*Matured views & contributions only*
No Gender war please.. Male & Female get hurt the same when they are betrayed.
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In the real world, i am yet to see a relationship that survived infidelity especially when a Woman is the culprit and based on the advice i have read here on Nairaland about any thread regarding Cheating|Infidelity. I am inclined to get diverse views on this subject.
One of those stories that stick out, was that thread about the lady who confessed to her man & the man filled for a divorce.
People make bad choices sometimes without putting into consideration the consequence of their actions. She was wrong, she admitted her mistakes, Doesnt she deserve a 2nd chance?

1. Can you forgive your partner for cheating?

2. Where does Forgiveness comes into play in Marriage|Relationship?

3. Have you ever been cheated on before? How did you handle it, where you able to forgive & forget?
How long did that relationship last after that incident?

Do people deserve a 2nd chance when infidelity is involved.. Can a relationship survive it?

Kindly share your Experience & views. Thanks!

The women forgive , the men disimiss am

Oh nairaland my dramaland
When its from a woman, my husband cheated, u will read
Pls forgive him
Pray and fast
He loves you
Stick with him

But let it come from a man
Olorun oba oo
Ashewo
Divorce her
She's a witch

So much from dramaland
Truth is I haven't seen any man that forgives cheating sha
They are demons

The women forgive the husbands, but the men will divorce the wives, send am packing

Dyt:
Oh nairaland my dramaland
When its from a woman, my husband cheated, u will read
Pls forgive him
Pray and fast
He loves you
Stick with him

But let it come from a man
Olorun oba oo
Ashewo
Divorce her
She's a witch

So much from dramaland
Truth is I haven't seen any man that forgives cheating sha
They are demons

Loooooooool

My experience and views?

Another MTCHEEEEEEEEEEW topic!

KanwuliaJara:
My experience and views?

Another MTCHEEEEEEEEEEW topic!

We mustn't comment...you know?

Guys Terrible beings. They will make sure they publish your case on every publishable platform. But when they are caught, they claim men are polygamous in nature. Mtchewww

But men and women are different in many many ways. Women, being the stronger sex, are molded by nature to be patient and resilient in the face of great odds.
Women are the backbones of the home, who can always pick up the pieces to mend and rebuild when the man's libido threatens her home and family life.

Therefore, whenever the woman decides to stray, the moment the thoughts come to her mind and she follows through, the home is finished from the moment, even if it takes a while for the man to find.

That's why by the time the man finds out, he knows he realizes that his home is already broken.

Its pointless trying to forgive a woman for infidelity, because, women go through many different emotional stages before they taken that leap. One of those stages is demonize and condemn their husbands, justifying to themselves that he deserves to be dishonoured.

That is why it is nearly impossible, and not advisable at all to forgive an unfaithful wife.

Forgive my cheating wife? I dey craze?

Make e no happen at all....

It's GAME OVER! !!!

As for me, it has never happened to me, so, i can't categorically say this is what i'm gonna do but i pray it never happen.



There's a male colleague of mine who always say that if his wife cheat on him that he will forgive her because he too always cheat on her. He always say it with all seriousness, even though we don't what is in deep down his mind. But i think he knows that his wife can never cheat on him because i'm yet to see a man who forgives his wife of infidelity. However, if it happens and he actually forgives his wife, he has my respect because he knows he's the cause of his wife's infidelity.

My opinion, please.

dearpreye:
Forgive my cheating wife? I dey craze?

Make e no happen at all....

It's GAME OVER! !!!

but you will want your wife to forgive you if you cheat on her
Smh!

plaetton:
But men and women are different in many many ways. Women, being the stronger sex, are molded by nature to be patient and resilient in the face of great odds.
Women are the backbones of the home, who can always pick up the pieces to mend and rebuild when the man's libido threatens her home and family life.

Therefore, whenever the woman decides to stray, the moment the thoughts come to her mind and she follows through, the home is finished from the moment, even if it takes a while for the man to find.

That's why by the time the man finds out, he knows he realizes that his home is already broken.

Its pointless trying to forgive a woman for infidelity, because, women go through many different emotional stages before they taken that leap. One of those stages is demonize and condemn their husbands, justifying to themselves that he deserves to be dishonoured.

That is why it is nearly impossible, and not advisable at all to forgive an unfaithful wife.

Really?

Nairaland/Nigeria men never disappoints!

greatgod2012:


but you will want your wife to forgive you if you cheat on her
Smh!

I don talk my own ooo...I can't imagine it sef! !!

I can't!
I wouldn't want anyone to forgive me too cos I'm not gonna cheat on him...


Btw I've seen a man forgave a wife that cheated on him.
He's a good man.

What's with the general consensus that women's thought process prior to cheating is different from men's?

Women has maternal instincts and men's are made of rock?

Jezz NL never seize to amaze me everyday

*****

Can the 'Sad housewives' thread debaters move their baggage here pls, I want to read. TV01, Coogar, crackhaus, Peakabeu, lezz & co. pls proceed to the podium please??

@Question #3, I remembered my brothers and their friends gang beat the guy that cheated on me in high school. Not pretty.

I don't think the dude I'm currently staying with would want that.
Their eyes are wide and red like a big bad wolf ready to devour any stray parasite on their little sister's skin

@bold

Hehehehehe

plaetton:
But men and women are different in many many ways. Women, being the stronger sex, are molded by nature to be patient and resilient in the face of great odds.
Women are the backbones of the home, who can always pick up the pieces to mend and rebuild when the man's libido threatens her home and family life.

