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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by evolg(m): 7:34am On Mar 10, 2015
To me, diz woman has no problem @all...she's jst d one creating one 4 ersef. Ur husband watches porn, so wot? Big deal? Dt sud rather send a signal to er to up er game in bed...u beta join him in watching, learn some latest skills n positions, quit rambling and save ur marriage.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 7:35am On Mar 10, 2015
olu77:


Of course the priest has no personal marital experience, the priest only use it for self-service but since it's called 'adults movie' the priest wouldn't recomend it for a teenager

Catholicism frowns against po.rnography and ma.sturbation for any category of persons; it matters not whether they are married or not.

The priest is an 'employee' of the Church, hence the need to abide by the Church's teachings. A priest who recommends po.rn for anyone, even when the individual is married, arguably knows next to nothing about his calling.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Oildichotomy(m): 7:40am On Mar 10, 2015
striktlymi:


I agree with you but the lady did not say she refused to help her husband.

On the contrary, the man went into stealth mode after confessing.

If someone truly wants to be helped, you don't get that by being secretive.
We can't be so sure, every conclusion we make here is partly due to our varying perspective of the situation.

Definitely, the man has his own story to tell about the addiction.
MEN including myself don't go reticent for no reason, our Egos won't even let us do it. For every action there is an equal or opposite reaction, The woman has equal measure of the blame!

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 7:40am On Mar 10, 2015
[quote author=striktlymi post=well that's what the priest told me,and I tink I wanna stick with that,cos I"ve heard peps that complain of how boring their married lives has become...and sometimes I have listened to suggestions married people get from priests...so,the way I see it,aint nothin wrong wit porn cos its meant to teach newbies and people that wanna spice up their married lives!...missionary style can be boring sometimes;so,sometimes...u knw wink
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 7:41am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:
Boring stuff from a possibly frigid wife.

May God bless you my brother.

And the witch is only staying in the marriage because of the kids.

What a boring excuse for a life.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 7:41am On Mar 10, 2015
evolg:
To me, diz woman has no problem @all...she's jst d one creating one 4 ersef. Ur husband watches porn, so wot? Big deal? Dt sud rather send a signal to er to up er game in bed...u beta join him in watching, learn some latest skills n positions, quit rambling and save ur marriage.

That may not be a problem for you or some other persons who aren't Catholics.

This lady and her husband chose to be Catholics hence the need for them to abstain from such.

In Catholicism, ma.sturbation and po.rnography are two 'major' sins hence the worry of this lady.

If she had married a non-Catholic who believes ma.sturbation and po.rn are not sinful then that would be a different matter but this is not the case.
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 7:43am On Mar 10, 2015
CityNG:


May God bless you my brother.

And the witch is only staying in the marriage because of the kids.

What a boring excuse for a life.

I am not a man.

Even as a woman, I understand the poor man's frustrations.
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by olu77(m): 7:46am On Mar 10, 2015
striktlymi:


Catholicism frowns against po.rnography and ma.sturbation for any category of persons; it matters not whether they are married or not.

The priest is an 'employee' of the Church, hence the need to abide by the Church's teachings. A priest who recommends po.rn for anyone, even when the individual is married, arguably knows next to nothing about his calling.

Honestly, Christ came to set us free but we inflict heavier bondages on ourselves: I think the law that limits priests to barchelorhood for life should be reverted because higher % of these priests engage in these secret sins and most of them are only interested in priesthood for the lust of fame or wealth.
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 7:49am On Mar 10, 2015
striktlymi:


That may not be a problem for you or some other persons who aren't Catholics.

This lady and her husband chose to be Catholics hence the need for them to abstain from such.

In Catholicism, ma.sturbation and po.rnography are two 'major' sins hence the worry of this lady.

If she had married a non-Catholic who believes ma.sturbation and po.rn are not sinful then that would be a different matter but this is not the case.

Really?

I'm Catholic and I've never heard that màstürbátiön and watching pörnögraphy are sinful. Especially for a married couple.

That aside, do you swallow everything the church feeds you hook, line, and sinker?? The church frowns on the use of contraceptives. Does that mean I'll birth like a rabbit, risk my health, and bring in more kids than I can realistically afford to cater for on the church's say so?

Guy please.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Samirana360(m): 7:50am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:


You still don't get it.

He is addicted to porn because it serves as a medium for him to subconsciously indulge in his fantasies.

The question is: why? Why does he have to turn to porn despite having a wife? Why can't she be what he watches.

She should shape up fast before this man acts on his fantasies with a real, live, babe...rather than running to confession with her Christian mother arms.

Inspiritus Sanctum.



Buh do u knw when all these stuffs started? May be before marriage

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 7:51am On Mar 10, 2015
Samirana360:

Buh do u knw when all these stuffs started? May be before marriage

So why did she marry him then?

To change him? Bwahahaha!

