Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,194,173 members, 7,953,640 topics. Date: Thursday, 19 September 2024 at 09:32 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Family / Husband Scarcity (1949 Views)
Husband Scarcity / Husband Scarcity!!!!! / Husband Scarcity (2) (3) (4)
Husband Scarcity by SuPeRq(f): 6:10pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
My little thought on HUSBAND SCARCITY!!! By: JUSTICE PETER This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future. What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to become complete and fulfilled. Ladies in the house no cruisify me oooooo 2 Likes |
Re: Husband Scarcity by simplejayy(m): 6:16pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
I'm here to read comments and criticism |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 6:25pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Is this a thread or suwona |
Re: Husband Scarcity by emmchi(m): 6:39pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Why am i still single? |
Re: Husband Scarcity by sirmarry(m): 6:52pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Cnt blv dis s comn 4rm a lady of dis generation.... Nyc piece,if u r stl singl, i pray God gvs u a man dt wld complement u and if u r alrdy married, may God bless ur marriage wt al d gud tinz of lyf. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Pidggin(f): 7:35pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Copy and paste blogger 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Bisjosh(f): 11:11pm On Oct 27, 2015 |
Smh! Stale! 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by ogaprime(m): 10:23pm On Nov 22, 2015 |
Bisjosh:What are you shaking your head at and what's stale 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SuPeRq(f): 8:05pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:must you spew trash? Get a life biko |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SuPeRq(f): 8:06pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Bisjosh:Stale indeed 1 Like |
Re: Husband Scarcity by SAMBARRY: 11:32pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
SuPeRq:koshi lo men Since when did nl become a place for consensus of opinion. Mr man get lost forever and ever.ami o! |
Re: Husband Scarcity by Nobody: 6:19am On Nov 27, 2015 |
there's nothing like husband scarcity, potential husbands are all over the place except there are number of reasons going against them to make that decisions to marry, mainly due to unemployment, tribal differences, religious differences, distance and sometimes personal world view. but even at that, so many men get married to lovely ladies everyday in courts and churches. 1 Like |
(1) (Reply)
Is It Right To Ask Money From Your Sisters Husband Without Informing Your Sister / Missing Person Please Help / Divorce - Don't Know Where My Wife Is
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 26 |