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|Surrogate Mother by emilyone(f): 2:54pm On Jan 15, 2009|
The term surrogacy, does it work out here in NIgeria ?
There is this friend of mine who is so touched with the plight of married couples who have delay in child bearing
This makes her nurture the idea of being a surrogate mother someday .
does anyone in the house has an experience regarding this topic to share .
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Amiga4u(f): 7:09pm On Jan 15, 2009|
Im glad you brought this topic up because a friend of mine has been looking for a surrogate mother for a while now,she has heard of people doing it private but its extremely difficult finding any good one in Nigeria since there is no surrogacy Agency for it but she met 2 girls that were willing to become a surrogate mother for her but she didnt like there background so she didnt continue with them but she havent given up,she is still searching for anyone that will match her requirement.
which are the following are:
1.) the person much be healthy and can bear children and havent had any pregancy complications before ( a blood test and fertility test will be done to verify this )
2.) there will be a legal agreement between both the surrogacy mother and the baby parent( that will protect both of them,so that the surrogate mother wont refuse giving up the baby after birth and the baby parent wont refuse paying the full compensation fee after baby is born )
3.) She must be a woman of the age of 18 to 35, with a good background,preferably having her own child or several children. If the surrogate mother is married, her husband shall give a notarially certified written consent for participation in the extracorporeal fertilization program
4.) the person must be stable and have a setting height , weight and goodlooking.
5.) the person must be willing to go through IVF,Intra-uterine Insemination (IUI) or Donor Insemination (DI) and egg transfer.
6.) Must have full support of someone close to her (her spouse or family member ,close friend etc )just incase she is on bed rest or even just too big to get around or work, she will need the extra support and help of someone for her and her children if she have any.
7.) must be mentally and physically stable enough to go through a pregnancy and give up the baby in the end
8.) she must be willing to abort the pregnacy if any genetic disability was found during prenatal check up at easily stage.
9.) compensation fee will be agreed between the surrogate mother and her .
Note: My girfriend is willing to pay compensation for the surrogate mother to carry her baby,which include,allowance,medical care ,10 % of the compensation fee when she conceive and 90% when the baby is born.
so if your friend is interested or anyone is intrested she/they should drop her email address and my girlfriend will get back to the person.
best of luck.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by TOYOSI20(f): 1:40am On Jan 16, 2009|
Was wondering the exact same thing maself, . . . . .
but fortunately the above Poster has been able to shed light on the topic
Good Luck to Your Friend!!
|Re: Surrogate Mother by RasPwn(m): 2:19am On Jan 16, 2009|
Surrogacy is very controversial even in 'modern' societies because it goes against the traditional methods of reproduction and childbirth. You also need to be specific as there's a big difference between gestational surrogacy and traditional surrogacy. In gestational surrogacy, the surrogate is just the one who carries the pregnancy, the real mother gets pregnant and transfers the embryo to the surrogate. I'm not sure about the medical facilities in Nigeria but if I had to guess, I'd say gestational surrogacy is not so common because of the limited and not-so-developed healthcare system in Nigeria, like every third world country. I'm not saying it's completely non-existent but I'm guessing its for the rich ones.
In a place like Nigeria where there is so much pride in having your own child, traditional surrogacy is also not likely to be popular. You have to realize that polygamy is still legal in Nigeria so why would a man pay a woman to have his child when he has a better choice - marry that fertile 18 year old from the village.
Anyway, both forms go against the traditional methods and arena likely to be accepted in Nigeria.
I'm assuming what you want is a commercial surrogate, that's someone you pay, this may be your best choice because I don't see Nigerians being as altruisitic as that. Finding a commercial surrogate would be hard and probably expensive in Nigeria. You are likely to find a cheap surrogate in places like India if you can afford the journey, it's cheap and common there.
Above all, do not involve yourself in anything that's unethical. Don't take advantage of the poor who are likely to do anything for money, that's exploitation and it's wrong. Don't also do it because you're rich enough to afford it, commercializing childbirth and commodifying pregnancy is immoral.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by lucabrasi(m): 6:41am On Jan 16, 2009|
so would you rather the lady goes to a pastor or traditional healer who ll promise them babies?
there is nothing wrong in surrogacy if you search carefully and make sure the girl knows everything involved beforehand and you both have drawn up a legal agreement, my uncle who lives abroad did have the surrogacy thing with his wife in nigeria,and they have 3 healthy and beautiful boys who are his carbon copy,the girl was handsomely settled and last i heard she s living in a flat in opebi and doing her business
|Re: Surrogate Mother by RasPwn(m): 11:51pm On Jan 16, 2009|
I didn't object to surrogacy in any part of my post, did I? I only asked for people (women?) to try to balance their procreative liberty that allows them the right to have kids at any time they want, with anyone they wish and using any method they see fit with their procreative responsibility. Chikena.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Sissy3(f): 12:27pm On Jan 17, 2009|
i rather adopt
y dnt u do it 4 ur bestfriend or dnt u met all those long list qualities, conditions, and requirement u listed ?
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Angolobabe(f): 1:57pm On Jan 17, 2009|
mmm thats interesting,i can never be able to be a surrogate mother to anyone´s baby cos i cant give up any baby i carry in my womb weither gestational method or not but i have nothing against it ,it takes a women with a BIG heart to offer someone else the oppournity to be a mother and having their own child by being a surrogate mother weither paid or not and God will always bless the person for opening there heart to do this.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by ifyalways(f): 3:05pm On Jan 18, 2009|
I wud rather go for adoption.i sincerely doubt if surrogacy exists in Nigeria our culture,enviroment and traditions wud be a big hindrance to that.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Africanqueen2(f): 9:25am On Aug 05, 2010|
Amiga4u:Wish I've seen this sooner. Is ur friend still interested in having a surrogate mother? If she is mail me on email@example.com
|Re: Surrogate Mother by minute(f): 1:23pm On Aug 05, 2010|
I would consider it with a loving friend or relative. I wouldn't get involved
with a stranger . . . . too risky. .You never know how you're going
to feel until you're in it and if the surrogate is a stranger,things could get ugly.
