nite,I told him 2 cal bak cs I ws busy wit d kids,bt he kept on caln endlexly,I hd 2 take d cal only 4 him 2 cal me a wicked person n said bcs of dat I wot c him in lagos.js lik dat! I always beg him 2 com 2 lagos,anytym he comes he doxnt stay mor than 7days.den hs nex visit wil b afta 3-5month's, I feed d kids n pay their fees,yet he cals me a wicked woman.I want 2 snd d kids 2 hs mum so dat is family can takia of d kids n c wat I hav been sufering. Pls I nid ur advice on wat 2 do. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by ritababe(f): 5:15pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Its ur responsibilty, thats why i will not marry for love alone, but for love and money. 5 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Nobody: 5:16pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
4 kids within 6 years and no source of income for 3 years? how una do am? just live your life like you gat no husband and face your kids. sorry oh. 3 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Odillz: 5:26pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
uzo4Christ:. The way you spelt that word got me lmao  .1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Wendy80(f): 5:30pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
uzo4Christ: Ur story isn't detailed enough for one to give proper advise. He's bn jobless so what is he doing in Abuja? Jobless for 3yrs yet 4kids in 6yrs, why? Why do u want to drop the kids with mother inlaw now? How does he foot his bills in Abj, yet can't cater for his kids? Why does he stay away from his families for so long? My Dear is there something u aint saying? |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Odillz: 5:31pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
4 children in 6years  Oya wait make them reach 10 before you get sense  ...Things were not hard when you were poping them out,e don reach when you go take care things com hard abi . |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Odillz: 5:34pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
demelza: .*falls untop stove* |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by spartoo: 5:40pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by BeeBeeOoh(m): 5:47pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
This is why I said that not every man is a "Father. Please before u run off from ur responsibilities, get rid of that thing inbetween ur thigh. Shalom.. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Nobody: 5:52pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
uzo4Christ, you sound very desperate but you must consider that your innocent kids will suffer if you abandon them. Can you imagine what they will feel like if their own mother abandons them and what impact it will have on them in the future? Where is your family? Have you talked to them about your situation? Do your in-laws know what problems you are facing and how difficult it is? Before taking drastic action, you should try to solve the problem in a more reasonable way that will take into account your kids innocence and well-being. 3 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by ifyalways(f): 6:12pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Are u taking the kids to your MIL so you could hustle or just to spite your hubby? If it's the former, nothing wrong with it, per say but if it's the latter, not a good idea. Marriage is partnership. When one partner is weak or petty, the other stays strong and steers the ship. You can keep the kids with your MIL, go to Abuja, sort out issues with your hubby then you both plan and work on the way forward. You need a job, asap, same for him. I assume you are still interested in the marriage, if otherwise then disregard my post. 1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by ellapius(f): 6:56pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
why not call a family meeting get his people anf ur family involved.the man is out of his senses I presume if not wat ll he be doing in abuja. his is probably doing runs guy tin bah. see dearest the p4oblem is that u av been hiding tins to avoid shame wich is ok but u cant continue like this for long. dont drop the children cos it ll make ur life complicated wnd u ll life wit the pain and guilt of not being a good mother. even though some ladie dont care I can see from ur write up dat u do.u need family planing now dear dont let him come get u pregnant again cos u av a life to life.go get a job move out of ur present environment if possible get the children into a boarding school if not all of them at lest two . then u can have space to focus anf live ur life. from ur words and use of abbreviations I dont tink u re too too old maybe late twenties or early thirty. so u see u still have a life.package and love ursef b4 u call this family meeting let them see that u re healthy and clean then voice out ur matter and them react. if this does not work come back here am sure the good people of NL will tell u more. 3 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by jayne8585yahoo(f): 7:31pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Hmmm please don't shift your reponsiblity to your parents in law. They are not responsible for the kids, they are your flesh and blood please take care of them. It may seem hard and no way for now but you need to be strong for your kids sake. 1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by jayne8585yahoo(f): 7:33pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Hmmm please don't shift your reponsiblity to your parents in law. They are not responsible for the kids, your kids are your flesh and blood please take care of them. It may seem hard and no way for now but you need to be strong for your kids sake. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Jamean(f): 7:35pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Missing lines, incomplete premises.... You laid the bed...kindly bear sleeping on it. . I wonder what the average African woman still thinks of having many children, especially when the man no send you.  He has been jobless for 3yrs, yet you still got pregnant. Making innocent children suffer. Rubbish. 4kids in 6yrs is an average of 1yr 6months age gap. You likely get pregnant when the baby at hand is 9months old .I won't sympathise with you, there are certain sentiments I don't express. You need to hear some reprimand 'cause if your husband comes to spend some more time with you, you go load number 5. Even if you are well to do...you don't need a life band crew. Go the extra mile to raise those children irrespective of their father's contribution, otherwise they will accuse you later in life. Also go to the nearest health centre for family planning. It is free! 1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by obaayo2: 7:39pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
