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Institution Of Successful Relationship by princessudy1(f): 10:44pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
want to share today a very vital point and
most important quality one should look out
for in a prospective spouse before crossing
the altar of no return. First you can only
change a person who is willing to learn, who
is willing and humble enough to listen and
know, this person who can be taught can be
reached and helped. You can only help a
person grow, improve, develop and contribute
value to a persons life who is willing to learn,
to such will be grateful for your meaningful
contributions and not treat it with disdain,
disrespect, scorn like a dog or swine and what
you can't change before marriage, that you
will have to accept to live with in marriage,
because you made that choice.
The bible says, wisdom is the principle thing,
so therefore get wisdom: and with all thy
getting get understanding.(Proverbs 4:7), the
bible didn't say marriage, husband, wife,
money, beauty is the principle thing but
wisdom and fools will despise wisdom.
Through wisdom is a house builded; and by
understanding it is established: and by
knowledge shall the chambers be filled with
all precious and pleasant riches (Proverbs
24:3-4). One most important and fundamental
thing you should find out in a man or woman,
who you intending to marry is "wisdom", which
comes with good understanding and
knowledge, because this is the principle thing.
not just any kind of wisdom, but the "wisdom
of God". I have seen so called Christians
display the wisdom of the world and still bring
such wisdom into their relationship with
people, such is devilish, subtle, sensual,
deceptive, cunning, crafty, manipulated, which
seeks to dominate, extort, control and take
advantage of people directly or indirectly, this
Apostle James called the wisdom which is
earthly, from beneath and never pure.
The right person is the one you both can build
together, work, learn, grow, develop, listen,
reason, cooperate and improve together. learn,
teach and correct one another in oneness,
love, humility, respect, politeness,
transparency and unity of heart and mind with
same goal and direction, without any form of
hypocrisy, show of superiority, inferiority and
dishonesty, this defines the perfect
relationship and partnership. Wisdom is the
form of maturity you should look out for in
him or her , the wisdom of God that is unto
righteousness, salvation, faith, love and every
good work, way and behaviour. look out for
the wisdom of God in him/her, for how far
your marriage goes, the success is absolutely
dependent on the wisdom of God that is at
work in you. A wise man is committed to
learning, because sound wisdom, good
understanding and sound knowledge brings
out the best in people, defines their character,
personality and makes them better persons.
A woman without the wisdom of God cannot
be your right partner and a man without the
wisdom of God cannot be your right leader,
being born again is not enough for marriage,
for you can be born again and still act so
carnal, but preparing and building your
personality with the knowledge of God to gain
the form of maturity needed for success in
marriage and life is key, as many prepare for
the wedding and not marriage. Marriage is
about relationship and it takes the wisdom of
God to build and have a fruitful and excellent
relationship. Virtuous is synonymous to
wisdom, and a wise woman brings honour to
her husband, so thoughtful, with sound
judgement, advice and counsel driven by
selflessness and not selfish, personal interest
or gain, this why the bible says her husband is
known in the gates, when he sitteth among the
elders in the land (proverbs 31:23) her
wisdom has heaped on him honour and decor
of respect.
A wise man brings honour and glory to his
wife, name, home, family and entire
household. but a foolish man brings shame,
reproach, disgrace to his name, wife, family
and household, while a foolish woman brings
vanity upon her home, reproach to her
husband and his name, she tears her house
apart, waste the resources instead of holding
it together, growing and building it and
strengthen good friendships within and
outside. A foolish man and woman is
covetous, proud, ungrateful, never truly
appreciating good and kindness because they
think, their manipulation and deception
brought it, they trust in their deceptive ways
and abilities rather than God, they love gain
rather than giving, they seek men's praises
and pleases wanting you to notice them, they
seek to impress, they scorn, mock instead of
helping in the law of kindness, they work for
self recognition, help to lord over instead of to
serve, advantageous, envious, wanting
competition, feeling better than, bringing
down others, with negative and selfish
motives, pretentious, self centered, self willed,
greedy, make judgements based on sentiments
and emotional feelings, only with you for
advantage, to obtain and extort, always
demanding, living in the now for quick
gratification , seeks what they can gain, get,
have and benefit from you, envious, not
teachable, despise corrections, lacks
understanding, direction and discretion,
immature, but wisdom, knowledge shall deliver
him who is humble, willing to learn and
become better. For the fact you made a
mistake does not make you foolish, but not
accepting to and taking responsibility for your
fault,or mistake, to make things right, trying
to defend yourself for ego sake, not showing
any willingness and appreciation for learning,
correction, instruction and direction is
foolishness, a sign you don't want to learn
and become better. Truth has weight but a
wise man will accept it because it makes him
a better person.
