Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by philiancoop(m): 8:30pm On May 31, 2015 |
Toks2008:
I am not talking about sex between unmarried couple but marrying a divorce who has a righteous backing for her action.
We must always have divorces for one reason or the other and they have to remarry. What I'm saying is that it is wrong to marry a divorcee, divorced for any reason, ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by hizaya61(m): 8:38pm On May 31, 2015 |
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Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by lezz(m): 9:09pm On May 31, 2015 |
Acidosis:
Lol, I'm single but an 'older' woman (or age mate) would make a perfect match in so far as I get the most relevant attributes.
Now to your question, God wanted someone who can effectively watch over the garden. A woman is often times called a weaker vessel so how can God commit such an assignment in the hands of a woman given the presence of dangerous preys (Serpent)?
A woman will always be a woman whether she's younger, mate, or slightly older in age (not necessarily appearance or stature).
A younger wife who earns more than her husband would still stylishly insult her husband. A younger wife who is more educated and brilliant would still condemn her husband at slightest provocation. The fact that she's slightly older in age doesn't mean she's bigger (in size), more intelligent or earns more.
Ohhh sweet heavens!!!! Please try and date a slightly older babe (e.g. 26 vs. 27 or 28) and come back to share your testimony. Make sure you love her sincerely and watch the outcome. With all due regards, God created Adam first as the source, progenitor, founder and source of the human race. It has to be a HE, not just any Human. God Almighty is a HE, HE is the source and founder of ALL that was created. HE created a HE in Adam to be the Foundation and the source of the Human race. That's why when Eve was created, it would have been easier for God repeating the way he formed Adam - from the dust but He had to apply the first known Anastasia in Human history by blowing Adam to sleep and performing the first ever major surgery by taking out the side bone of Adam to create Eve. Period . full stop. There was a considerable AGE gap between Adam and Eve for me. God has finished creating Adam, given him all the instructions and work to do. Adam had finished naming the animals and fishes and there has been enough time for God to watch and observe Adam as lonely before he decided to create his help meet, the woman, Eve. 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Acidosis(m): 9:15pm On May 31, 2015 |
lezz: With all due regards, God created Adam first as the source, progenitor, founder and source of the human race. It has to be a HE, not just any Human.
God Almighty is a HE, HE is the source and founder of ALL that was created. HE created a HE in Adam to be the Foundation and the source of the Hunan race.
That's why when Eve was created, it would have been easier God repeat the way he formed Adam - from the dust but huge just to apply the first known Anastasia in Human history by blowing Adam to sleep and performing the first ever major surgery by taking out the side bone of Adam to create Eve. Period . full stop.
There was a considerable AGE gap between Adam and Eve for me. God has finished creating Adam, given him all the instructions and work to do. Adam had finished naming the animals and fishes and there has been enough time for God to watch and observe Adam as lonely before he decided to create his help meet, the woman, Eve. How old was Adam when God removed his side bone? How come Eve grew faster to compete with Adam's physique? "for this reason will a man and a woman leave their parents, and they shall become husband and wife" NOT for this reason will an older man leave his parents to get a younger bride" |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by gokuu(m): 9:23pm On May 31, 2015 |
Is it just me or is this post from 1815? When men are not are not very successful, it's so easy to jump to the Bible and dredge up a lot. Well, being the flaming Liberal I am, I beg to disagree on all these out-of-touch ideas! 3 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by mystiqueDZ(f): 9:53pm On May 31, 2015 |
chrmn1:
Ill take you up on point no. 5 where you said every right thinking lady would cover up. Imho, you dribbled your way past that point as he didn't challenge ladies covering up but ladies dressing imodestly. Dear Sir....imho one man's bum short is another man's thongs..... |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 12:56am On Jun 01, 2015 |
Viciyus:
Read the history of creation, he initially made a man and a woman right?
Those days there were not enough resources, so let men ask you something, is it a sin to marry your sister?
You will said yes, but why God permitted those people to marry there sisters like Abraham and the rest?
