I'm messed up. I'm neck deep. I feel lost. I feel defeated. I feel controlled. I know I'm better than this, but it's become harder and harder to overcome.

I've been in this mess since I was about 13/14yrs and I'm 23yrs now. I can't talk to anybody about this.

In the last 3yrs before this year I indulged in it on an average of 2-3times annually, but this year has proven different as I've done it over 12times.

I've tried so many things, I've prayed, fasted, counselled others on this topic, search the internet, talk to people, but all these efforts have proven abortive. I don't want to end this year like this, I don't want my wife to experience this part of me. My kids... ooh.

An older friend of mine introduced me to masturbation when I barely had semens(this is just few months after I've been introduced to porn by some other friends at about 13yrs), after this induction I masturbated so much that I literally forced the first set of semens out of me. Since then it seems I have been under a dome of sexual perversion and masturbation.

The truth is I really hate this, I feel degraded after every act of masturbation, but I have no defence whatsoever, I just slide in at most thought. I've wanted to change for a very long time but now I want it like my life depends on it.

I have searched the internet for psychologist and counsellors in Nigeria but my search has been futile.

My plea: Do you know any counsellor or psychologist in Lagos or Ilorin? If yes, please help a brother, drop a link or address.

NB: With all due respect and, no intention to offend, please I don't want religious sentiments on this thread. Maybe some other time. Thank you.

So many people are stuck in this mess and really want out.

Parents and parents to be, most of us get this addictive behavioural traits when we are young, curious, ignorant, stupid and vulnerable, please be watchful of your little ones.

Once again, please drop verifiable address of counsellors, psychologists or therapist in Lagos, Ilorin (and other places for others that needs help). Thank you.

Cc lalasticlala please I need this to hit the front page to increase the chances of getting help, for me and others. Thanks.

graciousolo:
I'm messed up. I'm neck deep. I feel lost. I feel defeated. I feel controlled. I know I'm better than this, but it's become harder and harder to overcome.

I've been in this mess since I was about 13/14yrs and I'm 23yrs now. I can't talk to anybody about this.

In the last 3yrs before this year I indulged in it on an average of 2-3times annually, but this year has proven different as I've done it over 12times.

I've tried so many things, I've prayed, fasted, counselled others on this topic, search the internet, talk to people, but all these efforts have proven abortive. I don't want to end this year like this, I don't want my wife to experience this part of me. My kids... ooh.

An older friend of mine introduced me to masturbation when I barely had semens(this is just few months after I've been introduced to porn by some other friends at about 13yrs), after this induction I masturbated so much that I literally forced the first set of semens out of me. Since then it seems I have been under a dome of sexual perversion and masturbation.

The truth is I really hate this, I feel degraded after every act of masturbation, but I have no defence whatsoever, I just slide in at most thought. I've wanted to change for a very long time but now I want it like my life depends on it.

I have searched the internet for psychologist and counsellors in Nigeria but my search has been futile.

My plea: Do you know any counsellor or psychologist in Lagos or Ilorin? If yes, please help a brother, drop a link or address.

NB: With all due respect and, no intention to offend, please I don't want religious sentiments on this thread. Maybe some other time. Thank you.

So many people are stuck in this mess and really want out.

Parents and parents to be, most of us get this addictive behavioural traits when we are young, curious, ignorant, stupid and vulnerable, please be watchful of your little ones.

Once again, please drop verifiable address of counsellors, psychologists or therapist in Lagos, Ilorin (and other places for others that needs help). Thank you.

Cc lalasticlala please I need this to hit the front page to increase the chances of getting help, for me and others. Thanks.

I know a counsellor but he is also a Christian so I guess he would definitely use the bible in counselling you. Would you still want to have him?

Gboliwe:


I know a counsellor but he is also a Christian so I guess he would definitely use the bible in counselling you. Would you still want to have him?

