RoyalRoy:


Hey....Are you the wife in question?





@Multicast, you need to make sure she sees a marriage councillor, she is still behaving like a girlfriend instead of a wife.

She needs to grow up and get mature!!!!

multicast:
she was a little bit of a stubborn and volatile person but its worse now.

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

Young03:

u call d two parties invold in a meetin(ur parents nd hers ) tell dem wats happenin,if afta all and it still continues..den u can send her on exile

akanoye15:
I hope is not the woman i divorced u went to marry? cus your story is just like mine. i lasted 3months with my ex wife. my brother divorce her b4 its too late. i almost lost my life loving and wanting my marriage to stay. move on for fresh air and change

multicast:
thank you very much, i know a lot of women say men dont like settling down this days but i must confess, this experience is enough to pack the bag and leave, if you love a woman and all that u get is a recurrence of what u abolish, its not worth it. but i love her so much, its why her manners and ways are affecting me so badly. i have an exam on the way and i cant focus. i told her about this and she dint say a word...still on malice episode

INDUSTRIALFAN:
(Take this advice if you can endure abit) when she starts her tantrums, keep calm like you are'nt noticing her screams, harsh words and attitude and give only calm brief answers when asked questions. E.g: "why did you miss my BBM call?" your response should be "Bad Network"then carry on like you are'nt noticing someone is talking(note: dont act like she's hurting you. carry Urself normal). When she's tired of screaming and starts with her malice, act like she isnt even there(pls never be the one to break it off cos she's expecting you to do so from her past experiences. She feels you cant survive without her. Like she has you in her palm) go about your daily routine like you are happy without her. Dont speak except when spoken to or when you cant find where sth is placed. e.g U cnt find the remote, simply ask " have you seen the remote?" if she doesnt answer you, dont push it... Just walk away like you no send but if she answers you, just say "OKAY thanks" and walk away happily.... she shouldnt last up to a week with this when she starts having thoughts that you are losing interest in her to someone else and she would bring it up.... Dont jump at her yet.... do a little "guy" for her. When she starts putting pressure on U with obvious concern, then you spill it to her and tell her how she's trying you make your marriage to her hell for you and tall her how you've chosen not to let her ruin your life by making yourself happy. Tell her you are gradually getting tired of her and her tantrums( note.. Say it sternly and mean it). One thing you have to know is that not all women appreciate it when a man makes it obvious He cant do without her so you give the impression that you can have a life without her(but deep withing pls dont mean it.. It should only be a hoax) when she feels like she might lose you, she'll have to start trying to please and make you happy..... Its just a mind game and note it that you dont actually mean any of the moving on thingy..... Its just to put a leash on her.....


Before I forget, please, NEVER EVER lay your hands on your wife or any woman.... Dont even think about it... Be a gentle man even if she's strangling you....

All the best Bro...

(was typing in a hurry so excuse whatever typographical errors you might find)

Dyt:


Wives are babies too and we can't always be matured
I didn't comment all along cos I am same

She is even soft

She is soft ke?





Will you pick fight with your boo each time he misses your call?

Will you hold malice for 3 days just so that your boo can come and beg you every time you fight?

Will u stress him out with nagging every time he does something wrong.?

Haba, she is just not matured.

She has to grow up.

Longest time sweetie

helen4:
sweety u're entitle to ur opinion, so am i. Did the guy say she's pregnant?

MARKone:
OP, I have to confess, I have experienced what you've just narrated, maybe even worse, some wives are just naturally stubborn and disrespectful, which might be attributed to their upbringing, bad friends and what have you. You see your marriage is still young, so don't despair, but the sooner you make her realise that you are the man of the house, the better for you. If you do not handle it well, it might lead to another thing, too much thinking, fear of coming home, hate and depression as the case is now. Oga you need to man up, if you want to save your marriage, be aggressive, am not saying you should beat her, if she doesn't talk to you, don't talk to her, if she doesn't serve you food, go to the kitchen and prepare food for yourself, Infact learn to ignore her, enough of the sorry sorry, it makes you look weak in front of her, abi is not you that married her

As you make your bed so you lie my brother. Anybody that tells you that, you can make a stubborn lady less stubborn by showing her more love, is not telling you the truth. Your union is still budding, you deserve a life time of happiness so does your wife, this, you need to make her understand.

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

innovestor:


Best post so far in my opinion. I would have advised exactly same. Its a mind game. It will change her attitude.

jauntty:
Keeping Malice is a "Lagoon Spirit".

nanalady:

RoyalRoy:


She is soft ke?





Will you pick fight with your boo each time he misses your call?

Will you hold malice for 3 days just so that your boo can come and beg you every time you fight?

Will u stress him out with nagging every time he does something wrong.?

Haba, she is just not matured.

She has to grow up.

Longest time sweetie

tiwiex:

He missed some stages. Time to restart. Treat her with less interest and love. Wonen mo dey respect I am sorry men oh. Leave allbthat I want a caring man and God fearing. What does that mean anyway? I am sur the OP has better chemistry with oyher women. Why does OP love her anyway?