She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience - Family (2) - Nairaland
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience (2939 Views)
My Serial Cheating Husband Keeps Begging For Forgiveness / Your Grandma Is 95 Yrs And If She Needs A Surgery Of N15m And You Have N16m? / I've Been Combing My Conscience,was I Wrong? I Need Someone To Help Analyse This (2) (3) (4)
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by Qualer: 7:42am On Apr 12, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: This babe as you fine reach, you like secrets like this? na waa o. Your kind person go don commit enough, but you go sabi hide am well well, chai!!! no wonder you sabi plenty about matters like these!!!! I go like meet you finally sha make I sabi you wella!!  1 Like |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by Qualer: 7:44am On Apr 12, 2015 |
Joavid: As toto no get meter, wahala dey o!!! |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by Nobody: 8:12am On Apr 12, 2015 |
I see all the fellow ex-runs girls are telling her to shut up and "leave the past behind"  .. but you see, life isn't like that.. she may have eventually gotten a sucka to marry, but her own conscience won't let her be... that's karma for you. @OP, I suggest you open up to your man.. I don't think you'll ever have peace about this issue till you do. Afterall, he's your husband and I'm sure you would expect him to be honest (should reverse be the case). |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by crackhaus: 8:57am On Apr 12, 2015 |
LOL |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by Nobody: 2:39pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
4giveness: Why do you feel responsible for his success? Its ok to want him to be more but to hold yourself responsible for his success I don't get that I mean you are not God so where is this idea of being responsible for other people's success coming from? You need to forgive yourself. |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by KevinDein: 7:41pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
so basically what you are trying to tell us is that in your younger days you open your legs for any man that says hi to you. you had no class....what a waste. I pity your poor husband. |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by thorpido(m): 8:29pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
4giveness:The biggest problem you have now is your mindset.What has your past got to do with his present.If he works hard and is prayerful,he will make progress.Rid yourself of the wrong mindset! Why do some ladies like to answer this question of how many men you have slept with?Why do some men even ask the question? |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by misfab(f): 8:50pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
i think ur problem is...u hav a happy family, God forgave ur sins n blessed u beyond wat u eva imagined n sumhow d devil's tryna tell u u dont deserve it. u want to hav a problem n then come here to hav a pityparty. dear...just move on wit ur life. God hqs forgiven n forgotten. maybe u shuld jus give back....mentor promiscuous gurls n give back to d society. ......sumthins are beta left unsaid 2 Likes |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by KanwuliaJara: 9:14pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Another "MTCHEEEEEEEEEEW" topic! 2 Likes |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by phabulous88(m): 2:18am On Apr 13, 2015 |
cococandy: A very senseless comment. 2 Likes |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by danot1030: 11:38am On Apr 13, 2015 |
I dont know why some of you assume that calling up your past makes the present better or think will give you any future. If you spoil what God is doing for you because of your stupidity then you should prepare to go for another round of deliverance. You said you are born again but it is obvious you are ignorant of Rm.4:7-8. When God has forgiven and forgotten your sin, why are you digging it up again? To God such past does not exist in your record, it only exists in your mind 1Cor.5:17. Try and forgive yourself of the past and convinced your mind that such past never existed since you are a new creature, so you wont go and destroy your home and end up blaming it one witch in your village that is innocent of it. |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by streetsoldier1(m): 4:58pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
Still struggling to believe this post is real...but then, 60men thatz not so much....and confessing is a function of who ur man is...I feel sorry for your man and wish u all the best, but I feel if he's matured at heart, he will forgive and u guys will move on, engage in lots of prayers before telling ur man anything,consult ur pastor too. |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by SITS: 8:18pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