Personally, I would adopt.A mother who needs a child and a child who needs a mother . . . it's a good match.
Good luck to your friend.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Gadols(f): 3:22pm On Aug 10, 2010|
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|Re: Surrogate Mother by Nobody: 11:17am On Jul 12, 2011|
emilyone:Hi, can you tell your friend to contact me through this email address firstname.lastname@example.org. I have someone who urgently needs her.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Uzed74: 4:22am On Jan 11, 2012|
I have a friend in need of a surrogate mother. Can you contact me? Akuko07@Yahoo.com
|Re: Surrogate Mother by moremi2008(m): 5:38am On Jan 11, 2012|
Why doesn't the husband just marry a junior wife and give the house maid bele and take the baby? Isn't that what typically happens in Nigeria? I don't understand this surrogacy thing. Can somebody please explain it better. Does the husband impregnate the surrogate and then the surrogate gives up the baby after birth?
|Re: Surrogate Mother by question(m): 12:47pm On Jan 12, 2012|
^^^ Google it.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by dasparrow: 3:02am On Jan 14, 2012|
|Re: Surrogate Mother by moremi2008(m): 3:06am On Jan 14, 2012|
Don't be stupid! You try finding out how surrogacy works in Nigeria on Google. Just say you're also pretty ignorant about it instead of being facetious.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by AreaFada2: 10:52pm On Jan 26, 2012|
I know somebody also in need of a surrogate mother.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by AreaFada2: 12:21pm On Jul 13, 2013|
I know somebody also in need of a surrogate mother.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by EfemenaXY: 2:28pm On Jul 13, 2013|
I doubt if surrogacy really works here in Nigeria of all places.
C'mon, I'd be hard pressed to find anyone doing such for a fellow sister much less a stranger from the goodness of their heart. Nah, don't think so.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by vivianc(f): 3:30pm On Jul 13, 2013|
Surrogacy is a sacrifice I know I can't make. A very dear friend whom I love asked me to be her surrogate mother, via IVF. Menh, it was a lot to take in. I couldn'T just wrap my head around the idea.
To start with, my poor mum would die of heart attack. I can't give up a child I carried in my womb for 9 months, no matter who is involved. Then how would my future husband take it? How about my career? My body nko? Would it ever be the same? NoT to think of how insanely painful the IVF is according to stories I have heard and read.
AfTer carefully considering all these, I declined. It did break her heart cos she was really hoping, it did break mine too cos I love her and I haTe to see her suffer psychologically. BuT.........................
Surrogacy is a lot, especially in this parT of the world.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by Cholls(m): 4:02pm On Jul 13, 2013|
My sisters don't u think there will be discrimination for women who does that in this part of the earth? Just asking
|Re: Surrogate Mother by AreaFada2: 8:28pm On Jul 14, 2013|
Cholls: My sisters don't u think there will be discrimination for women who does that in this part of the earth? Just asking
Well it's already going on, hopefully legally. In Africa people are more worried about what others would say instead of doing what they know is altruistic.
It was the thought going through my mind years back. In anatomy, all the bodies we dissected were whites.
And they all donated their bodies before they died.
So left to us black people, we would still not know how a diseased kidney, brain, liver, heart etc look like because nobody would want his body used.
We've got to move on, social conservatism hasn't really done us much good.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by honey86: 9:28pm On Jul 14, 2013|
I can consider surrogacy after I have finished giving birth to my kids and even then that person must be real special to me. pregnancy no be moinmoin not to talk of labour.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by TV01(m): 10:02pm On Jul 14, 2013|
honey86: and even then that person must be real special to me. pregnancy no be moinmoin not to talk of labour.
...that's when I personally feel comfortable about it. When it's altruistic - except say for incidentals - and preferably by someone related or extremely close.
Ras Pwn: commercializing childbirth and commodifying pregnancy is immoral.
I agree although not everyone will. I'd also switch the commercializing and commodifying in your line above.
lucabrasi: last i heard she s living in a flat in opebi and doing her business
Which suggests it's commercial. That's dangerous ground.
There is already surrogacy of sorts in Nigeria - they are called baby factories. In a corrupt and unregulated society like Nigeria...do I need to complete this sentence?
...and will Nigerian men be that amenable if the problem does not lie with them?
|Re: Surrogate Mother by AreaFada2: 11:09am On Aug 05, 2013|
Anyone interested please email above.
|Re: Surrogate Mother by nigerianescorts: 2:03pm On Dec 18, 2013|
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I wish all of you the best of luck.I know its not easy and i love bringing smiles on faces of couples and also help starting a new family
|Re: Surrogate Mother by surrogatesng: 2:06pm On Aug 28, 2014|
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|Re: Surrogate Mother by Katier00(f): 10:29pm On Aug 28, 2014|
Amiga4u: Im glad you brought this topic up because a friend of mine has been looking for a surrogate mother for a while now,she has heard of people doing it private but its extremely difficult finding any good one in Nigeria since there is no surrogacy Agency for it but she met 2 girls that were willing to become a surrogate mother for her but she didnt like there background so she didnt continue with them but she havent given up,she is still searching for anyone that will match her requirement.will be more than willing to be a surrogate mum, pm me if you need me, terms and condition appilied
|Re: Surrogate Mother by surrogatesng: 10:00pm On Jan 19, 2017|
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|Re: Surrogate Mother by simplyakinz: 9:04pm On Jan 20, 2017|
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