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Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Dyt(f): 8:53am On Apr 10, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: Wives are babies too and we can't always be matured I didn't comment all along cos I am same She is even soft |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by HappyAdams: 8:55am On Apr 10, 2015 |
My dear Nigerian brother, ur case is exactly same with mine. The only difference is that my own marriage is about 5 yrs old. Pls, I will appreciate if we can have personal communication via either whatsapp, email, FB or phone that would help us ameliorate, cope or stop these. My email is [ ccn.abike@gmail.com ]. Pls, send me mssg (if possible) and I will send you both my phone number and FB and I will even prefer calling/visiting you. I understand your situation. There are more to share with u. I was there, I am there and I might be there. I pray almost every day because of this. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 8:56am On Apr 10, 2015 |
I must commend u fr asking for help.Av been married for about 27 years so i am giving you an opinion based on experience.When i got married,my buddies who got married same time with me went thru this type of experience.They did not speak up,those who did refused to take advise.What happened,the wives got worse,continued to nag even when they {d wives}were in total control.Yet the men got tired along the line and they finally separated or divorced.Their chilren are the worse for it today,because i also see these children. In my own case,my wife started that way.I made as much noise as she did,registered my displeasure at her attitude even when we are on an event.I mean i responded each time she started no matter where,{in public or at home.}yet i remained committed to the marriage because above all these episodes, i still loved her.We were also having our children.Somehow,in the process she began to see that it is not beneficial to any one if the woman decides to be a nag.The change started coming from her gradually,and i also adjusted as she did.The persistent quarells reduced.We are still happily married,facing lives challenges together.The love has also grown beyond my imagination. Do all you can to be in charge now.Leave love to be in the background.Women are like the stem of planted yam seed.If you dont direct it,it can grow towards the wrong direction. Reduce doing house chores,stop doing errands,do less talking,spring financial surprises some times and never you lift your hands on her.She will surely soften up.If she doesnt after you apply all thses,then be assured that she is not actually your wife. Finally,dont complain to any one.If she does and someone asks you,treat her complain with levity.It will turn out fine.Best wishes. 08022956777 Johnson 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Bruno3000(m): 8:57am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast:gbam!... Those were d signs of "things" to cum. Buh u ignored dem cos u were in love. Now, u hv to carry ur own cross while praying things get better as ur marriage matures. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by mcyemite(m): 9:02am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Maybe the sex isn't as good as u tot...straff her harder!!!!.the respect sef go too much.. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Abbey2sam(m): 9:02am On Apr 10, 2015 |
bro op; sometimes love is not just enough, you have to give a taste of her own medicine......women hates to be ignore, just ignore her when she start with her attitude, don't even notice her, all this is to monitor how far she can go without talking to you trust me she keep doing those things because you end apologising for what is not your fault every time........she's only taking advantage of that |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 9:11am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast:. My brother marriage is 4 better for worse, give her time maybe she will change beside I haven't hear her side of d story. Marriage is all about patient. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by papabaks(m): 9:12am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Young03: HAHAAA! the wrongest advice ever... Please this should be resolved between you both without any involvement of any family member. Bikoo |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by captainjoh(m): 9:15am On Apr 10, 2015 |
[quote author=lordizak post=32541897][/quote] very easy, since u have talk to her and she refuse to stop. always call her for morning and evening prayers, make her the prayers point and ask God to change her. she will get frustrated and quit the attitude |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by menix(m): 9:15am On Apr 10, 2015 |
akanoye15: Broz!!! U re d man, abeg take diz money nd lavish on ursef nd com bak 4 more.. Seriously u said my mind... Ordinary repeating mysef to a normal gal fwend gets her a red card. Som1 lik mii datz hates nagging, talkative nd d worst insultive partner wont even last 2 month under my roof cous she go go long vacation to her parents house... |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by angelsing(m): 9:16am On Apr 10, 2015 |
