She is a graduate and before they got married, he made her promise she will not go for Bank job, But later after the marriage,she got an offer from one of those banks and acaccepted it. seeing the level of her excitement, he allowed her to go for the job. She now doesnt have time to prepare breakfast for the family and mostly come back late. He now hired a19year maid, but the wife said she doesnt want young girl as a maid, she wants elderly woman. And he said he doesnt want elderly woman in his house and gave his wife the option of quitting the job or that young maid continues.....

She now doesnt listen to him, come back around 11pm, if he talk, she will say 'i thought you have a second wife'.

pls what should he do,?

End time wife, she better be careful especially on this new year we are entering.
Oga if you know that this situation is going to get worse in future, I suggest you clip her wings now before she soars higher than the eagle. Terminate that jib of hers, heavens will not fall, with time she will get over it but your family will still be intact

When did men start picking maids, end time husband

What would be his reason for him not wanting an elderly maid, why can't he make breakfast himself for the kids, some of this bushmen husband masquerades smh,

I only hire elderly women in my house, no young maids for hubby to abuse and impregnate, ( that hubby probably has hidden agenda)

How should she live her job, will he provide all the household needs, I thought the more income in the family the better

The wife is right

Women surely know how to torment men. Soon the man will bow for peace to reign. Yet we call them weaker vessel. Lord let not my wife turn disobedient and troublesome.

“and gave his wife the option of quitting the job or that young maid continues “


NICE

The husband cannot just say she should quit her job.Does he have an alternative for her?
The husband should seek a compromise.He should allow the woman choose who she wants as a maid.The wife also should make her husband see reason rather than being rebellious.
On the longer term,she can seek a job that gives her more time.

The lady should be very careful with her marriage before any damage is done. As for the man he should seat his wife and talk to her so as for them to make a decision that will favor both. After all, marriage is for better, for worse(please note, I said worse and not worst)

I'm interested in knowing if they have kids and why exactly does he (or they) need a maid.

I think the marriage has broken down and they should initiate the process of splitting before it becomes violent.

The woman isn't ready to give up her job and the man is adamant to get an elderly maid. And for the woman to start coming that late means she may have given up on the union so I see no reason why it should subsist further.

I won't advice the woman to give up her job just so she can perform 'wifely' duties. The both aren't mutually elusive and she's got a career to sustain.

Neither will I advice the man to go for an elderly maid even though he can afford one and to be quite frank he's in a better position to put an end to the issue. His insistence of a young maid is a calculated attempt to bring the wife to submission and coerced her to give up her job. I detest intimidation and if I were the wife I'd stand my ground, sorry.

They should be bold enough to embrace a separation or divorce as the case may be.

That bank job is a NO go area for my wife.
If she like make she read all the whole book for this world with masters and thousands of degrees, she will end up having her own business where she can close or go to shop any fvcking time. If you aren't pleased with my principal, go for another guy. Simple as ABC

^^^Will you raise funds for the business for her?
Not everyone is cut out for business anyway@agarawu23.

ronald4lif,it's too early to start insinuating divorce.

Miami11:
When did men start picking maids, end time husband

I only hire elderly women in my house, no young maids for hubby to abuse and impregnate,

The wife is right

You and the wife are wrong.

Miami11:


I'm not wrong I don't hire anyone young in my house, my mom gets me those village women her age that need help, all they do is primarily take care of kids and very little house work, me and hubby do chores together

I like older women because they are mature, hubby will never sleep with them you can never mistreat a person your moms age so your conscious is always right.

There she goes again! Why do you make the thing that works for you and your hubby the standard 4 all?

You want other married folk to start doing them because it works for you right?

Listen, the Op's wife is chasing after wind, you don't run fast in a wrong lane, it is useless.

First, she agreed to never take a banking job but when the job came and the hubby saw how excited she was, he compromised.

The woman if she has common sense ought to know that she has to make up for it in a way. I believe what is happening now is the reason the man never wanted her to take a banking job.

My dear, she has failed woefully on her primary duties, did you read that she doesn't arrange breakfast nor come home on time?

Now lemme ask you.

What is her duty as a wife?

And which one is she doing?

One thing women need to understand is that your home comes first before work.

If you're successful at work but your home is a mess then you have failed in your primary duty as a married person.

This woman failed woefully and therefore have no right to form opinion on how the man handles the home.

lilmax:
“and gave his wife the option of quitting the job or that young maid continues “


NICE

He's a man alright

thorpido:
^^^Will you raise funds for the business for her?
Not everyone is cut out for business anyway@agaraw u23.

ronald 4lif,it's too early to start insinuating divorce.

ofcus I am 100% ready for that.

I just can't take a carrier lady as a wife, she must create time to give our kids motherly training. she should leave me for the hustle.

