ogogoro:
Anyway, we agreed to accommodate him for free

coogar:


so in her shoes, how would you handle him?

Brandnew2:

Read again.

"Tell your husband you cannot handle it anymore".

It is people like you who cause squabbles between families.

Did her post suggest she can't handle it?

She only sought ideas on better ways to"handle it"...

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I'm beyond trading insults with one who is so desperate for a life partner to the point of showcasing it shamelessly here.

ogogoro: have told my husband that I am not prepared to house any more relatives from Nigeria if it is going to cause me more headache than peace of mind

ogogoro:
Forgive me, but this is a rant.

I live in Canada with my family and recently, my husbands relative was granted a study visa. Prior to him getting this visa, we all prayed for him and supported him financially as he was having a rough time in Nigeria. He graduated 7 years ago and hadn't been able to secure a job. He had been praying, fasting and finally God did it.

Anyway, we agreed to accommodate him for free, to lend a helping hand, but since he has been living with us, it appears that I have misjudged him.

I have noticed that some people only know how to pray for breakthroughs and to permanently be on the receiving end - never thinking about how to give. I'm not even talking about finances. I have 2 kids, and am pregnant with my 3rd and I work full time and this guy eats and leaves his plates in the sink for me to come and wash, he leaves his clothes for me to wash, even though I have shown him how to use the washing machine on more than 3 occasions. On top of this, he is very noisy - comes into the house late at night not caring that the kids are asleep, stomps up the stairs, bangs the door and starts calling his friends to tell them what God did for him and the good life he's living. Meanwhile, he has woken the kids up and I have to wake up at midnight to put them back to sleep, and i have work the next day! He blasts Nigerian music out of his room constantly, and I used to love Nigerian music, but now I'm sick of it.

On top of it, he'll come to me for assistance to fill out his medical forms, job application forms etc and help him with his studies. The other day, I had to go for a dental appointment and asked him to help me babysit for 1 hour - he said no. I can't imagine how someone can be constantly needing help but offering none in return. I'm really struggling through this pregnancy and making my work around the house while living like a lord is just unfair - especially as this is coming from someone who claims to religious. I have told my husband that I am not prepared to house any more relatives from Nigeria if it is going to cause me more headache than peace of mind, but then when I first came here aged 15, I was housed by a relative for 2 years. How do I handle this situation from a Nigerian perspective?

ObiOmaMu:

can i share your story on a blog OP? this is really thought provoking. so you can get what the readers der think too.

Brandnew2:
MarryMeee , you are not making any sense.

Just heed to correction and stop trolling.

MarryMeee:
i dont blame u. When others were in class u were busy hunting bushmeat, so it explains why you cannot comprehend simple english. Issokay

TV01:

Which is good, but presumably you put a time span on this? Six to 12 months max - however good or bad he is. He's a young man, he needs to be out fending for himself and making his own way - it will "grow him" and serve him well.

In the interim, package this one well and hand it to oga. No third parties 0!


TV

ObiOmaMu:


can i share your story on a blog OP? this is really thought provoking. so you can get what the readers der think too.

ogogoro:


Go ahead - you have my permission.