The people who failed and succeed in life and
in the bible did because they made the
wisdom and knowledge of God a priority and
core pursuit, finding sound and good
understanding. it is not just getting
knowledge, there is knowledge everywhere,
information everywhere, but not many wisdom
and sound understanding. Its not about the
books you read, but the truth, realities, sound
wisdom, good understanding, exposure,
illumination, enlightenment you gain from
such, that lives forever with you, which you
become and live, that makes you matured and
a better person, this is why people without
knowledge will always perish. Academic
prowess can't impart you the wisdom of God
and the sound understanding needed for life
and living, but only the knowledge of God,
truth through the Holy Ghost can. In this age
and times anybody who is not committed to
reading and learning cannot be your right
leader and partner, because wisdom is the
principle thing. The kind of knowledge you
have gotten, the message you listen to, the
people you listen to, will determine how wise
you become and how better you succeed in life
and marriage. Wisdom and understanding is
what defines and determines our reasoning,
character, attitude, approach, thinking,
perspective and perception, giving us the right
one. A foolish person lacks the patience and
discipline for knowledge and truth, but a wise
man seeks and pursues after it.
is not a beautiful woman, but a woman of
wisdom, not a handsome man, or man with a
a fat, good or ok bank account but a man
with wisdom, just like the foolish and
ungrateful Nabal brought upon his entire
household destruction by the reason of his
foolishness, and the wisdom and sound
understanding of Abigail saved her life, and
her household and the King David from
shearing blood, which Nabal later died for his
foolishness. A fool lacks understanding,
despise the ways of God and says there is no
God. A wise woman is priceless, this is her
true beauty and virtue and is above rubies, she
is uncommon and extraordinary, powerful,
which money cannot buy, this is why she is an
ornament of grace and a blessing and source
of great joy to his heart, a fresh nectar to his
soul and a wise man can never be compared
to the riches of the world put together,in a
matter of time his wisdom, humility shall
make way for him and bring glory, honour to
him and his entire household. FIND OUT THE
WISDOM OF God, it is the principal thing.
Wisdom will help him\her do the right and
correct according to the will and purpose of
God. |
Re: Institution Of Successful Relationship by princessudy1(f): 10:52pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
The first thing a lady should look out for in a
man is leadership, because leadership
determines everything, the success, progress
of anything, how far you go, what you become
is determined by the kind of leadership you
willingly submit yourself to and follow. I
rather go for a lady, who is rational enough to
know what she need, sound in judgement
enough to discern it and courageous enough
to accept it, than a lady lead about with
feelings or emotions. A true leader is first in
absolute submission to the laws and ways of
the highest authority (God) before he can
command followership through inspiration,
vision and character.
The quality of Leadership is the maturity a
lady should look out for in a man, leadership
has to do with his mindset, thinking,
perception, attitude, philosophy and believe
system. Many young men who go into
marriage today, have little or no knowledge of
leadership and many women who go into
marriage, go into it without finding leadership.
Leadership will determine how successful your
partnership and relationship comes out. The
position of a man in the home, is a place of
authority, which means leadership, the kind of
leadership will determine how far that
marriage will go. How much is he committed
to leadership that will command his loyalty
and faithfulness to leadership? Is his
leadership selflessly centred on God and his
word and built around you? Prove his
leadership, the sincerity of his leadership, you
are called a helper, a help meet, what kind of
leadership will you be helping? Real women
don't put emotions first, but reality first,
emotions can be deceptive, love is never blind
but emotions are blind and many times stirred
by selfishness, immaturity, lack of exposure
and knowledge . The true example of
leadership is Jesus Christ, this is why God
gave the man Jesus as the perfect standard of
leadership to achieve success in the home.