All your acesstor marry more than two woman for your information, go read the life of jacob, he work for good seven years just to marry the love of his life but the man give him the first daughter, he now have to rework for another seven years,
Back to your statement, he was talking about divorce.
http://bible.com/1/mat.19.4-8.kjv And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Read the last statement: " because of the hardness of your heart suffer you to put away your" wives" Notice say he put the wives plural ;d
Boy, you cant tell me nonsense, dont just quote half scripture and said this is it. The scripture is not meant to quote half way,
I have did methodology, in the bible, even want to extend of studying Greek,
So boy, go and study your Bible well
Bros, I believe he was addressing more than one person at a time, that's why he used 'wives'. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by mekonglobal(m): 1:05am On Jun 01, 2015 |
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hahahaha, dis was a funny one, i must say. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 2:41am On Jun 01, 2015 |
Lol! This is madness. It's prejudice, sexist and ageist |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by oyeludef(m): 7:33am On Jun 01, 2015 |
Viciyus:
Read the history of creation, he initially made a man and a woman right?
Those days there were not enough resources, so let men ask you something, is it a sin to marry your sister?
You will said yes, but why God permitted those people to marry there sisters like Abraham and the rest?
All your acesstor marry more than two woman for your information, go read the life of jacob, he work for good seven years just to marry the love of his life but the man give him the first daughter, he now have to rework for another seven years,
Back to your statement, he was talking about divorce.
http://bible.com/1/mat.19.4-8.kjv And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Read the last statement: " because of the hardness of your heart suffer you to put away your" wives" Notice say he put the wives plural ;d
Boy, you cant tell me nonsense, dont just quote half scripture and said this is it. The scripture is not meant to quote half way,
I have did methodology, in the bible, even want to extend of studying Greek,
So boy, go and study your Bible well
guy if you like make you do literature review. Ephesians 5:32-33 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2-4 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband. The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does TDTMN(teacher don't teach me nonsense according to fela kuti) |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by ndiyeauwa: 9:26am On Jun 01, 2015 |
lezz: without facts to counter the OP's points, your post has been confined to the dustbin.
Lol @ Mr "Trolling for LEZZure" So, as I said before, the OP's post STILL reeks of IGNORANCE! NO FACTS NEEDED, the whole post stinks of MISCONCEPTIONS! |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by gbodimowo(m): 9:28am On Jun 01, 2015 |
postmann: “I have perceived among the youths, a young man lacking sense, passing along the street near her corner, taking the road to her house” (Proverbs 7: 7-8 )
Marriage - a lifetime covenant, an irrevocable oath reconized by GOD, man and spirits, separable only by death. With this truth in mind, a man has to be very careful and wise when considering marriage. And if you follow the counsel of GOD, HE will go before you to lead you to the right path.
NOTE: This is not a sexist post. It's only a guide for men intending to get married.
So here's the 10 women to avoid when considering marriage:
1. THE UNBELIEVER: Scripture is replete with exhortations against such marriages (in both the Old and New Testaments). Contrary to popular misconception, God’s prohibition against marriages to foreign women in the Old Testament was not due to racism. Instead, God was simply preventing the spread of idolatry. Israel, God’s chosen people in the Old Testament, represented what Christians would later represent in the New Testament. Hence, God’s prohibition against marrying an unbelieving woman in the New Testament (2 Cor 6:14) is simply the extension of God prohibiting a Hebrew man from from marrying a Canaanite woman in the Old Testament (Deut 7:3-4). “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following ME to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you” (Deut 7:3-4). What then, is a believer? A Christian essentially is someone who believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ. What then, is the gospel? The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just. He therefore, must condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell; 2. You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God’s wrath in hell after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf. 3 days later, Jesus resurrected from the dead; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life.
2. THE DIVORCEE: Jesus clearly taught that unless the first marriage ended due to a partner’s sexual infidelity, a second marriage is to be considered invalid and adulterous. A divorced woman, therefore, is off limits for a Christian man. Unrepentant adultery being a sin that prevents one from obtaining eternal life (1 Cor 6:9). “If she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:12). “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9).
