Tallesty1:
If I advise you here will you pass it across to the lady involved?

Preternatura1:
Is this like a real life thing?

No one is supposed to command anyone, let alone your wife, your wife is supposed to be your best friend, people deserve to be treated with respect.

How can this woman even be asking such questions? She probably should not have just walked out on him, though I don't know what else she could have done since the man doesn't care about her nor listen to her.
Unfortunately it is o.

She's better off without him.

niqqa:
Ur husband needs change... Just advice him to vote for Sai Buhari

Sophyrocks:
Dnt know the sort of men women are marrying these days that lack sensitivity and respect.

MarvellousGod:
She shouldn't have walked out on him, it was rude.. She should have simply tried to convince him to go home or go buy stuffs she would need for the night.. maybe it was too late hence the man's request for a sleep over.. For him to call the woman outside to make the request shows he has some kinda respect for her nevertheless... She walked out on him, what was she expecting?? a pat on the back or what?? some other man may have even gone physical...When she was saying goodnight and walking out on the man infront of his mum, she didn't know it was rude? She only realized that when the man retaliated. ... Some people just like making lil issues complex, marriage isn't a battle field...

Besides, we are ignorant of why the man requested for a stay over, it could even be more pertinent than buying a sanitary pad et al..

MarvellousGod:
So the woman showed respect by walking out on him instead of resolving it amicably?? We really have to be realistic... Nobody who gets walked out on will feel happy.. The man only shouted come back here, not even like he did something outrageous.. The best way to earn respect is to respect yourself first, which this woman didn't do.

K9blunt:
The man eas wrong all through, he shouldnt have shouted ancommanded his wife in front of his mother. He disrespected his wife whom is supposed to be his partner andshould not expect her to behave like a sompleton.

Preternatura1:
Hi, I agree with you that the woman was rude to walk out on him, but don't you think to cut her some slack? I think the man was being overly insensitive on purpose.

I don't speak for all women but I think I speak for many when I say, a lady loves all the comfort she can get when in her period, it can cause some crankiness you know, and from the story, it can be said that the man has some serious issues, who in their right mind talks to another person that way?

Sophyrocks:


You are talking as if you aint a woman. You who have bleeded all your life. do you always feel good during those periods? Who showed lack of respect and even sensitivity first of all? A man must try to be reasonable at all times bearing in mind the condition his wife had been at that moment. Yes she shuldnt have walked out but calling out the woman as if she is maid right in front of his mother is total disregard/disrespect for one's spouse. the man had better learn how to be reasonable and sensitive. He didnt marry a man but a woman.

And by the way, walking out in the heat of an argument is the best before it will escalate to something else. With the way the man screamed at her like she is some maid, its possible he's the abusive type.

MarvellousGod:
Alright...


PS: There's a huge difference between walking out during quarrel to a more conducive place and walking out and doing that same stuff you are arguing about, the later could trigger alot..

MarvellousGod:
She was on her period, yes but whether she had cramps or whatever, we can't say.. just same way we don't know the man's reason for wanting to stay behind...Even if she had cramps, walking out wasn't the best decision, so she will continue walking out each time they have quarrel??.. To me, that's not how marriage works... But then, if the husband didn't have any cogent reason for wanting to stay behind, then he was very insensitive but still walking out wouldn't have been the best..

Regarding the man's action, the woman's behavior triggered it...We really don't know the full story shaa.

PS: I'm a woman too..

Preternatura1:
Yea, we already agree that she was rude, but the story said her hubby is usually selfish.

I don't think it's fair that he would just decide to stay over without discussing with his wife first, that's some tyranny there, furthermore, he refused to make room for negotiation when she gave reasons why she can't stay, I don't see any respect for her here.

I do know you are a woman.

Sophyrocks:


The bolded is my point. He refused to see reasons with her even when he knows the reasons are genuine and worthy to be noted. Strikes me as someone who always wants his way to be done at all times and sucha person is likely to be abusive. For him to have decided on his own for them to sleep over without having her agree is another flaw.

Sophyrocks:


The bolded is my point. He refused to see reasons with her even when he knows the reasons are genuine and worthy to be noted. Strikes me as someone who always wants his way to be done at all times and sucha person is likely to be abusive. For him to have decided on his own for them to sleep over without having her agree is another flaw.

veave:


The man is not a good person in the first place. First he always brought up flimsy excuses whenever his wife wants to visit her family. She practically begged to be taken to his own mothers house. When he got there, he became too comfortable and happy with his people and wanted stay extra. If not that he deliberately wanted to pick a quarrel with his wife, why didn't he allow her go home and stay back to enjoy the company of his people?


And shouting at her in tue presence of his mum, is she a house help? Did he see her on the street begging for husband to come and marry her? Some men should be very careful oh...

Unu ga ana akpachakwa anya ooo

Preternatura1:
Yea, we already agree that she was rude, but the story said her hubby is usually selfish.

I don't think it's fair that he would just decide to stay over without discussing with his wife first, that's some tyranny there, furthermore, he refused to make room for negotiation when she gave reasons why she can't stay, I don't see any respect for her here.

I do know you are a woman.

Sophyrocks:


Simple!! Utter disrespect right in front of his mother? Totally unacceptable!! No man will ever take that from his wife in front of his mother in law so he is wrong on all levels!! Respect begets respect. You cant respect that your wife has a health issue and be sensitive. She was even civil enough to walk out sef na. is it not advised to walk out in the heat of an argument than allow it escalate to something else?

Sophyrocks:


The bolded is very true and funny because i dnt understand how a man would be dragging his feet at first but then insist on staying over afterwards. I think he knew his wife wouldnt approve but he just wanted to cause chaos out of nothing to prove a point. So you see, the man is just a troublemaker. Some men dnt like peace. They thrive on chaos and blame the chaos on women.

veave:



His wife should just ignore him when he gets back. And pretend like nothing happened. I know he will still want to make case when he meets her at home. She should just act like it didn't hurt her feelings.

K9blunt:

Help me ask them pole who are quick to twist the bible for their selfish interest