Ask them how much them dey pay for the mumu bank sef and you will work like jakki morning till night

thorpido:
The husband cannot just say she should quit her job.Does he have an alternative for her?
The husband should seek a compromise.He should allow the woman choose who she wants as a maid.The wife aso should make her husband see reason rather than being rebellious.
On the longer term,she can seek a job that gives her more time.

Your point exactly

thorpido:
^^^Will you raise funds for the business for her?
Not everyone is cut out for business anyway@agarawu 23.

ronald4 lif,it's too early to start insinuating divorce.

I agree divorce is too early. They can amicably come to a truce or separate for a while until all frayed nerves are calm. Else, it might get to emotional blackmail, verbal attack and violent.

Tallesty1:
Your point exactly

Vous ne comprenez pas?

agarawu23:
ofcus I am 100% ready for that.

I just can't take a carrier lady as a wife, she must create time to give our kids motherly training. she should leave me for the hustle.

Ask them how much them dey pay for the mumu bank sef and you will work like jakki morning till night

Nice one.It's all about compromise and working for each other.

thorpido:
Nice one.It's all about compromise and working for each other.

yes bro.

thorpido:
Vous ne comprenez pas?

Sil vous plait pouvez-vous me faire comprendre? Je ne lis pas tout.

Tallesty1:
You are the wife are wrong.

I'm not wrong I don't hire anyone young in my house, my mom gets me those village women her age that need help, all they do is primarily take care of kids and very little house work, me and hubby do chores together

I like older women because they are mature, hubby will never sleep with them you can never mistreat a person your moms age so your conscious is always right.

Lol,your wife is funny, you brought a 19years old to intimidate her but you see, you can't give everyone conditions. Send this girl away first of all, sit her down and talk like a matured individual. Power tussle is a dangerous thing in a marriage, you won't know when you have flipped on the wrong switch. Dialogue saves lot of trouble, try a sensible dialogue session but send home the teen.


Wanting a teenage help tells a lot about you. she doesn't even trust you and that is why she is holding tenaciously unto her job than quit to serve you breakfasts.

When two ego tripping over sabis marry. . .

None is ready to compromise , make a bit of sacrifice and resolve issues as adults.

How many banks does she work in to return that late? If you are able to provide for the family, let her quit the job and you get something else for her. These things make single guys like us scared. Good girl gone bad, always.

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agarawu23:
If you aren't pleased with my principles, go for another guy. Simple as ABC

talk of a real man...

i salute u sir...

johnson232:

talk of a real man...

i salute u sir...

She already tell him what to do!

Tallesty1:
Sil vous plait pouvez-vous me faire comprendre? Je ne lis pas tout.

In summary,they are married.They should compromise and work for each other.
The man can't just tell her to quit her job,her parents sent her to school for a reason.The wife also should not be heady.She has to see reason with her husband.

ronald4lif:
I'm interested in knowing if they have kids and why exactly does he (or they) need a maid.

I think the marriage has broken down and they should initiate the process of splitting before it becomes violent.

The woman isn't ready to give up her job and the man is adamant to get an elderly maid. And for the woman to start coming that late means she may have given up on the union so I see no reason why it should subsist further.

I won't advice the woman to give up her job just so she can perform 'wifely' duties. The both aren't mutually elusive and she's got a career to sustain.

Neither will I advice the man to go for an elderly maid even though he can afford one and to be quite frank he's in a better position to put an end to the heist. His insistence of a young maid is a calculated attempt to bring the wife to submission and coerced her to give up her job. I detest intimidation and if I were the wife I'd stand my ground, sorry.

They should be bold enough to embrace a separation or divorce as the case may be.

why advocating for divorce?
Is career greater than a sustainable and peaceful marriage?

Money is not the end but a means to an end!
They should find a common ground to settle their divergent cravings.
Sometimes I wonder what our generation is turning into, where divorce is a norm and fornication is a must-do for the youths.
No more conscience to humanity, but to fill their flesh with anything associated with pleasure.

iupac120:


why advocating for divorce?
Is career greater than a sustainable and peaceful marriage?

Money is not the end but a means to an end!
They should find a common ground to settle their divergent cravings.
Sometimes I wonder what our generation is turning into, where divorce is a norm and fornication is a must-do for the youths.
No more conscience to humanity, but to fill their flesh with anything associated with pleasure.

You should have done better to proffer a remedy to the quandary than bickering about which is better between marriage and a career. None should be substituted to the other regardless of which you consider better. What you assume to be better isn't same for another.

While I have admitted that divorce is a premature option at this time but I would maintain it shouldn't be dismissed if they can't arrive at a solution. Divorce isn't sacrilegious nor a taboo and the best approach for any couple with irreconcilable differences and I don't know what's your problem with divorce.

Your rhetorics about fornication is frivolous as I don't know what that means outside the perimeters of religion. And it might also interest you to know that not everyone is religious thus not bound by it teachings.