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Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Tuntheycr7: 11:06am On Oct 26, 2015 |
I didn't know I married a Houseboy!" Story: I have been married for three years now but shortly after my marriage, I discovered that my husband is not what he made me believe he was. I met him after a man I had dated for six years and had hoped to settle down with got married to another woman without my knowledge. I only got to know about the wedding two weeks after when a friend told me about it. I was so hurt and I needed a shoulder to lean on and that was when I met him at a church programme. He told me he was a working for a top politician in Abuja as a Special Assistant. He drove a Range Rover car and seemed to be who he said he was. When I visited him in Abuja, he lodged me in an expensive hotel and seemed to be doing very well. Six months later, we got married and that was the mistake I made because when we went to my village in the eastern part of the country for our introduction, I was actually the one who sponsored the trip and even bought the drinks we used. When my family gave him the traditional marriage list, he said it was too expensive and could not go ahead with it. He suggested we had a church wedding and later do the traditional marriage and because I was desperate, I agreed. Even at that, I sponsored almost 90% of the church wedding. After the wedding, he refused to allow me go and live with him in Abuja and instead, insisted I got an apartment in Lagos. He only gave me N50,000 for the rent and I provided over N250,000 to complete the balance. To compound the issue, I later found out that he is a secondary school leaver (he had told me he was a graduate of LASU), and that he is a mere houseboy to the Special Assistant to the politician. The hotel he lodged me when I visited him in Abuja belonged to his boss. I wouldn't have minded the deceit that much but he has turned out to be a brute who beats me at every provocation and above all, I am the one feeding him and his family members. I want out. What should I do? Please help me out https://m.facebook.com/royalfmradio/photos/a.110921862285950.5542.106774872700649/1035755433135917/?type=3&source=46&refid=17 |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by MANGAM(m): 11:11am On Oct 26, 2015 |
This is what u get when u ar too desperate 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by akinloluwao: 11:12am On Oct 26, 2015 |
You don enter one chance till death do u part. So you marriee him because of money. Smh |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Nobody: 11:13am On Oct 26, 2015 |
Great!!! Lalasticlacla... U dey house?
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Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by missmalachi: 11:14am On Oct 26, 2015 |
The mistake has been done already,the only remedy is to do what ur heart says. If u know u can cope with d marriage,go ahead n uf u cant cope,leave the marriage. U owe urself the responsibility to be happy. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Cutehector(m): 11:16am On Oct 26, 2015 |
Nw u see what desperation has caused u.. Especially the desperation for a wealthy looking guy... I am not sorry for the end results... If u like, quit, if u dnt like, stay.. Dah one concern u. |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Rukkydelta(f): 11:17am On Oct 26, 2015 |
I have watched this movie, car someone please remind me of the title ? |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Rukkydelta(f): 11:17am On Oct 26, 2015 |
I have watched this movie, can someone please remind me of the title ? |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by SAMBARRY: 11:17am On Oct 26, 2015 |
Chaiii In td Jake's voice. The devil's a liar Kanwuliajara come and help us unravel this puzzle. This good news is becoming too much on no like kilode |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by trapQ: 11:20am On Oct 26, 2015 |
I hate hearing stuff like this. Why don't women have goals in nigeria, in africa?? Why?? This is what happens when you feel marriage is your highest achievement in life...... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by SAMBARRY: 11:23am On Oct 26, 2015 |
trapQ:this one name 100million dollar question you ask What's the TRUE BEAUTY of a woman or a woman's worth if not to be married or better put dey for osband haus 1 Like |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Applaner: 11:24am On Oct 26, 2015 |
wrong foundation if DA foundation b faulty, wat can de righteous do |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Juxtified(m): 11:24am On Oct 26, 2015 |
Rukkydelta:I think its "The Desperate Housewives" |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by yomi007k(m): 11:31am On Oct 26, 2015 |
Quit ur marriage. How is this any of our concern |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Pidggin(f): 11:36am On Oct 26, 2015 |
Report him to his family and yours, call for a joint family meeting, let him explain why he lied to you. After the meeting seek the opinion of any of your family members who was present and who you trust. You should be able to arrive at a decision after all this. |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by pet4ril(f): 12:03pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
Very touching though, but no woman can boast these days that her house is sweet as honey we are just managing the men to create a good home. .... but dear, I won't advice you to stay if he beats you but stop nagging him to anger. ..the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know 1 Like |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Nobody: 1:55pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