ritababe:u re scaring me |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by bellong: 7:51pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
ifyalways: |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by mutter(f): 8:08pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Please take care f your children, they are a gift from God. Why is your husband in Abuja when when he has no job, that is only more expenses. I think you need to get your family involved so that they can find a solution so that you all get to live under one roof. I hope you did not make life unbearable for the man when he was jobless. Your husband needs to take any job he can get to at least contribute something. Please suffer for your kid`s you will reap the reward one day. Many women wo are married still fend for their kid`ss because the men do not contribute much or everything. Tht is the joy and pain of being a woman. 2 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by ritababe(f): 8:09pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
obaayo2: sorry |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Nobody: 9:54pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
They're your kids too. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Nobody: 9:59pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
Why do you want to make your innocent children suffer for your mistake and that of your ungreatful, irresponsible husband? It is your responsibility to care for them therefore no one owes you, not even your Mil. What if your Mil abandones their welfare like you, wouldnt you mind or you dont just care or you think its impossible? I know you wont listen but i will still say never give any money to your husband again, just stop begging him to come see his family, infact start planning your life like you dont have a husband because that is what it literarily is. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by OmoAlata1(f): 10:01pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
4 kids in 6yrs?  Were you on any form of birth control?? I hope you go on birth control asap or get your tube tie in case Oga comes back to beg. Face your kids and do the best you can to take care of them. Just see yourself as a widow, you have no husband. Kids are not MIL responsibility. She already trained her own kids, do yours |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Joel3(m): 11:09pm On Feb 20, 2015 |
no man will want to live under the same roof with a woman with not money. Guess that's why he is in abuja. But 4 kids in 6 years. Wow you need world cup. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Horllamideh(m): 6:16am On Feb 21, 2015 |
OmoAlata1:maybe she gave birth to twins in a row |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Nobody: 7:24am On Feb 21, 2015 |
uzo4Christ: Just from the way you write,you sound very stu,pid and the content of your post confirms it Sorry I couldn't resist Married 6 years,hubby unemployed for three and you two didn't know where they sell condoms You want to drop 4 children you claim are yours with a mother in law in the village to teach your husband's people a lesson Go ahead and drop them,let them be physically and sexually abused because you want to teach someone a lesson Eediot. I bet the poor kids are already suffering in your care Did you actually conceive and bear these kids or you bought them from a baby factory somewhere Talk true Anuofia 2 Likes |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Ewuro4: 7:36am On Feb 21, 2015 |
uzo4Christ: Lord help me. Oluwa olorun Lord Almighty, please favor those who seek the fruit of the womb and do it FAST. Baba I beg of you.  1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by corisande: 8:03am On Feb 21, 2015 |
4 kids in 6years? How did u do it, that's all I want to know. No money, no work, na only sex be the compensation una get. shey the mum in law you want to dump your responsibility on, na she send u message? mtcheeeeew! |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Dheartless: 9:37am On Feb 21, 2015 |
ritababe:what!! who would want to marry you for love alone? talk less when the man has money or are you not the person on your profile pics? please I meant no insult 1 Like |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by ritababe(f): 10:03am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Dheartless: and so |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Kedam(m): 10:29am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Wendy80:That's exactly wat have been thinking. |
| Re: Pls I Need Help,do I Drop My Kids Wit My Muminlaw N Run Off? by Nobody: 10:36am On Feb 21, 2015 |
Why are most of the comments focused on how many children she has within 6 years of marriage? ? The deed's already been done, she's only seeking for advice. .. Op, please don't leave your children and run for any reason. . Leave them and run to where exactly? ? Don't make innocent children pay for the misfortune in your marriage, they didn't beg you to bring them into this world so you should bear the responsibilities. .. What does your husband do at Abuja? Have you talked to your family or his about what's going on with both of you? ? Why's your husband running away from home? Do you make lifeunbearable for him cos he's jobless or he's simply irresponsible? ? You need to pray to God too.. and Don't get pregnant again please.. All the best and please this is the time your children need you most, don't abandon them.. Esp. as a father figure is almost absent in their lives, don't make them live like orphans. .. Stay strong and God bless... 2 Likes |
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