My name is Tracy.I was raised up in a divided home where my dad have to take care of myself and my younger sister alone after my mother left us for another man.My dad did all he could for us to see us through life.He sacrificed everything for us.He chose not to get married again because of us.Without being told u should know wat it means for a man to raise two females alone.That was a difficult and time-consuming task if u ask me.Throughout these years my mother never surfaced. To cut d long story short,I'm now old enough to get married now,but my dad insisted I marry from his religion which we were also brought up wit.Now d problem is,my dad wants me to marry from his religion at all cost due to his position and d love he is getting from d members!I on my part tried dating a man from his religion when d pressure from him was much.He threatened to disown me and never attend my wedding if I go outside his religion. Hmmm!this is my lovely dad that I can't trade d love I have for him for anyone!This man he wants me to marry is poor,he has no education of any kind not even secondary school but I am a graduate!The man in question is 39 while im 27.The man loved me very well and I've even gone to see his family but my heart is very FAR from him I swear.Now I want ur honest opinion,will I not be an ingrate if I go against my fathers wish?I will only be happy if I'm allowed to marry d man of my heart but at d same time I want my dads happiness,wat do I do?

Will allow doz wiv kool head advice u..

Cous my kind of person wuld not even giv a fu*k wiv doz threatz.

Buh all d same put It in prayers cous my village pple say watin papa siddon see pikin wey climb weed tree no go see am..

D man fit later bcome person in life buh ur happiness is above all..

Is It the religion u have a problem with or the man? Make that clear. Also,what religion were u raised up in? I hope its not amadioha things .

The mere fact that you're not from the same religion and he isn't literate would pose a huge problem when you add the fact that you don't love him at all to the mix,i would say don't do it cos without love it won't work at all...

@pweetyxandy!The religion is my problem!spare me d details abt d religion.ok

Rhebekah:
The religion is my problem!spare me d details abt d religion.ok

Ma'am, I'm totally amused.

I mean who's life are you living?
Your dad or yours?

Someday like all humans, your dad is going to die.
And he's going to leave you behind with your unhappy life because you married a man you didn't love to make him happy.

I say make yourself happy and marry whoever you want. If your dad wouldn't understand your happiness comes first, I'm sorry but he's a very selfish man.

Parents get it wrong
Of what use is it to marry your daughter off to a man who she's not inlove with?your hapines shld be your father's and he shld support you with whatever makes you happy.
That is his duty. To care for ,guide and love you till a certain age. He shld not expect you to exchange his love and sacrifice for your unhapines. Its wrong.

Try make him see reasons without hurting him. Pray to God but in the end if nothing changes and I were you, I'd follow my heart coz am the one to live my life and not he for me.

Your dad may not agree with your decision now, but think you go for what makes you happy. There's no point trying to please your dad now and live the rest of your life unhappy when he won't be around forever.