Prove his leadership through the word, prayer
and mostly importantly allow time to prove it
Until you see yourself as a leader, you can't
manifest the character of one, and the kind of
leader you are determines everything. A leader
takes responsibility and not finding the one to
blame, leaders don't gives excuses because
they are accountable. How much sense of
responsibility he got to be accountable for
you, for your welfare and well-being in all
areas of life? Leadership brings out the best
in people, leadership brings out the value,
worth and potential in people, one great
character of leadership is patience, it focuses
on the strength of people rather than
weakness. It is characterised by faith,
positivity, value, love and hope. Leadership is
about people, leadership provides direction,
purpose, it's selfless and sacrificial.
Leadership proves integrity, it brings provision
and care. Great leaders are people who aren't
intimidated by your potential but would rather
partner with you to achieve the best. Great
leaders seek people who is as resourceful as
they are, or more resourceful and selflessly
work with them to achieve a common goal,
this because they aren't looking for people to
control, use or take advantage but humble
people to lead, provide a direction and
environment for to reach their full potential,
worth and place of value and significance.
Only a purposeful woman, who is going
somewhere will seek out leadership, the kind
of leadership that will take you to the
fulfilment of the purpose, plans and destiny of
God for your life. Leaders understands they
aren't perfect, this why they surround
themselves with the right people and create a
perfect working relationship with them to
achieve a selfless goal and not a personal
ambition. Great leadership is never about self
this is why they consult with the people they
trust, they listen to their ideas because they
believe in them when it comes to making
decisions. Submission is the leadership you
have willingly accepted to follow and be a
part of to give your all and best to, into
achieving the set goal. What you should seek
in a man is not whether if he loves you, or
whether he got some money in his pocket in
the immediate, or whether if he is handsome,
short, tall or dark, it is whether if he has the
kind of leadership to lead you into the place of
God for your life, where you find true
fulfilment, meaning and value for living.
You should believe in him because you have
found in him the kind of leadership and you
should believe in her because you have found
the person who has seen in you the value of
leadership and believes so much in it to want
to be a part of it by commitment. The
disciples followed Jesus and remained with
him because of leadership, Sarah followed
Abraham because of leadership, she called
him Lord because she was so overwhelmed by
his leadership. Submission means how much
you trust his leadership, to freely give yourself
away without any reservation to journey with
him, knowing you will be protected, selflessly
and unconditional cared for, you will be
priority having your good and unselfish
interest at heart. Leadership provides safety,
how much do you trust his leadership to be
safe with him, spiritually, emotionally and
otherwise. Submission is not what you force,
it is what your leadership brings out in the
right people, it is the inspiration of your
leadership that people aspire to.
My principle of marriage is always this, since
marriage is all about the fulfilment of the
purpose and vision of God, partnership is the
key, it's not about finding a good person, but
it's all about finding the right person, for the
right person is what becomes the good to you.
Right partnership is key. I pray God help you
to first discover your self and purpose and
help you with his wisdom to discern the right
leadership and right partner in leadership to
fulfil purpose. The man provides the
leadership and the woman gives the
partnership in leadership, great leadership can
fail, good leadership can crash if it doesn't
have or go with the right partnership. It's not
about who is a good man, but who is the right
leader for you, it's not about who is a good
woman but who is the right partner for you,
that fits into your leadership. God is more
interested in your life and future, in his plans
and purpose for your life. Don't be
disappointed by failed relationships, or by
people who said no, be bold to end a
relationship when you discover God is not in
it, and it won't lead you into the fruition of
God's plans for your life and be courageous
and wise enough to take an ended relationship
if you truly trust in God, because God got
great plans for you that he is so interested in
giving you the right person for your future. It
works for your good. Above all pray. #Excerpts
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Re: Institution Of Successful Relationship by feldido(m): 10:53pm On Nov 06, 2015 |
Seriously I didn't read... Please organise your write up properly. |
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