Therefore, whenever the woman decides to stray, the moment the thoughts come to her mind and she follows through, the home is finished from the moment, even if it takes a while for the man to find.

That's why by the time the man finds out, he knows he realizes that his home is already broken.

Its pointless trying to forgive a woman for infidelity, because, women go through many different emotional stages before they taken that leap. One of those stages is demonize and condemn their husbands, justifying to themselves that he deserves to be dishonoured.

That is why it is nearly impossible, and not advisable at all to forgive an unfaithful wife.

A cheat only deserves a second chance if he/she is really sorry for going astray and never does it again.
Second chance.
No third chance.

cococandy:
A cheat only deserves a second chance if he/she is really sorry for going astray and never does it again.
Second chance.
No third chance.

But your folks shout ONCE A CHEAT, ALWAYS A CHEAT. Now you're giving him a chance. ..That's pretty good...

dearpreye:


But your folks shout ONCE A CHEAT, ALWAYS A CHEAT. Now you're giving him a chance. ..That's pretty good...

who are my folks?
And who am I giving a chance.

cococandy:
who are my folks?
And who am I giving a chance.

A lot of the women folks don't believe a cheat can change. ..

cococandy:
A cheat only deserves a second chance if he/she is really sorry for going astray and never does it again.
Second chance.
No third chance.

Somebody seems to be accepting the fact that someone out there can bite outside.


A cheat would always cheat FACT - You don't fall into the puccy or on top of the diick
It's a well orchestrated plan to steal without being caught.
Cheat on me once and you're so gone.......

dearpreye:


A lot of the women folks don't believe a cheat can change. ..

Well.:.
If someone is a cheat, chances are they will probably do it again especially if they have the upper hand in the relationship and know that the other person can't leave easily.
At least any change would be when he or she decides to change and not because the victim was fasting and praying in red bra and pant or boxers
That's why I won't blame anyone who decides to leave after the first time but if they asked me, I would say if the offender realizes he or she has done wrong, then forgiveness should follow.
But of course a second offense means the first apology was bogus. Some people have experienced such hence they won't even consider forgiving a first offense if they move onto another relationship.

That's why I get pissed when some try to excuse cheating as nature. That's just making excuse for bad behavior and an implication that it can happen again or should be accepted as a norm or natural part of a marriage when it happens.

@ truckpusher too, read and learn my opinion.
Don't assume

cococandy:


Well.:.
If someone is a cheat, chances are they will probably do it again especially if they have the upper hand in the relationship and know that the other person can't leave easily.
At least any change would be when he or she decides to change and not because the victim was fasting and praying in red bra and pant or boxers
That's why I won't blame anyone who decides to leave after the first time but if they asked me, I would say if the offender realizes he or she has done wrong, then forgiveness should follow.
But of course a second offense means the first apology was bogus. Some people have experienced such hence they won't even consider forgiving a first offense if they move onto another relationship.

That's why I get pissed when some try to excuse cheating as nature. That's just making excuse for bad behavior and an implication that it can happen again or should be accepted as a norm or natural part of a marriage when it happens.

@ truckpusher too, read and learn my opinion.
Don't assume

Bia , I no assume anything oh

na talk we just dey talk na.
Wetin make my talk too dey pepper you like gbogbonise?

cococandy:


Well.:.
If someone is a cheat, chances are they will probably do it again especially if they have the upper hand in the relationship and know that the other person can't leave easily.
At least any change would be when he or she decides to change and not because the victim was fasting and praying in red bra and pant or boxers
That's why I won't blame anyone who decides to leave after the first time but if they asked me, I would say if the offender realizes he or she has done wrong, then forgiveness should follow.
But of course a second offense means the first apology was bogus. Some people have experienced such hence they won't even consider forgiving a first offense if they move onto another relationship.

That's why I get pissed when some try to excuse cheating as nature. That's just making excuse for bad behavior and an implication that it can happen again or should be accepted as a norm or natural part of a marriage when it happens.

@ truckpusher too, read and learn my opinion.
Don't assume

You're on point. I also believe cheating comes down to CHOICE. Once a person is determined not to cheat, I believe they can make good their promises. ...

Truckpusher:
Bia , I no assume anything oh

na talk we just dey talk na.
Wetin make my talk too dey pepper you like gbogbonise?

That reply was for dearpreye.
On second thoughts I thought you should read it too before you begin misyarn.
You know when you smoke that thing your posts no dey straight again.

dearpreye:


You're on point. I also believe cheating comes down to CHOICE. Once a person is determined not to cheat, I believe they can make good their promises. ...

100%

These days it's just difficult to catch a cheating partner unless one is very very jobless.

If I even just suspect am I go arrange you sotay I go come carry you like snail where you go dey chop something.

A cheating woman is a highway to her partner's grave while a cheating man is a ticking timed bomb.

cococandy:


That reply was for dearpreye.
On second thoughts I thought you should read it too before you begin misyarn.
You know when you smoke that thing your posts no dey straight again.

Now she's accusing me of doing drugs.

Kontinu, Ya'll believed caracta - I pity una

Truckpusher:
Now she's accusing me of doing drugs.

Kontinu, Ya'll believed caracta - I pity una

She accused you of same?
I wasn't even aware of such a thread.
Now that two people have said it. Mmm

cococandy:

She accused you of same?
I wasn't even aware of such a thread.
Now that two people have said it. Mmm

When last dem give you backhand?