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 7:55am On Mar 10, 2015
vfactor:


So how does it become the woman's fault that the man has unrealistic fantasies? There re a few things wrong with this point of view:

Marriage does not give a husband leverage for selfishness. Watching porn and getting unrealistic fantasies and expecting his wife to satisfy them, is very selfish. She is a human and has her likes and dislikes, her choices. What if she doesn't like his fantasies? The story never said the man communicated to her about what fantasies he wanted and she didn't oblige. So its way beyond that.

Porn is addictive, just like drugs. No matter how satisfied u get, u jst can't get enough, even when its ruining you. It usually starts during singleness and the man hopes he will break it when married, but he doesn't. How can u blame someone else for another persons addiction, say to marijuana? Porn is addictive and as dangerous as that.

Blaming someone else for our habits is never the responsible thing to do. Even if the wife is frigid as u presume, it doesn't justify taking up a bad habit. Communication that reaches the heart would have been better, than venturing into a selfish, self satisfying, self centered and destructive habit.

And how is watching porn a bad habit? Is he an impressionable child?

And if this "addiction" of his started way before marriage, why did she marry him then?
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 7:58am On Mar 10, 2015
englishmart:
konji no be excuse for this matter o..

If we wey no get babe dey blame konji for our jonsings, married man wey get freedom of knaking no suppose yarn any shiiiit
You probably have more sex than most married men.
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by 400billionman: 7:59am On Mar 10, 2015
SmooshCHN:
Nonsense!!! I wasted my time. How will a man with children prefer to watch Pórn than to service his wife? Most of them catholics still look at Long Pleasure able Sex as impurity and now the Husband has sought to an alternative. She even preferred if he was Banging another woman. I'm sure the man is tired of begging as Men hate to beg for what they are entitled to. In this way at least he is no longer disturbing her. Very funny woman. Make she dey there till she has to compete with another woman who would be surfing on her husband's . .... ...... Nonsense angry angry angry

This could be another dimension to it.

Most women do not understand that they should not put their husbands through stress before he has sex with her.

I always prefer hearing such matters from both parties because the woman and her methods might be wrong..
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 7:59am On Mar 10, 2015
striktlymi:


You presume too much!

Your comments suggest that the man turned to po.rn in marriage. This is not necessarily the case. Many men were already addicted to po.rn before they met their wives.

Also, a wife's performance in bed is no single determinant on whether the man stops his addiction to po.rn. The woman can be as good in bed as the next po.rn star but if the man is not ready to fight his demons, he will never overcome it.

It is rather insensitive to dwell on the woman's performance in bed (which by the way you have no idea of) as the cause (not even a possible cause) of the man's addiction. The man got addicted and he should take responsibility for his actions not the wife.

PS: It is unfair to ask any wife to compete with this kinda addiction given that the man's exposure cum addiction to po.rn exposes him to very many different ladies with very many different body shapes, different heights, very different skin colours etc.

Thus it is impossible for the wife to satisfy that which gives him satisfaction from po.rn because of the obvious, she is just one lady, with one body type, one skin colour etc while the man gets his feel from different po.rn stars not just one.


In addition to all I've typed regarding this "issue", I think the woman must be an obese meat eating, Eba/pounded yam/ fufu/ amala swallowing elephant that's let herself go.

So many Nigerians women have the mindset that they're free to balloon out of proportion once they get the ring on their finger.

I don't pity such women one bit.
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 8:01am On Mar 10, 2015
michaelwilli:
se oro niyen? So insensitive a talk.
Nevadles Sai Buhari

Speak English if you wanna communicate with me.

I don't do gibberish talk.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 8:01am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:


And how is watching porn a bad habit? Is he an impressionable child?

And if this "addiction" of his started way before marriage, why did she marry him then?




I guess u didn't even read the full story. Ur last question just proved it.

As for your first question, my answer wouldn't make any difference, (the question has already been answered). But I will suggest that if you have people or a person or institutions or books u consider an authority, u do a research on the issue of porn addiction. That will convince u more that any answer I would give.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 8:03am On Mar 10, 2015
vfactor:


I guess u didn't even read the full story. Ur last question just proved it.

As for your first question, my answer wouldn't make any difference, (the question has already been answered). But I will suggest that if you have people or a person or institutions or books u consider an authority, u do a research on the issue of porn addiction. That will convince u more that any answer I would give.

I will do no such thing. (research)
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Abiagirl777(f): 8:05am On Mar 10, 2015
[quote author=striktlymi post=31475864]

That may not be a problem for you or some other persons who aren't Catholics.

This lady and her husband chose to be Catholics hence the need for them to abstain from such.

[/b]The church has no business whatsoever with what a couple does in the confine of their bedroom.these rules have done more harm than good to its adherents.
My best friend's husband(a devoted catholic) said their church recognises the safe period/billings method as the only holy form of family planning, he followed it religiously but alas, she just gave birth unprepared.
He is still in shock and I told him emphatically
That he''ll keep having children everyear with his method because cycle .[b]
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by EfemenaXY: 8:06am On Mar 10, 2015
mifavour:



some men are insatiable. If u like do all the styles u know while
l bleeping they can't just stop watching indecency!


bottom line the man is an addict! at d same time stvpid

There is nothing wrong with the man.