3. THE OLDER WOMAN: Not a sin, but certainly not God’s ideal. God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph 5:25) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you. Again, if you’re a man and you’re already in such a marriage, then honor it till the day you die–it’s still a valid marriage and divorce is not an option! However, if you’re not yet married but thinking about an older woman I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason!) created Adam before Eve in the First Marriage. Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority! Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:12-13). Evidently, within the First Marriage, God intended chronology (age) to be a reason for authority. Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up God’s wisdom as demonstrated in the Bible: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)
4. THE FEMINIST: There’s no room within Christendom for the “Christian feminist.” Though women and men have equal value in the eyes of God (Gal 3:28), they certainly have different God- given roles. Any woman who tries to usurp her husband’s authority or even claims to be a co- leader with her man is gravely dishonoring the God who created her to be subject and obedient to her husband (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1 Pet 3:1). Eve was distinctly created “for” man, a point that the apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Corinthians 11 when he writes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority. Look for a woman who agrees with you in this very vital God-ordained relational dynamic.
5. THE IMMODEST-DRESSER : Sexy might inadvertently catch your eyeballs, but it shouldn’t catch your heart. The way that a woman is willing to expose herself says much about her heart:
“And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart” (Proverbs 7:10).
The text in Proverbs explains that a woman will dress in a certain way to catch a certain type of man. Don’t be that man. Don’t be the fool who’s led by his hormones instead of the Holy Spirit. Remember: you want godly, not gaudy.
6. THE GOSSIPER/SLANDERER: Women may love to talk, but there’s wisdom in looking for a woman who speaks with wisdom. Gossip and slander are not good things to have in your marriage. Desperate housewives make for desperate husbands. “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13).
7. THE CHILDBIRTH AVOIDER: Do not marry a woman who is not willing to have children of her own. In the Christian worldview, there is absolutely no room for two married, biologically capable, human beings to remain intentionally child-less. If you are adverse towards having children, then there’s a simple remedy for that: single-hood. However, if God has called you to marriage, then He actually expects children. Both the New and Old Testaments are very clear on this teaching: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking ? Godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15).
8. THE WANDER-LUSTER: There’s nothing wrong with the occasional family vacation. There is something very wrong with a girl who regularly needs to be “out of the home.” The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God. Believe it or not, Scripture speaks repeatedly about such women: “She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home ” (Proverbs 7:11); “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house . And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to” (1 Timothy 5:13).
9. THE CARIEER-FIRST WOMAN: Now, I want to clarify something here. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young children while she’s working, then something is wrong. I understand that there might be a season of life where the wife might have to be the main bread- winner due to her husband’s unemployment, but it should not be the desired norm. The woman ought to be willing (and even desirous–to some extent) to give up her job for the sake of raising her kids in the Lord. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (1 Tim 5:14).
10. THE DEVOTION-LESS WOMAN : Is the woman having a regular, daily devotional time with her God? If she doesn’t love the Lord now, chances are, she won’t love the Lord after marriage. (Don’t delude yourself–you’re not going to change her.) You want to marry a girl who has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Jesus (not you) has to be the first man in her life. Here are some good questions to ask: Does she have an active prayer life? Does she have a heart for evangelism? Is she hungry for God’s Word? What does her pastor think about her? Do you remember this account from Scripture: Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. [39] And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. [40] But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” [41] But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, [42] but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42 ESV) Marry the Mary (no pun intended). Such women have picked “…the good portion, which will not be taken away” from them. God be with you men. Strong families start with strong wives. Choose wisely and choose in the Lord!
I disagree with Mathew 19:9 |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Tex42(m): 9:38am On Jun 01, 2015 |
Nice write-up op. This one is really a life changer. 2 Likes |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by lezz(m): 9:55am On Jun 01, 2015 |
ndiyeauwa:
Lol @ Mr "Trolling for LEZZure"
So, as I said before, the OP's post STILL
reeks of IGNORANCE!
