MarvellousGod:
Why did he let his wife go live with her parents if he could actually provide for them as he claims? Was he not in agreement with their movement? Why does he suddenly want them back when things haven't actually changed?

You want your wife to come home and starve when she can be well taken care of in her parents' house? All because of ego? Or staying in your house suffering and dying in silence will make her a good woman abi? Your FIL is being protective, why would she let her daughter go bk home when things haven't changed?

I understand how men feel when they can't provide for their family, but you hv to get rid of your ego!! You're even lucky to have in laws capable of helping you financially. .. Use this time to find your feet back. . Your wife should also find something doing no matter how small. ..

The only problem I hv with your wife is the attitude she's giving you when she should be encouraging you. ..it's totally uncalled for!
Also, if her parents can be helping her from their house, she should move back home!
Just hv a heart to heart talk with your wife!

About finding another woman, that's silly. . There's no excuse to cheat on your wife!

hanubarbie:
If he still considers himself a man,then he should grab his balls,go to his father-in-law's house take his wife n baby back home(didn't u pay her bride price,abi u rack am comot for shelf?)both of u should get a job....nansense!!

ronald4lif:


Okay so he's got right and freedom to get her back to his house without her consent coz he paid some dowry?

hanubarbie:
yes! He has the right to get his wife back after all they are married,if she wants her freedom let her seek for divorce.

ronald4lif:


You've got it wrong. He's got no right impelling her to move over to his place if she doesn't want to. She's no property or possession that he can subject force to take ownership of. She's made a decision she doesn't want to move in with him and it's either he respect it, courteously convince her or initiate divorce proceedings. No one would institute divorce for him but himself.

That someone is a wife or one performed some hoary dowry practice doesn't mean they have the right of dominion over them. Sorry to say but your logical process is antiquated and archaic.

iAmCharis:
Eeehn? I don't even know where to start from.

If he can, he should forget about the lady and learn to be happy with or without some care from some uncultured girl that's supposed to be a wife. Ahn Ahn? Something tells me another guy is already is already in her life (i might be wrong sha).

Kachis barbie come see o. Choi!

chalantmike:
the action of his wife right now, is kinda irrelevant his kid and securing a job is what should occupy his mind, right now.

Yea it pains to be alone in trouble i feel the op has never truly been independent especially emotional, which as nature would have it, defines a man. HIS DEFINITION OF HAPPINESS SUMOUNT WHAT WHATS GOING ON AROUND HIM, HIS JOB, HIS WIFE. notice his thinking of finding a new wife, that need to feel complete, that dependcy he has, and feel of inadequacy he gets when no one is cheering.

As a man, IF MY WIFE IGNORES ME IN MY HOUSE, I IGNORE YHU TOO, WHEN I BORED. I SEND YOU TO YHUR FATHERS HOUSE *THATS JUST ME*

HE SECRETLY TRY TO PUSH BLAME ON OTHERS, HIS WIFE ESPECIALLY BY POINTING OUT SHE IS UNEMPLOYED.

IF ANYTHING THE FATHER INLAW IS HELPING HIM OUT, BY TAKING HIS BURDEN AWAY FOR THE TIME BEEN. SO HE CAN CONCENTRATE BUT HE OBVIOUSLY SEES IT AS BAD.

IF I WERE HIM, I WILL BUY KOLANUT EVEN IF IT 20NAIRA,OFFER TO THE FATHER INLAW, BEG FORGIVENESS AND ADVISE. AND ASK FOR HIS PRAYERS AND ENDURANCE.

Kachisbarbie:


I hate to judge from one part of the story BUT I have to ask some questions :-
Why should a married woman leave her husband when things go bad?
How long will she continue going back to her parents? Shey it's because they are alive?

I guess she is a daddy's girl. She ain't cut out for the worst_ only the best.

teddybear007:
In as much as I hate one sided story cos it paints d other as d villain but if I must say something, I wouldn't be so fast in judging ur wife cos u might actually be d cause of the problem.
women are d most rational being on earth, I want u to think bck if u ve ever wronged her while u had ur job. How were u treating her to made her harden her heart against u. Sometimes our partner's behaviour make or mar us either to be a good person or to be bad person. Gracias.

Timbuktou:
E done tey, no be today. Trust and believe women at your own peril. I am surprised the guy is surprised that his wife did this.

You know when women say they stood by a man when he had nothing and he changed when he became rich, they forget "little" situations like this. This, right here, is those things men consider when they finally hammer and are fvcking around like a prize boar. He'll probably accept her back when his fortunes change, but I can bet she will come here with her story when he fvcks 60 women in one week. He will have come to the realisation that bitches are only loyal to money and comfort.

Timbuktou:
E done tey, no be today. Trust and believe women at your own peril. I am surprised the guy is surprised that his wife did this.

You know when women say they stood by a man when he had nothing and he changed when he became rich, they forget "little" situations like this. This, right here, is those things men consider when they finally hammer and are fvcking around like a prize boar. He'll probably accept her back when his fortunes change, but I can bet she will come here with her story when he fvcks 60 women in one week. He will have come to the realisation that bitches are only loyal to money and comfort.

Tallesty1:
Ok, let's assume he was treating her badly when he had money and she stayed without complaining, but she disappeared once the money stopped coming.



What does that make her

iAmCharis:
Exactly. The worst part is the attitude she gives her husband + not picking his calls. Meehn I pity the man. Times like this, emotional support from a loved one can go a long way. Would you say the man wasn't patient enough if things fall back in place and he doesn't allow the woman in?

alcatraz002:


God bless you my brother, the way the present generation of ladies behave makes me scared of that institution called Marriage. Are ladies only meant to enjoy money and not suffer? is it only guys that are meant to toil and toil till death? I am really sad and disappointed at the reasoning of our ladies nowadays.

Maybe men should just consider having babies because this kind of situation in s very sad to say the least.See women on this thread justifying the non sense the wife did.

Tallesty1:
Listen bro........

Things have changed.

Relationships, friendships and marriages no longer hinge on love, rather they hinge on convenience.

A little inconvenience and the lady will port.

crackhaus:

- His wife's action is irrelevant but his kid should occupy his mind huh?So how do you separate the two?
Isn't it the wife's action that led him to the issue of the kid?

- The father is helping him out of course... but doesn't one have to ask for help first before being offered it?
So why does his wife not take his calls anymore or want him around if her father truly rendered this so-called help out of the abundance of his heart?

- He should buy kolanut and apologize to his FIL huh?
For what wrong exactly?

Conclusion:
You obviously don't know what you're talking about.

freecocoa:
Is this a joke or what? So a grown man whose wife left because he has no job should be happy? How can you say his wife's action is irrelevant? Why shouldn't he think of finding a new wife when the one he has isn't what a wife should be? Or you expect him to struggle all alone and allow the one that ran to her father, back in when things get better, just like that?

Really? The FIL is taking his burden away? How exactly?

Tallesty1:
I tried telling him that but I couldn't prove it.

I mean, if she's frustrated as he is then why is she giving him attitudes? They are supposed to stand by each other in a time like this.

Why not call him once in a while to know how he's faring?

Why not stay with the man's family?

Cutehector:
Mizmycoli, falconey, ronald4lif... Please ur inputs r needed.. Let's help a friend..