That happens when women are too desperate for marriage.

ronald4lif:
The marriage is founded on lies, deception and dissimulation and should be dissolved on the grounds of misleading and distortion of vital information that could make or mar it subsistency.

As a grown up man, a bachelor, you must have dreamt of having your own child, someone that would sustain your bloodline and not adoption. You embarked on marriage with the anticipation, expectation and delightment of having your own child, harbouring the thought of what junior and ada would look like only to realize that the to-be mother of your unborn kids played a fast one on you even as she was aware that menopause is lurking around her thereby dashing your hopes, dreams and aspirations of a father away in a twinkle of an eye. That to me is heartless, cruel and unpardonable. I'd move on if I were you.

Gurgle:


Its just her signature na, she posts it everywhere. Maybe because this thread is emotionally charged and quite sensitive, it looks inappropriate. But I think her comment is going to be one of the less irritating ones we will see here

It is not her signature as it is not in every post she makes.

She puts it up in every first post she makes on a thread especially if it is on the first page.

Senseless and dumb childishness as typical of the many fooools that now straddle this site.

Even if it is her signature, it would still be senseless and dumb.

So all dis time u guys were married u never came across any of her documents showing her real age? She must have been a really good liar.
She shud be recruited by a spy agency
Meanwhile I don't thjink u shud divorce her, she probably did that out of desperation to get married. Simplemp make her know u both have to reach a truce, u stay married to her but wed another woman to have kids for u or if she can't take that, she leaves and u go find someone else as well

joseph1013:


I keep asking myself if she is actually employed. Maybe she's a student, but even at that, why would a sound person be on every post looking to be the first to comment.

So many things are wrong with my people. Kids in civilized societies will not think of doing these. Beats me, honestly.

She exemplifies the cretins we are complaining about that have infested NL.

How can people be this dumb they have no problem come across as cretins?

I made a mistake earlier.

I still can't fathom how she deducted 8 years and you didn't observe.

Nevertheless, the relationship is built on lies but the final decision is rested on you. you have to weigh your options: which is more important to you? your own Children or companionship?

whatever decision you take, I do not think you are wrong!

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

You have been one-chanced... . It's painful.

Op was carried away by her Fanny and beauty. Is it because there is no child now that you now consider her old and all of a sudden her beauty you attested to has disappeared.

Why not accept your fate and move on with life..Age is just a number. As long as she is wife material with wife credential as you claimed....just take her as your Mama-like Babe.

It is well with both of you. Good luck.

she is understanding, a wife material? your problem is not too much just consult a doctor and do a fertility test and check if she will be able to bear children, which I think is still very possible. Then put everything in God's hands

SylarsMcQuins:


Free her, she's a child and lack sense

We need to educate our children so our society is no more polluted with cretins.

Kids in sane and advanced societies not normally like this.

Na. Wa o
Some women sef Na really wa

peedeeasobie:
Am I the only one that is noticing something awkward here?

How was she able to tell you such huge lies?
47-35 = 12.

How young looking is your wife that she was able to deduct 12 years from her age and you didn't notice that something was obviously wrong?

Iget as this story be o! I don't believe this story! Sorry!

Don't think you got it. He said 4 years ago, his wife lied that she wad 35. But he realised she had actually deducted 8 years from her age, then. In essence she was 43 when they met. 4 years later, she's 47.
Even at that he should have noticed some changes.

eeeyah i knw it very painful bro but u say u love are so much,if truly love her love covers multitude of sin.Let me share this wit u it happen to a family friend he got married to his wife after seven yrs no sign of taking in talkless of belle.,Mr Tunde decided to marry another wife he did after four years no issue.He decided to marry another wife after 2yrs he married again making 3 wives no issue for the third wife still the same thing.When Kasala won come burst na the first wife come born twins boys for the stupid Mr Tunde you see patience is a virtue.The sinner u knw is better than the uncertain angel you dont knw pls dont go and dig your own grave ooo na for better for worse.But the past behind u show your wife more love and u shall have lot of kids eeeyah i knw it very painful bro but u say u love are so much,if truly love her love covers multitude of sin.Let me share this wit u it happen to a family friend he got married to his wife after seven yrs no sign of taking in talkless of belle.,Mr Tunde decided to marry another wife he did after four years no issue.He decided to marry another wife after 2yrs he married again making 3 wives no issue for the third wife still the same thing.When Kasala won come burst na the first wife come born twins boys for the stupid Mr Tunde you see patience is a virtue.The sinner u knw is better than the uncertain angel you dont knw pls dont go and dig your own grave ooo na for better for worse.But the past behind u show your wife more love and u shall have lot of kids.

chinoasa:
i love ur signature boo...inbtw shey d'marriage na for better for worse??... Bear ur cross" dat wat beta for worse is all about..
And d'chi guy u rock! Love is so pointless and overrated!

Yes bae, its overrated and Pointless. Just understand the pros and cons of the partner u re dealing with, then u re good to go,

FfuCK love




As for the "for better for worse" aspect.
It ceased being for better for worse the moment the lady started lying to him.

Its strange indeed.
From the start at least personal documents of hers should have shown her true age, IDs, Drivers license, Passport, Birth certificate and such. Its sad that he had to find out too late.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

Well, this is a really tight scenario. I would say, since you love her and all the qualities she has keep her as your wife. You can bear child through a surrogate. At least, the child would be of your seed, just of a different biological mother. I think she'd welcome the idea too.

The OP was or is blind. There is no way a woman will be 8 years older than you and won't know, no matter how beautiful she is.

Were u blind when you got married to her?