Your hubby already knows about your past life whether 4 or 60 men it makes no difference. Don't dig up your sordid past by trying telling him the exact number of men as this could have sever implications for your happy family. God bless. |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by eckersley: 9:11pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
]I don't think your problem or guilt is about telling your husband about the number of men you have slept with. The guilt you're feeling is about lying to your husband. The problem is captured in the emphasis above The guilt is about lying and not about the number. Then as for those guys and girls shouting 60 MEN YOU'VE SLEPT WITH IS A LARGE #, I have this for u: You are all Pharisees. Read thru my posts for my stance on premarital sex- ZERO TOLERANCE. I BLV EVERYONE SHD MARRY AS VIRGINS. BUT for a girl whose first sexual encounter was at age 8, commoooon, that number is considerable. Most girls and guys commenting hv had sex with more than that number fr secondary sch to tertiary institution alone. Some clocked dt number just in d tertiary institution alone. I'm in no way justifying her actions in any way. Old things hv passed away. So back to the matter. Is your husband a Christian? Did he ask u abt ur past sexual partners or u told him ursf? Did he reciprocate by telling u his? Did he tell u he was a virgin at the time he met u and that u r d first lady she ever intimated wt? Or did he keep silent about the abv questions altogether after u had told him abt ur 'past'? In wch case, something is fishy abt his own past. Did u see a marriage committee b4 getting married? Ur r guilt ridden COS U LIED. Trust me on this one. Here's my advise for u: Pray and fast abt the situation fr 6am till a minimum of 12 midday for 3 days Pray fr 12 midnight for at least an hour during d 3days of fasting. Pray for forgiveness and divine direction and banish all demons and evil thots from ur life and marriage. Pray against powers working to undermine ur marriage. Ask God to prepare ur husband's heart to readily forgive u. Read ur Bible extensively too. See an elderly male marriage counsellor during this period. I recommend a male cos he knows how ur husband will take d truth being a man himself. Tell him you LIED abt the number of men BUT DON'T TELL HIM THE ABT D # (60 in this case), even if he presses u. NOTE: THE CONCERN/EMPHASIS IS D LIE AND NOT THE NUMBER. Just tell him d number is different (don't specify if it's more or less- it's different & that's all)and listen to his advise. My advise: immediately after meeting d elder and completing ur fasting & vigil program, meet ur husband on a cool evening when he's happy, has had his bath n favourite meal. Tell him u hv bn guilt ridden lately. But ask him to assure u he's not going to ask any further questions & dt u promise not to lie to him anymore. Also, if there are other 'harmless' areas u lied, add these also so d focus is not on that of d sexual partners alone. Say the one abt previous sex partners first, before mentioning the 2 other harmless lies. E.g Sweetheart, I've bn feeling guilty abt some lies I told u in d past. Pls assure me u will forgive me & will ask no further questions abt them TODAY OR the D FUTURE COS UR DOING SO MAY put me in an invidious/unfair position. I open up to u cos d Holy Spirit has bn convicting me lately, because of my deep love for u and cos I want to remain a TRUSTED wife to u. After getting his assurance not to probe any further & to forgive u, go ahead. Start first wt d one abt # of sex partners so u get it out of d way fast. Honey, 1st I lied to u abt d number of guys I had slept wt. D number is MORE dn I told u. I lied cos I was ashamed (DONT SAY 60. JUST SAY THEY ARE MORE THAN 4) IF HE ASKS U HOW MANY, REMIND HIM HE PROMISED NOT TO PROBE ANY FURTHER AND GO TO UR NEXT CONFESSION. SHD HE INSISTS, ABORT THE CONFESSION, WALK AWAY AND ACT OFFENDED WITHOUT VERBALIZING IT THAT HE BROKE HIS WORD NOT TO PROBE. HE WILL COME AND BEG U AND LISTEN TO UR REMAINING CONFESSION. 2. On to d harmless lies Sweetheart, I hid ur car key d other day cos I wanted u to spend time wt me. The key wasn't actually missing. 3. Then to the 3rd harmless lie. Now, wait for his comments and forgiveness. I can assure u dt if u settle ds in the spirit wt prayers et al, d physical part shd be a walk over. Remember Queen Esther and the King God be wt u and ur marriage. |
| Re: She Needs Forgiveness And A Clear Conscience by eckersley: 9:19pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
4giveness:Endeavour to read my counsel https://www.nairaland.com/2249395/she-needs-forgiveness-clear-conscience/1#32689610 |
Should I Marry Her? / Very Urgent Pls / Family Planning Saga Between Married Couple See Chat
(Go Up)
| Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 56 |