The topic should be RANGE ROVER love. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by babythug(f): 2:02pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
Even though this is crying over spilt milk im still puzzled as to how the fellow pulled this off so smoothly. I know some people go into marriage with some iota of deceit which gets revealed after the ceremonies but this one beats me! For example didn't you interact at all with his friends or family to be able to guess his true social standing? Didn't it cross your mind to stay or visit him at his own place while you visited him in Abuja? Why on earth will a man of his supposed standing give you 50k for accommodation and you will collect? I'm not judging please don't get me wrong but I really wonder how these things just weren't considered. Have you no honest friends? Sorry you are in this mess oh you can leave on grounds of physical abuse IMO 1 Like |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by saggybreasts: 2:04pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
You said you wanna quit... so quit and stop bragging. |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Haywhymido(m): 6:19pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
pet4ril:really managing a person u once claimed u love. Na wa o. |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by bukatyne(f): 8:00pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
@OP: You have entered the one chance already. The major problem now is the beating. If a separation is What it takes the beating, So be it. When the beating is solved, go back to the drawing board with him. He is willing to go to school? For him to successfully deceive you means he has Good manners, speaks well and he is intelligent. If yes, he can enroll in part time. Is he still a house-boy? (Because of the income). I am sure in his years of service, he picked up some qualities he can use to run a dry cleaning business to support the home. He can eventually run a domestic staff outfit in future. Goodluck. 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by 4C2215131: 8:09pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
What should I say? Did you marry for money? Were you desperate for marriage? Me thinks its a blend of both. Well git the hell out before its too late. Done said it before in this forum that divorce remains the best thing that happened to the institution of marriage. Why stay! Ditch his broke, wife beating ass! |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by 4C2215131: 8:15pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
In my opinion, no man should lay his hands on a woman. If she's an insufferable bitch, divorce her ass, children or not. Your sanity and that of the kids ( as it makes no sense raising kids in a house of commotion) matters than any so called oath before God and stuff. Very sure God wouldn't want you dead at the hands of an abusive spouse. |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by 4C2215131: 8:22pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
Haywhymido: Newsflash: Ain't no love in so many marriages. Its just a union of convenience. The love is long gone. For those fortunate enough, they are just good friends with their spouses. A lot of marriages are together for one reason only; the kids. Hell they don't even have sex anymore talk less of making love. Note that this assertion of mine does not preclude the fact that there are loving and happy unions out there. Just that the converse is more prevalent. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by KanwuliaJara: 9:05pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Erm? Please, wiarrris the "POSU"? |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by Kimoni: 9:48pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
...he drove a Range Rover...he lodged you in an expensive hotel...six months later you married him...you were desperate ...you sponsored your wedding...he told you to bypass traditional rites...he beats you...he is not who he says he is This is a typical case of armed robber catch thief |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by funlord(m): 9:59pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
This op's tale is one of those "labe orun episodes" that has gone stale on nairaland! Na you sabi madam! Later................ |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by lilmax(m): 11:28pm On Oct 26, 2015 |
Church programme He told me he was working for a top politician in Abuja as a Special Assistant. Range Rover car he lodged me in an expensive hotel I later found out that he is a secondary school leaver (he had told me he was a graduate of LASU), and that he is a mere houseboy to the Special Assistant to the politician. IRANU |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by SAMBARRY: 12:17pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by SAMBARRY: 12:18pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Kimoni: |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by raumdeuter: 4:41pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Shey houseboy no go marry again ni |
Re: Please Help : I Want To Quit My Marriage Of Three Years by aluko360(m): 4:42pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Tuntheycr7: Yeye dey smell. He drives a Range Rover... He lodged you in an expensive hotel... For your mind you don catch big fish... You better wake up, you have been scammed |
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