Gurgle:


If she had taken in successfully, this topic wouldn't even exist on Nairaland. Not expecting maybe, but hoping. Which sometimes is all anybody can do.

No, it would have delayed this topic.... It would have been how her menopause suddenly started in her mid 30s then they go to the doctor who reveals that she is way beyond 30....

"but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option" being African doesn't justify not wanting to adopt, I don't see anything wrong in adoption

Sir, I felt your heart beat and pains as i read through your article.
Luke 1:37 "For with God nothing is IMPOSSIBLE"
Sir, first, pray about the situation and be led by the Holy Spirit before you take any decision.
Remember, God truly forgives and He is a faithful God.
At this point in time, anger and violence will never solve the issues, rather it will escalate it.
Calm down, have a meaningful time with your wife and am very sure that the God of Abraham and Sarah is the same yesterday, today and forever.
Try God, put all your faith in him.
You will have children, the expectations of the righteous will not be cut short, and hope never fails.
God is a faithful God.
Am very willing to stand with you in prayers.
Your wife will have babies.
God be with you and bless you greatly in Jesus name, amen.

Forgive her and move on

africans and lies, it is the water we drink and the air we breathe, lies are our very enjoyable hobby..talkless of an african woman who is a natural and ceasless liar...they beleive in lying so much that they trust in it more than God...

Bro, if u truly love her, dnt let her go..... ever heard of this SURROGATE thing? as long as she still produces eggs, you both can work it out.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

Arsenate:
Lol, how is age just a number when the woman can't keep a pregnancy obviously because she has aged
y'all should stop deceiving yourselves.

no spoil the guy mind ooh.

MY LADY BOSS HER FIRST AND ONLY DAUGHTER AT 48. GOD CAN DOL ANYTHING. FORGIVENESS,PEACE CAN WORK A MIRACLE .SHE DID EVIL B UT CONSIDER FOR LOVE SAKE.SHE MIGHT NOT NECESSARILY BE TELLING FURTHER LIES. PEACE!!!!!

[quoteauthor=Sagamite post=37167925]

What a moronic fuuktard.

So he should not worry about her age, he should worry about prayer?

Products of failed education system with their constant, useless prayers but no sense.[/quote] . . . . . . . . U talk like a foolish person home breaker. . . . . . . . . . . . Do u even know wat marriage is all about? . . . . . . . . . . . Wasted sperm

Sagamite:


We need to educate our children so our society is no more polluted with cretins.

Kids in sane and advanced societies not normally like this.

U don't ve to blame the society or folks, d kid just refuses to mature and grow up

brunolee1145:
eeeyah i knw it very painful bro but u say u love are so much,if truly love her love covers multitude of sin.Let me share this wit u it happen to a family friend he got married to his wife after seven yrs no sign of taking in talkless of belle.,Mr Tunde decided to marry another wife he did after four years no issue.He decided to marry another wife after 2yrs he married again making 3 wives no issue for the third wife still the same thing.When Kasala won come burst na the first wife come born twins boys for the stupid Mr Tunde you see patience is a virtue.The sinner u knw is better than the uncertain angel you dont knw pls dont go and dig your own grave ooo na for better for worse.But the past behind u show your wife more love and u shall have lot of kids eeeyah i knw it very painful bro but u say u love are so much,if truly love her love covers multitude of sin.Let me share this wit u it happen to a family friend he got married to his wife after seven yrs no sign of taking in talkless of belle.,Mr Tunde decided to marry another wife he did after four years no issue.He decided to marry another wife after 2yrs he married again making 3 wives no issue for the third wife still the same thing.When Kasala won come burst na the first wife come born twins boys for the stupid Mr Tunde you see patience is a virtue.The sinner u knw is better than the uncertain angel you dont knw pls dont go and dig your own grave ooo na for better for worse.But the past behind u show your wife more love and u shall have lot of kids.

Oga, yes, patience is good, but this people case I different here ooh.


She lied, that Is number 1

Number2, she is 47yrs old.

Number3 she is far older than our brother( even though he said that she is good in all aspect) left for me, I know why she is forming good wife, her conscience is flogging her with koboko.

Number4, @ 47yrs, she has not only reached menopause but, menostop. (Ee hard for to conceive again) her system is weak , remember she 1st had a miscarriage and then a still birth.



I don't jut know why we will see something that is plain black, and just fold our hands watching for that thing to turn white b4 our very eyes?





My advice to that oga is to go for an adoption, but he has said he does not want to, best thing na to marry another sharp bae wey go give am pikin.

Sagamite:


It is not her signature as it is not in every post she makes.

She puts it up in every first post she makes on a thread especially if it is on the first page.

Senseless and dumb childishness as typical of the many fooools that now straddle this site.

Even if it is her signature, it would still be senseless and dumb.

lol let's focus on the topic and find solution for their marriage, don't derail the post

They could still work it out sha, marriage is for better, for worse.

It's [size=15pt]LadyF[/size] again

those of u telling him to forgive her no get SENSE..so he shld stay with her without having a child plus she's 8 years older than him dat mins when he's 40 she'll b lukin so f**kin old dat when people see dem on the street she'll be looking like his sugar mommy..d poor guy didn't bargain for diz shit.

so here is my advice, if i were u I'll divorce her immediately cauz there is no more trust in that relationship..To hell with what that pastor said, only God knows what he'll do if he ws in ur shoes.. so WISE UP

jamex93:
. . . . . . . . U talk like a foolish person home breaker. . . . . . . . . . . . Do u even know wat marriage is all about? . . . . . . . . . . . Wasted sperm

You are a cretinous fuuktard.

Please edjucate me on what marriage is about. I want to be entertained.

misrepresentation!