If he is a certified professional, because there are so many self acclaimed counsellors among clergies. If that's what he is, then no thank you.

graciousolo:
I'm messed up. I'm neck deep. I feel lost. I feel defeated. I feel controlled. I know I'm better than this, but it's become harder and harder to overcome.
I've been in this mess since I was about 13/14yrs and I'm 23yrs now. I can't talk to anybody about this.
In the last 3yrs before this year I indulged in it on an average of 2-3times annually, but this year has proven different as I've done it over 12times.
I've tried so many things, I've prayed, fasted, counselled others on this topic, search the internet, talk to people, but all these efforts have proven abortive. I don't want to end this year like this, I don't want my wife to experience this part of me. My kids... ooh.
An older friend of mine introduced me to masturbation when I barely had semens(this is just few months after I've been introduced to porn by some other friends at about 13yrs), after this induction I masturbated so much that I literally forced the first set of semens out of me. Since then it seems I have been under a dome of sexual perversion and masturbation.
The truth is I really hate this, I feel degraded after every act of masturbation, but I have no defence whatsoever, I just slide in at most thought. I've wanted to change for a very long time but now I want it like my life depends on it.
I have searched the internet for psychologist and counsellors in Nigeria but my search has been futile.
My plea: Do you know any counsellor or psychologist in Lagos or Ilorin? If yes, please help a brother, drop a link or address.
NB: With all due respect and, no intention to offend, please I don't want religious sentiments on this thread. Maybe some other time. Thank you.
So many people are stuck in this mess and really want out.
Parents and parents to be, most of us get this addictive behavioural traits when we are young, curious, ignorant, stupid and vulnerable, please be watchful of your little ones.
Once again, please drop verifiable address of counsellors, psychologists or therapist in Lagos, Ilorin (and other places for others that needs help). Thank you.
Cc lalasticlala please I need this to hit the front page to increase the chances of getting help, for me and others. Thanks.

d bible is wat u need more
then try 2 seek counsel frm an elderly persn kloz 2u

graciousolo:

If he is a certified professional, because there are so many self acclaimed counsellors among clergies. If that's what he is, then no thank you.

He is certified and No, he isn't a clergy.

it is well.

the first step is knowing the problem.

masturbation is addictive. you are addicted to it. so you fight it the way you fight all addictions go cold turkey.


it wont be easy but i believe it can be done.

first you need to get rid of all the porn you have.

second you need to be active during the day find something to do, be productive and not layind around doing nothing. if you are a student spend more time reading your books even if you have to get ahead of the class, become active in sports on a daily basis. try and join groups like chess club etc in school. if you arent in school look aroung you and find somewhere to go and be busy.


and idle mind is the devils workshop. fill up your time till you have no time. you would be tired and fufilled everyday and tired at night.


finally i know you said you dont want to hera preaching but i still think with this efforts above you need to pray. while praying you are also acting. the days of manna are gone.

all the best bro.

Erebeshe:

d bible is wat u need more
then try 2 seek counsel frm an elderly persn kloz 2u

Please... this is what I don't want. I'm more religious than you can imagine, but I want a professional, just like you go to a physiotherapist for bone problems. Thank tho.

NB: I believe in God.

armadeo:
it is well.

the first step is knowing the problem.

masturbation is addictive. you are addicted to it. so you fight it the way you fight all addictions go cold turkey.


it wont be easy but i believe it can be done.

first you need to get rid of all the porn you have.

second you need to be active during the day find something to do, be productive and not layind around doing nothing. if you are a student spend more time reading your books even if you have to get ahead of the class, become active in sports on a daily basis. try and join groups like chess club etc in school. if you arent in school look aroung you and find somewhere to go and be busy.


and idle mind is the devils workshop. fill up your time till you have no time. you would be tired and fufilled everyday and tired at night.


finally i know you said you dont want to hera preaching but i still think with this efforts above you need to pray. while praying you are also acting. the days of manna are gone.

all the best bro.

Thanks. If you read well, I stated that I've done all these...

Thanks for trying to help, I appreciate that but what I'm asking for is a professional.

Gboliwe:


He is certified and No, he isn't a clergy.

Pls give me his contact. Thanks

graciousolo:

Pls give me his contact. Thanks

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graciousolo:

Thanks. If you read well, I stated that I've done all these...

Thanks for trying to help, I appreciate that but what I'm asking for is a professional.

you need a psychologist who deals in addiction. where is your location.

armadeo:



you need a psychologist who deals in addiction. where is your location.

Ilorin.