multicast:To start with am not married but I can share my little opinion from interaction with woman over the years...I have come to notice that sometimes most woman hardly take a straight correction from things they do wrong when it is common directly from their man and here is the best way to go about..When u sit her down that u don't like what she is doing, she won't understand exactly how u feel regarding what happen because it has never happened to her that way...Try and do exactly what she does to u. Like for example, you can flash her phone for one seconds so a missed call will appear on her fone without her knowing...When u get home query her like she usually does and blow it out like she does but all this should be in pretense not u quarreling her like u meant it for real...After the whole saga and when she starts to feel bad, draw her close and explain to her that this is how u feel when she does same thing to you....Only then will she realise how much her actions hurts u and then she can make a permanent correction...Do this in all cases she usually quarrel u about....Have often tried this on ladies and it has worked perfectly, hope it can work for you too...Best of luck |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by emiko(m): 9:18am On Apr 10, 2015 |
brother, the solution is prayer. pray with her and for her.make sure u kneel down hold hands and pray together morning n evening. i tell you its works. dont change ur attitude towards her infact show her more love. dont give up bro, it is well |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by innovestor(m): 9:20am On Apr 10, 2015 |
INDUSTRIALFAN: Best post so far in my opinion. I would have advised exactly same. Its a mind game. It will change her attitude. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by RoyalRoy(m): 9:20am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Dyt: She is soft ke? Will you pick fight with your boo each time he misses your call? Will you hold malice for 3 days just so that your boo can come and beg you every time you fight? Will u stress him out with nagging every time he does something wrong.? Haba, she is just not matured. She has to grow up. Longest time sweetie |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by senier007(m): 9:21am On Apr 10, 2015 |
I think I will be in good position to advise you, human being as scientist believe is very complex and sentimentally driven in our thinking, forget whether it's man or woman, psychology is the discipline that tends to study human behaviour, field of asthetics and ethics tends to elaborate more on how people think, but the major problem is the fact that corporate media, tv and radio adverts tends to redefine what love will be like or how it ought to be just to make gain, they shows us gift and loving your wife are the same, first they try to stress how to love your wife, but my advise is [/b]NEVER ALLOW YOUR EMOTIONS to play a role in your rational thinking[b] we love our children but tend to beat them lightly when they are wrong, but never raise your hand on any woman, women are complex they will always try you, the way you respond will form the basis of their conclusion on how you will treat other women, make sure u act in a rational way not emotional or else she will think anywoman out there will control you, she knows the kind of person your that's why she is always angry when u ignore her cuz probably she thinks you aren't man enough any woman can easily control you hence her behaviour, the only remedy for you is to treat her just like a normal person when she starts misbehaving, and treat her like your wife when she isn't misbehaving, try to be unpredictable that way u will put her in suspense and u will get more attention cuz u have become a competition for her. Always pray to God to give you the wisdom. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Chigold101(m): 9:21am On Apr 10, 2015 |
helen4:honey you are right. But i wasnt talking based on the said woman, am talking about SOME other women. So how are u doing this morning? |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Almightyperes: 9:21am On Apr 10, 2015 |
My dear life is spiritual, the kingdom of darkness is fully against marriage before it fulfils the commandments of God, there is no smoke without fire. Her minds is being talked to and manipulated by some unseen forces..... Simply take her for Christian deliverance and come thank me later... |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by greatcrown: 9:21am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Every marriage has one issue or the other. Your resolve to make it works is what keeps your marriage going. You definitely have what it takes to make it works so keep sharing it with your wife. The transformation you expect will not happen overnight. Remember what you are today; emotionally, intellectually, academically, etc took years to be formed. Just be patient with her. Keep talking to her. When there is any program in any place that has to do with marriage and relationship, go there together. Buy her books on related issues and encourage her to read. Very soon you will sing a better song. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 9:22am On Apr 10, 2015 |