Is he the one complaining?
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Nobody: 8:07am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:


I will do no such thing. (research)

I understand. Its a lot easier to sit in our homes and presume on peoples situation and circumstances, try them and judge them, than do research. I get it.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Samirana360(m): 8:13am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:


So why did she marry him then?

To change him? Bwahahaha!
Accordin 2 d story, she didn't knw. She started noticin dat abt 5years ago. After 15years of marriage
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Edusouls(m): 8:13am On Mar 10, 2015
Redlips22:
It's a bad habit..
Only Jesus.can save him
brother no jesus involved there,95% of men love pornography and i luv it too, it relaxes us both body and soul..the african woman is a wash out, she dosent even know how to satisfy her husband in bed and she dosent care..so men got to find their way...
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by smakati(m): 8:14am On Mar 10, 2015
rocksteady419:
Ive being carrying out a research on porn addiction for a period of aeon n so far my critical history n historiography of dis study has enlightened me to d fact dat d addiction has all d trappings of a spiritual saga. I find it very discombobulating n lugubrious dat dis addiction has nothing to do with a spouses dexterity in bed, even Jordan Fires husband or bf as d case may b can also b a porn addict despite d fact dat she possesses immeasurable bed skills n she squirts for africa
actually its jada fire, but don't ask me how I know

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by exx(m): 8:18am On Mar 10, 2015
Reading most of d comments all I can say is that d future of lots of families is in trouble.....or hopefully it's just kids that are commenting cry
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Godsbaby1(f): 8:24am On Mar 10, 2015
jimohibrahim:
she even said she prefers her hubby do drugs than that.. oh woman never wish for that. if you can't stop him then join him
i believe he still loves her, he just got little problem to sort out...
and she admits that she's old fashioned, pls change that about your self and your hubby will start fantasizing about you.. peace
u are right, may be she the kind of tie head gear even in bed, forget to watch her weight, wear big over sized gown, mcheeeeew, she need to wake up from letter writing and face her challange with some sexy actions, porn no gud ooooo

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by Edusouls(m): 8:27am On Mar 10, 2015
any woman his husband is indulging in watching porn while she is still there should be very ashamed of themselves,the african women should know that most of them are just women by appearance and looks,but not by action, they simply dont have what it takes to make a man feel that he is with a woman, they lack all the vital sexual skills in bed and are very stubborn and resistive to learn, very timid,very unappelling, holds back sex from a man at any slight upset, thinking it is the most effective way to get what she wants. The summary is that i dont know why wether it is their nature or the harsh enviroment, african woman just badly lacks the skills to love a man,baadly lacks it..so why are they complaining, men have to seek other ways to satisfy their fantasies..

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by adanduka: 8:32am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:


You still don't get it.

He is addicted to porn because it serves as a medium for him to subconsciously indulge in his fantasies.

The question is: why? Why does he have to turn to porn despite having a wife? Why can't she be what he watches.

She should shape up fast before this man acts on his fantasies with a real, live, babe...rather than running to confession with her Christian mother arms.

Inspiritus Sanctum.




You don't seem to realise that porn addiction can destroy a marriage.
What you see in porn is not what happens in a sexually fulfilled couples bed. Why would a man be more satisfied watching people have sex than having it?
Demon possession can cause these kinds of perversion.
So pls relax.

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by 989900: 8:34am On Mar 10, 2015
Buy my book, turning your wife into 'your' porn star. cheesy grin cheesy

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Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by toprealman: 8:38am On Mar 10, 2015
ALL THIS LONG GRAMMAR BECAUSE OF A PORN LOVING HUSBAND? IF THIS IS ALL YOU HAVE AGAINST HIM HOLD HIM TIGHT!
Re: Tears Of A Woman Whose Husband Is A Porn Addict- Read Now! by dewstar: 8:49am On Mar 10, 2015
EfemenaXY:


You still don't get it.

He is addicted to porn because it serves as a medium for him to subconsciously indulge in his fantasies.

The question is: why? Why does he have to turn to porn despite having a wife? Why can't she be what he watches.

She should shape up fast before this man acts on his fantasies with a real, live, babe...rather than running to confession with her Christian mother arms.

Inspiritus Sanctum.




I can see you know nothing about addiction. How much satisfaction can you give to a serial killer to stop him from killing? How much satisfaction can you offer a paedophile to prevent him from continuing to fantasize about sleeping with children? Bro, the human mind ain't simply an on and off switch. Truth is, give that man a 100 women to run his fantasies on and he still will prefer being satisfied by 2D porn. Most times, the only way to satisfy such a man is when he sits down on a sofa to watch another man Bleep his wife the way he sees it on screen. It probably will surprise you to know that a paedophile will likely not touch his own children, and a serial killer will not kill his own relative, So, most times for a porn addict watching others do it is where the satisfaction truly is.

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