NO FACTS NEEDED, the whole post stinks of
MISCONCEPTIONS! @ bolded, I think you just gave me a brilliant idea to editing my signature. At topic, if you will highlight a point in the OP's post then no one will think your reaction a personal attack in the harsh reality of the truth. It is sometimes, easier living a lie, isn't it? 1 Like |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Creamish(f): 12:58pm On Jun 01, 2015 |
erico2k2:
Post such as number 2 is what people take out of context and form their own sect.If God can forgive Saul who sort fo Christians and killed them and changed his name so that he delivered plenty how much more of a divorcee who was at the time of marriage naive to know what it realy meant to be married and there fall short of her obligation.SO you my friend be very careful of what you think and post in public forums as you know, religious incitement is getting considered as a criminal act.This is 20015 we should read more meaning into the word in the Bible and understand the context in which such views where made,some of them do not and no longer apply to today's society.I'm more than open to discus this with you if you have the time. I agree. If the woman divorces the man due to constant beating/ threat to life issues....or mayb the man lied about his genotype & their union would be detrimental to their unborn (a case I know to be true as I know someone who was in this situation).. is she to spend her life alone just cos its not "divorce based on adultery"?... The same book says "Thou shalt not kill"..yet King David killed many thousands including Uriah and took Uriah's wife as his own.. Was he condemned? Life isn't black and white. Variations in our daily life pattern results in an addendum/modification of certain rules/laws. God alone is the ultimate judge so don't make decisions for Him. #my tots.. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by BlaqJew: 9:39am On Jun 06, 2015 |
mystiqueDZ: [right][/right]Balderdash!!!!!!!!!
1. THE UNBELIEVR: Who is an unbeliever? The lady that do not believe your own church doctrine?The one that belives in Allah or just that agnostic/theist lady? 2.THE DIVORCEE: Please do answer me dear one...Would you love for your sister to have a second chance at marriage if God forbid the first one was a disaster? 3. OLDER WOMAN: By older what do you mean? Months older,years,decades?if you meet a loving soul who is ready to respect you et al,it is not ideal because she is few years older? 4.FEMINIST: I wouldn't digress on this one but am very sure you do not want a yes sir,yes sir lady....... 5. IMMODEST DRESSER: Hmm no right thinking lady would not cover herself..... 6. GOSSIPER: Please do tell....how do you know a lady who gossips? 7: CHILD AVOIDER: I love kids so I don't know how a woman wouldn't want one or more..but what if the man do not want kids as well....is it ideal/ christlike? 8.WANDERLUSTER: Hmmm you got me there....... 9.CAREER FIRST: A real woman balances her family and work.... 10. DEVOTION LESS: If I forget to read my daily manna every morning....does it mean am not devoted?
The interesting thing about the bible – like the constitution – is that you can use it to justify just about anything if you put your mind to it. Pick a little bit here, paste a little bit there, and voila! You have your own doctrine......
You are misguided, problematic already. I'm sure you read your bible up side down, since you copy and paste to justify your folly. Christianity is not a religion. Not what you think at least. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by mystiqueDZ(f): 9:41am On Jun 06, 2015 |
BlaqJew:
You are misguided, problematic already. I'm sure you read your bible up side down, since you copy and paste to justify your folly. Christianity is not a religion. Not what you think at least. #yawns..... |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 2:24am On Jun 08, 2015 |
Not a Christian, but that is some list! I'm, like, half that list - 1/10,4,7,8,9.
GL. |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 2:49am On Jun 08, 2015 |
[sub][/sub] EnlightenedSoul: Not a Christian, but that is some list! I'm, like, half that list - 1/10,4,7,8,9.
GL.
Lol naaya! My sister from another mother @topic I'm all of the above |
Re: 10 Women A Christian Man Should Avoid When Considering Marriage by Nobody: 9:09am On Jun 08, 2015 |
Chiam55: [sub][/sub]
Lol naaya! My sister from another mother
@topic I'm all of the above Are u Dimples? Lol@ all the above. |