I repeat my advise because you need to enjoy your marriage now.This time is the time for your house to be filled with laughter,jokes and love.You people are alone,so you can make love anywhere in the house.There should be bliss in the marriage now.She is strategically working on you to be in charge,maybe in response to advise from maybe her friends,sisters or even her mother. Never you succumb.Make sure you take charge now.If you dont,when you try to do so later it will turn to something else.You will then be accused of seing someone else.Just consider maariage a serious project.You have shown her the best and highest love by marrying her,Get down to the business of building your family.It is a serious business not love. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Jennifer89(f): 9:22am On Apr 10, 2015 |
op, During your morning or evening devotion open portions of the bible that talks about a woman being submissive and also read about the virtuous woman. After that pray together. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Nobody: 9:23am On Apr 10, 2015 |
op I hate to say this,but your wife won't change,atleast I know that from experience...I have a friend who is going through the same thing,he's been married for morethan two years now and his wife is only getting worse,like your situation too,the lady exhibited these traits while courting,but he thought she'd change,that obviously hasn't happened,right now he's considering leaving the lady,I hope that pans out well for him. the only way out I see here for you is alot of understanding and prayers,and since you love your wife so much,you can start by avoiding those things that set her off...if this doesn't work then you should let her know that you can't tolerate her behaviour any longer,if she continues then she should be prepared for the consequences...she's probably confident that you're going nowhere hence the way she behaves. goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Olumi4eva: 9:24am On Apr 10, 2015 |
MARKone: thank u bro, u save me d time of typing dis,u spoke my mind. @ op pls take dis at least change ur method for once n try dis for a month or two n c d diffeerence |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by fanex: 9:24am On Apr 10, 2015 |
guy, ere is one thing you need to make her understand "marriage is just a piece of paper" make her understand that you can still walk out on her. if you canitnue with this your new wife, you will die young. everyone is entitled to happiness. i dont think you have found yours just yet. here is what i always tell mine, if you become a nuisance even after 10 years of marriage and all the kids in the world, i will still leave you. multicast: 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by akamu2014: 9:25am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Hi, My name is Michael. I read your thread, and I understand better. First foremost...Marriage is a journey between two people with different character, habits, and attitude.....I want you to know that your Marriage will be successful, if you want it to be.... solution: So you must imbibe the spirit of patience....which is what is lacking in many homes...the bible says add to your faith, virtue, and to virtue, knowledge, temperance, and to temperance patience....you must be patient with her....most times just keep quiet, when she talks..dont talk back to her..at least thank God she also apologizes.... Secondly may be she is a mood Player...people who occasionally changes their mood.... solution: understand her...and ask God to give you wisdom to deal with the situation...No pastor can help you....only GOD...to get the best...seek His face, the holy bible says...does any man lack wisdom, let him ask from God who giveth liberally to all men.... Thirdly: also PRAY WITHOUT CEASING....pray for her more, and ask God to make your marriage work better...in marriage we learn, we keep learning, until we get there...i hope you understand |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by LyfeJennings(m): 9:26am On Apr 10, 2015 |
U need to start treating her the way she treats U. Women are naturally that way, if U dont make her feel what she makes U feel. She would NEVER understand what U mean |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 9:28am On Apr 10, 2015 |
innovestor:thats wassup.... Ur head dey there .. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by nanalady(f): 9:31am On Apr 10, 2015 |
jauntty: |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by jauntty: 9:33am On Apr 10, 2015 |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Dyt(f): 9:33am On Apr 10, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: Yes she is cos it's the man here I don't keep malice and he knows what to do not to keep malice with her The thing is this dude is just fed up The whole marriage thing now makes it feel like she's choking him We don't grow like this over night This is my kind of person that's why I can so fit on well in her shoes The OP has stopped doing something's he used to do Let him search within himself and find the truth Been fine jor Shey u gave me a yellow card na Iyamu watching u in 9D 1 Like |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Donpizzle(m): 9:34am On Apr 10, 2015 |
if u show am luv she no reciprocate.......CHANGE AM FOR HER. |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by Safari29: 9:36am On Apr 10, 2015 |
hmmmmm, *in 2face voice, No be small thing oh |
Re: My 2 Months Old Marriage Is Crashing - HELP ME by boluyongp(m): 9:37am On Apr 10, 2015 |
tiwiex: My guy, you are right especially about having chemistry with other women.. Me sef, I dey wonder why OP loves her.. Maybe they've jazzed OP.. |
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