“I have a girlfriend, that we’re planning
for better future, as times goes on, we
later knew that our genotype is AS and
we love each other, pls. I need your
advice pls. What should i do?”

Only few problems in this world are worse than having a sickler child. Don't allow the love to blindfold you. If you go ahead and later have a sickler child, you'll regret not parting ways after discovering your genotypes.

So, I advise you to save your future from regrets by parting ways now. I know it's hard, but coping with the challenges of nurturing a sickler child is harder. Be better safe than sorry.

You had better forget about love now & find someone who are compatible with healthwise so you won't forget about love later.

Love? I've got one advice for u: QUITTTTTTTTTTT!

Please Don't because of love make life miserable for the unborn child. Read this book ' Dazzling Mirage' By Dr. Olayinka Egbokhare or watch its movie adaption u will learn a lot.

but we can just give birth to one or 2 .... d chances for SS re slim

Oga OP.. Give ur self brain nah, can't blive som1 will b seeking such advice @ 2015.

Y suffer an innocent soul(ur kid) bcous of dat english word called "LOVE"..



If u know ow pained I am seeing dis ur post nd ur follow up post, nah confirm sakpa I 4 give u for ur ogo..

So painful but u hav no option xcept to QUIT.

Or marry & nevr procreate (which is hard 2 fulfill)
Or bear d consequences.
God ease ur pain n reward u wt anoda godly lady

Options:
(1) If you and your spouse can afford 1. 8 to 2m naira, do a PGD (preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis): sperm cells from the male is used to fertilize egg from the female. Several embryos are developed and analyzed for their genotype. The disease free ones are implanted into the woman.

(2) Do an in-depth analysis of the percentage of A and S genes. Path care lab does it. If the A is significantly high for an AS, you could decide to try naturally.
Amniocentesis: An invasive method of taking samples of fluid from the woman in order to determine foetal genotype.

(3) Quit the relationship

(4) Exercise faith: A renowned medical fertility expert told me that while there is a 25% chance of getting a Sickler, there is a 75% chance of getting a non Sickler child. That said, there is particular order in which the children could come. Because each time sperm cells are released, millions come out. And the egg to be fertilized could be in any state. So, you could have AS, AS, AS, AS or AA, AS, AS, SS, SS... it all depends on nature. Medical science has since evolved

flyingdutchman:

So, you could have AS, AS, AS, AS or AA, AS, AS, SS, SS... it all depends on nature. Medical science has since evolved

They cld also have SS SS AS AA, SS AS AA SS, SS SS SS .

RISK
FUCKING RISKY

Walk away.








This love will turn to weariness, sulking then hate.


Walk away now!!

Dyt:


They cld also have SS SS AS AA, SS AS AA SS, SS SS SS .

RISK
FUCKING RISKY

We are saying same thing. They could come out in any sequence. After all the other options, is this the only one you understood? Of course not! You're just bent on the negatives alone. Some of us have gone down that path. I'm glad I did

flyingdutchman:

We are saying same thing. They could come out in any sequence. After all the other options, is this the only one you understood? Of course not! You're just bent on the negatives alone. Some of us have gone down that path. I'm glad I did

Wow
So its advicable to go ahead?
Sorry no vex o
I just gave a wider explanation on ur sequence ni

Op ooo
Them say u can follow the positives oooo


Pls I like to read the path u are glad u did
Might be an inspiration to some other couples out there

Don't try it,Ts ur future....this same thing happened to me,it was some months to our introduction,i almost went OFF but i gave myself self O.T&broke it myself...twas so hard but eventually we did....thank God we did,we r still good friends....please don't so that ur children wont curse you later

If u love her that much and ur finances are okay or a bit stable, u cod either do PGD using ivf or a simpler option is doing ivf with donor eggs.

This is one of the reasons i always say love alone is not enough for and in marriages.

Except you're ready to marry and not procreate. If you can do this and go for adoption instead, then, you can go on and marry each other, but if you both plan to have your own biological child/ren, then, think twice, lest this love be later cursed.


Abali1......come here o!

Dyt:


Wow
So its advicable to go ahead?
Sorry no vex o
I just gave a wider explanation on ur sequence ni

Op ooo
Them say u can follow the positives oooo


Pls I like to read the path u are glad u did
Might be an inspiration to some other couples out there

My wife is AS and so am I. It isn't just about love. Its about wisdom and determination to do research. I have stated possible options. OP can do proper research over them. And yes, if OP wants to go ahead, I'd support them. That's why I gave options. They are called options for a reason. I would never ever discuss my private life on the social media. OP DO RESEARCH OO!

flyingdutchman:

My wife is AS and so am I. It isn't just about love. Its about wisdom and determination to do research. I have stated possible options. OP can do proper research over them. And yes, if OP wants to go ahead, I'd support them. That's why I gave options. They are called options for a reason. I would never ever discuss my private life on the social media. OP DO RESEARCH OO!

Lol u can share privately na

Dyt:


Lol u can share privately na

This geh self! you be chinch? You can worry oo! Dunno if you're being sarcastic or u wanna learn for real. flyingdutchman0314@gmail.com

jidxin:
“I have a girlfriend, that we’re planning
for better future, as times goes on, we
later knew that our genotype is AS and
we love each other, pls. I need your
advice pls. What should i do?”

Per pedigree, you have 25% chance of having SS child. So, that's a given.

All hope is not lost if you really feel love should conquer all. Let me be one to give you options aside from splitting with your AS partner


You have choices:


1. Have an SS child w/ consequences obviously : please try and avoid this for the sake of the child.
2. Avoid pregnancy by both getting sterilized: your snip it, she snips it.
3. Do reproductive technology and choose a donor egg or donor sperm
4. Use your own sperm/egg, but utilize genetic testing in utero to do genotyping; if AS fetus; abort. If AA or AS: keep fetus.

The fourth option is the best for you cost wise; only thing it is fairly risky procedure to perform early in gestation.

Can you afford fancy in utero genetic testing?

I wish you all the best.

flyingdutchman:

This geh self! you be chinch? You can worry oo! Dunno if you're being sarcastic or u wanna learn for real. flyingdutchman0314@gmail.com

Na wa o oga
So u don't reply mails again

Dyt:


Na wa o oga
So u don't reply mails again

Negative, me lady! Sheck ya inbox

jidxin:
but we can just give birth to one or 2 .... d chances for SS re slim

greatgod2012,
you see why I didn't bother much. His mind is about made up, he is just looking for justification for the decision he is about taking.

Hmmm, OP pls listen to the voice of reasoning. I have seen a couple who claimed love and went ahead to get married. They had four children, only the last was AS, first three were SS. Gosh, it was a sad tale. They lost the first two to the sickness and the last(AS) in an accident. The mother died of depression and the remaining SS child and father were roughing it the last time I checked.

Open your eyes, love is never enough for any relationship. My beautiful friend who is an AS asks any intending guy his genotype like it was a social exchange. Be careful...the Lord will strengthen you.

menix:
Oga OP.. Give ur self brain nah, can't blive som1 will b seeking such advice @ 2015.

Y suffer an innocent soul(ur kid) bcous of dat english word called "LOVE"..



If u know ow pained I am seeing dis ur post nd ur follow up post, nah confirm sakpa I 4 give u for ur ogo..

wicked.
OP Use ur head and not Ur heart.

I know of someone who prayed that God should take the life of his sickle cell child.
Please like someone said don't b blinded by love ❤.
My oga in d office told us a story of his room mate in school who finally died during NYSC cos he was ss.

but miracle still happens .....if my level of faith is strong