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So i am assuming you are dating a man, and not a boy.

Everything boils down to what he wants, and not his parents. As a man, the only time i will need my parents(okay my mom, since my dad is late)is when i call her for the blessing of my marriage.

Parents in the African culture, pray for the young couples. If he wants to get married to you, his parents(mom) should respect his choice. Some parents can be very over bearing, and this is where he needs to be strong and stand on his ground and convictions. There is something wrong about our African parents, living their lives and wanting to live their kid's lives for them too.

If he is serious about you, he will ignore his mother and if he can't stand up to his mother, then i will advice you walk away from the relationship, because this same woman will make life unbearable for you in your home when you marry his son.

But do know too, that most men use the LIE of their parents to kick a woman, they dont like out of their live's. I am a man. and should know, as all you need to tell her is MY PARENTS FORBID me t marry somebody from your tribe,religion, or any story, just to discharge you.

And most women fall for this line, without knowing it is a DISCHARGE ploy by guys.

Ehmm, you didn't know religion would be a problem? In NIGERIA??









Well convert or leave him! It's that simple








Btw, you're still young





It's not a do or die affair

Yeah i leave in Canada, so i honestly did not really have any idea that it will be that much of a big deal

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Lol. As A Christian Fellow, You Gat To Pray Over It And Watch(USE YOUR BRAIN WHEN FALLING INLOVE).

Religion is a fundamental part of life thus it should be given utmost preference in matters like this. If you can reach a compromise about other factors regarding marriage, you should be very careful before you extend such compromise to your religion. It is the base upon which your life (and hope for an afterlife) is built. It is the biggest decision you can ever make. So choose. Would you rather hold on to your faith or convert to his own?

I believe that two people of different religions should not marry unless one of them is willing to convert. Religion determines the spiritual direction of the home. You cannot be facing two different directions and expect to move forward as a family.

Choose.

Complicated though but navigatable.
Some facts to take with you:
1. Marriage is built on love but some trials could make this love turn to hate. Like the saying, there is a thin line between love and hate.
2. Wedding is between a couple (man and woman) but marriage is between families.
3. To some love conquers all but in some cases, religion is a string issue not to be toyed with in marriage and even in other spheres of life.
4. Blood is thicker than water as your man has got live for his mum and might not want to disappoint her beingthe good son as you have stated.

I will advice you find an amicable way to go sdesperate ways though with difficulties but will be of great value on the long run.
Jumping into such union will definitely have challenges which is not what anyone will wish you when you should be building your family and managing the attendant issues.
Love some say is blind but I tell you it sees as you can just let this pass cos a stitch in time saves nine.
Both of you need to see beyond just the two of you in this.
Wish you luck

diz matter strong no be small....
but sleep don catch me
so till tomorrow.