ggirl4real:
Op, you are still a teenager who is under his parents. So your dad still has authority over you...

At a certain age, I don't think using cane makes the child do what you want. Most times, sitting the child down to talk sense into his head will do the magic

Op calm down, your dad wants the best for you. With time, he'll adjust.

Eleniyan15:


you must be kidding

ggirl4real:

No, I'm adolescenting

Richy4:
The one I am against is the cane. who flogs an undergraduate in this 21st century?

Other expect of your restriction is fine by me. he has a reason why he was doing that. the fact that you are a 200L student, does not mean he was not your father anymore. You are still his beloved son to whom he wiped his as$ about 19 years ago..

You are under his roof, he calls the shot, not you. when you are independent, gets a job and pays the bill, then you will be free but for now abide by his rules. I believe when you grow up more in the next 10years you will be thanking his for shielding you from certain things

As for the cane, If you have an uncle or aunt, your father's younger brother or elder sister that is in good terms with your dad, tell him or her about the cane.... Tell him or her that you are going to obey all his rule in the house but if he touches you again with anything, you will not take. say it and mean it....

Expect a little "gra gra" after the warning has been delivered from your dad. do not answer back on the "gra gra" matters, he was just trying to deal with the fact that his baby boy is now a man.... he has gotten the massage....

Good luck with your studies

Sirsoftness:


I don't think you understand what I meant by he restricts me...
Asin I don't leave the house at all and when he sends me to deliver something to his friend or college and I say I don't know where that street is
Dats another round of scolding for me

I mean how am I suppose to know anywhere if u don't allow me go out

Richy4:


sorry to say this but You sounded like a nursery school kid to me. It is not compulsory that you must not know everywhere. but definitely, your dad did not cage you in that house. you are not helping matters at all. you caged yourself at home and expect him to tell you like a little boy to go out and play and when he did not say it, you feel he was preventing you from going out.....

The question is, How do you go to your Uni? does he drop and pick you up like a kid? is it everyday you go to uni? Don't you have a free lecture day in your time table.or you have already handed him your time table. At least you and I know that you cannot study from Monday to Friday. even if you do, there must be a day of the week that your lectures finish early. instead of going home, why not use that period and hang out with your friends?

Don't you have a phone? any day you are not returning early or you feel like catching up with friends (i mean the good ones), can't you call your mum or any other family member and tell them that you got a group assignment and your group members are gathering that day to solve and hand in the assignment the next day? how can he refuse you from doing assignment? Haba mallam!!! must we tell you that biko?

Sirsoftness:
Am a 200L student in Delta state university Abraka 19 years of age

My problem is that my dad still treats me like a child I kept silent for a while thinking when I gain admission he will stop and give me my freedom,but no I have facial hair and I like it but anytime I come home my dad forces me to cut it,he also restricts me from visiting any of my friends and doesn't allow any of my friends visit me,and if I say I want to stay in school and not come home he is definitely goin to disgrace me in school. The main reason of my writing this post is because he used the cane on me he said he called me and I didn't answer,in my defense I didn't hear him call me I was busy he finished my body without giving me a chance to explain

Now what I want to ask is at my age and position should I still be flogged and how can I get my dad to understand I am no longer a child

Sirsoftness:


I don't go to school from my place...School hostel

He does all that when m home during holidays...and he made it mmake's it very clear everyday b4 he leaves for work that i should stay at home

Sirsoftness:
Am a 200L student in Delta state university Abraka 19 years of age

My problem is that my dad still treats me like a child I kept silent for a while thinking when I gain admission he will stop and give me my freedom,but no I have facial hair and I like it but anytime I come home my dad forces me to cut it,he also restricts me from visiting any of my friends and doesn't allow any of my friends visit me,and if I say I want to stay in school and not come home he is definitely goin to disgrace me in school. The main reason of my writing this post is because he used the cane on me he said he called me and I didn't answer,in my defense I didn't hear him call me I was busy he finished my body without giving me a chance to explain

Now what I want to ask is at my age and position should I still be flogged and how can I get my dad to understand I am no longer a child

murphyrichy:
After reading your post, I couldn't believe it. But when I checked the age of my youngest broda whom i still flog because he's stubborn, I gat to find out that you are a year older than him. So for your Dad to still flog you at dis your age shows that he sees sometime wrong in you. may be your are the stubborn type? check your character joor.

Chidoks:
Where is your mom?