(mistakenly posted this in the literature section sorry)

A friend of mine recently had an insane fight


with his wife over an sms he’d recieved from a female colleague. Heres what happened.

About a couple of days earlier, he’d bought a really nice fountain pen for this colleague of his on her birthday.Understandably, the lady sent him an sms expressing her gratitude. Harmless enough right? Well, his wife sure didnt think so.

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In the style of a true seasoned CSI investigator/hacker,


his wife had unlocked his phone, and discovered the sms.


She basically started a riot after that.


Being a very close friend of the couple, I didn’t see what all the fuss was about.Well, that was until I saw the sms.It went like this;

“Your Pen is very nice.I am enjoying it very well.Thank you!” .As I read it, It dawned on me that she’d mistakenly typed “pen” and “is” as one word.

Enough said!


Anyway, the question is, should couples (married/unmarried) have access to each other’s phones?

This is a slightly controversial topic.I have asked several people (men/women)this question.Its just crazy the sort of responses they’ve given me.I will show you a few.


* “If my wife touch my phone I go slap am well-well!”


*”I and my husband go through each other’s phones all the time.Its no big deal!”


*”Biko,Prevention is better than cure.I must know what is in his phone at all times!”


*”Phone passwords are not allowed in my house.Period!”


*”Trouble no good.Make she no touch my phone abeg! “


*One of the major elements of a relationship is trust.I trust her, she trusts me.Our phones aren’t an issue!”


*”Mbok, I don’t want high BP.Wetin eye c naim dey spoil mind.He can keep his phone!”


Here’s my take on this.No two relationships are exactly the same.It depends on what’s comfortable for the two of you.Personally I don’t think there’s anything wrong with couples having access to each other’s phones.But like I said, it depends on the two of you.I’m very big on Honesty and trust in relationships sha.I’m also big on privacy too.Especially if your dating or married to the equivalent of an NSA field agent who’s always on the look out for drama.







Where there’schoice s to phones or not as long as there’s honesty and trust between us, it’s all good.




Like everything else in life it’s a choice.So choose wisely.Enough said.

What’s your opinion?
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If couples should have access to each other's punny and preek, what then is phone?? Hian!

*skips the post* yes

falconey:
*skip the post* yes

[size=14pt] ignore the post? yes [/size]

Capital NO

nt ma biz.

Yes, Understanding is all that matters in a union, it should not be a big deal, so far u ve nothing to hide. My gf even helps receive my calls n reply some of my chats n vice versa.

I won't blame the wife for reacting riotically. In a world were anything goes, the word 'Pin' could be mistaken for u know what. I just dont understand why some men find it dificult to allow their wives access to their phones. If u have nothing to hide u have nothing to fear.

What u dont know will not hurt u. If couples poke into each others privacy without regards, quarrels and misunderstandin may erupt.I suggest for d safety of any relationship its important we feign ignorance smtimes.Trust is key nevertheless...

@OP
it all depends on A) the type of union you are in and B) the type of partner you got.

If he lets me have access to his own, then he can have mine too

Nothing to hide, right?

Yes they should.
Not saying be checking everyday or something but it should not be like they both hide their phones, have passwords and all that .