1. Become aware of your
attractiveness.
Imagine that you're a magnet. Forget
soul mate for now — do you attract or
repel people in general? Do people
gravitate toward you or keep their
distance? Are you able to maintain
healthy relationships with friends? Do
you know many but not really know
anyone?
When I say that everyone has an
attraction level, I'm not referring to
aesthetics. I'm talking about energy,
attitude, emotional intelligence,
general vibe and character. So the
first tip is to be aware of your
attraction level. How do people
respond to you? Do you notice a
pattern? Is it different depending on
gender? Tip one is to just be aware
and take an honest look at your
attraction level. If you believe your
level is low, it doesn't mean you're
defective. It means you have low
awareness, or you haven't done
much work on yourself.


2. Don't be reactive.
Nothing repels people more than a
reactive person. No one wants to feel
like they're walking through a
minefield when they're around you.
How do you know if you're reactive?
Simple. Do you react or do you
respond to people, situations and
events? Do you think about how your
words, actions and energy will affect
those around you? Or do you just
allow yourself to have knee-jerk
reactions to everything? Are you calm
and collected? Do you try to
understand before being understood?
Or is the sky always falling and your
mind is set to "search and destroy"?
Remember, reactivity translates to
toxicity. The first thing people on a
path of growth do is eliminate all the
toxic people around them. If you find
yourself alone, you may be one of
them. If you find yourself getting
angry just by reading this, you may
be one of them. I was highly reactive
for most of my life.
It took me years to practice
responding instead of reacting,
because I was never taught how to
respond. Well, life taught me
eventually.


3. Take care of yourself.
There's nothing more attractive than
someone who takes care of him or
herself. Self-care means having the
ability to fulfill your seven basic
needs, which are listed below:
A. Emotional need
Do you have an outlet to process all
your emotional stuff? This could be
therapy, a kind friend, or anything
that allows you space to process your
feelings.
B. Spiritual need
This doesn't mean you have to be
religious; it simply means practicing
being a spiritual person. Do you
believe in anything greater than
yourself?
C. Intellectual need
Do you feed your brain? Or do you sit
in front of the television all day?
D. Physical need
This includes diet and exercise. Do
you eat well and have a fitness
routine? How comfortable do you feel
in your body?
E. Sexual need
This doesn't mean having lots of sex,
though it could if that's important to
you. But do you feel sexy? Confident?
F. Financial need
Do you have a job? Are you working
toward something? Do you know how
to manage your money well? Or are
you leasing a hundred thousand
dollar car and living a studio
apartment?
g. Passion need
What are you doing that lights you
up? Anything? It's the path to your
potential. The ability to fulfill these
needs is what creates balance in
one's life. And the more balanced you
live, the higher your attraction level.