bomakris:

I have been going out with this girl for the past 11yrs, i love her but the truth is that i can't marry her due to some circumstances beyound my control. she knows that too but she keeps on saying that it will work out.

bomakris:

Well, for that i can't even explain is complicated more than i thought.

bomakris:

From the outset he told me he has a girl friend then i foolishly accepted cos he promise as time goes on everything we be normal that i should pls bear with him and as that time thier link was not close also is not my wish for him to gilt another girl for my sake.

I traveled and i return for him to tell me that so many things happen between his other girl . He does not want to lose me neither his other girl.

He humiliated me on several ocassions.

for instance denying me in front her,

Not wanting the other girl to know about our relationship.

To the extend he ask is mum to wallk me out of is house cos is other girl is coming to see him or that i should have call before coming with that flamsy excuse.

Yet he comes back begging that  i should understand that he does not  need confrontations that is why he is acting that  to me and that am the one  who understand better. he does not want to lose me.


He always ask me to be patient that he knows what is doing. The fact is that is always honest, even knowing well that it hurt he rather present you the truth than lies may be that is why am so blinded by him that i know the right thing to do but i can't do it.

The truth of the matter is that the girl is there before me and i am woman with feelings that want her to be hurt neither do want myself to be hurt too.

However, i do not want to lose him. Am confuse i don't know what to do.

ifyalways:

@Poster,ur profile says female and u are here yarning abt girlfriends?are u a lebian 
Plus,are you not the one who wrote this  :ois this some super story?

MRbrownJAY:

if you cant explain the reason why you cant marry number 1 then you shouldnt put half stories in here.
there is no way someone can give you a mature advice UNLESS they know the WHOLE story.

bomakris:

The reason been that her parents her Christian (Evangelist for that matter) while my parents are moselems and besides that the mum takes me as her own son but the truth is that she does not know that am having her fair with her daughter.

Also the girl in Question is having a temper that is beyound control and i sat down with elders to present this case, they all have one voice that it will not be good if i go ahead to marry her that it will be disaster.

Akinagirl:

This would have been a believeable story IF we knew what gender you are and what role you play in this story. Are you male or Female. Or are you both? I'm just saying. Please be more clear so that you can get some reasonable, sound, mature advice. Thank you.

Bossman:

LOL! This is too funny. Go back and start from scratch. You have confused just about everyone here and probably yourself.

sistawoman:

R u the girl he cant marry or the one he wants to marry?
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I am none of the girls above, just a close pal to the guy in question.

arramyjay:

I dont really dont knw wht to say,but 11yrs is not a joke,and 4 11yrs u guys cudnt work out the reason it wont work.Do u believe in divorce?

salsera:

now u are the close pal to the guy


abeg go to some other forum and stop wasting ppl's time.

bomakris:

if am the close pal to the guy does it stop you from saying your own view? I don't waste peoples time ok.