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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by Chinwem(f): 10:58am On Jan 03, 2016
shalomp:


He said he can bring me over there but not as his wife, so that I can find my way. But I don't know what will be involved

Remember the lady who was caught trafficking drugs that her alleged 'fiance' told her to bring from Nigeria. I m not saying this is your portion, I m just asking you to bear this in mind
Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by janvier27(m): 11:29am On Jan 03, 2016
shalomp:


How can I fight my case from Nigeria? that's my problem

He may not now be legally married to that other person, but preparing the way. If really he is married to that other woman, let him play into your hands by releasing some evidence to enable you build up a case and report to the embassy.
Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by Nobody: 11:39am On Jan 03, 2016
fem29:


If you were given papers because you are his wife that means that the authorities know about your marriage. How then was he able to marry another woman. Bigamy is not allowed in western countries. It is not adding up

Not necessarily.

The European authorities may well know about the wife in Nigeria (his legal wife). It is still very possible for this guy to get married illegally to another woman in Europe. In a court or church wedding, both parties would have been asked if they were, or had ever been married. If both stated no, they would have been given a date.

Records of marriages that took place outside Europe are NOT held on record in the European country the marriage is taking place in. There would have been no knowledge of the man's legal marriage in Nigeria UNLESS there was any degree of doubt, enough to trigger a check with the immigration service, who will of course hold records of the Nigerian marriage.

It is obvious the marriage in Europe is bigamous, so to all intents and purpose, is NOT valid. The Nigerian wife remains legally married, and can travel based upon her current status alone.

I would still travel (she's free to do so) and find my own way. Settlement won't be easy, but at least she can get her marriage dissolved (I can't see her husband contesting it) and possibly blow the whistle on her cad of a husband. Bigamy IS illegal in Europe.

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by Kx: 11:50am On Jan 03, 2016
Chinwem:
Sorry to put it this way OP but your husbands stories sound very very dodgy
Dodgy,are you Shaun nwa Amadi? Lol

At op,
Nigerians do this a lot, it used to be the script and lifestyle of Nigerians, mostly middle beltans and ibos in Austria and central Europe in the 90s.Matter of fact most of them had naija wives locally based and European wife based in Europe to tho knowledge of Dia naija wives.
Guys involved in stuff like this to firm up the hustle knowing too well that someday they ll discard all the baggage of the oyibo narriage,even kids.

Solution. Talk with your "husband" and let him tell u all the truth. Let him know the truth will enable you take informed decisions.
Seek more advice only when you have known all there is to know.

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by PresVA: 12:16pm On Jan 03, 2016
shalomp:


She wants him to divorce me. She is so desperate that she
made him to go into another marriage without being
divorced. So how do I protect myself?
Here you're blaming the woman.. your husband got involved with another woman and you're calling the woman desperate? Was your husband forced to marry her? Abi he was charmed?

Blame your husband more; he's the one you hv a business with. . he did everything with his eyes open. .

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by shalomp: 12:16pm On Jan 03, 2016
Siena:


Not necessarily.

The European authorities may well know about the wife in Nigeria (his legal wife). It is still very possible for this guy to get married illegally to another woman in Europe. In a court or church wedding, both parties would have been asked if they were, or had ever been married. If both stated no, they would have been given a date.

Records of marriages that took place outside Europe are NOT held on record in the European country the marriage is taking place in. There would have been no knowledge of the man's legal marriage in Nigeria UNLESS there was any degree of doubt, enough to trigger a check with the immigration service, who will of course hold records of the Nigerian marriage.

It is obvious the marriage in Europe is bigamous, so to all intents and purpose, is NOT valid. The Nigerian wife remains legally married, and can travel based upon her current status alone.

I would still travel (she's free to do so) and find my own way. Settlement won't be easy, but at least she can get her marriage dissolved (I can't see her husband contesting it) and possibly blow the whistle on her cad of a husband. Bigamy IS illegal in Europe.

Tnx so much! Your comment is very helpful
Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by shalomp: 12:20pm On Jan 03, 2016
PresVA:
Here you're blaming the woman.. your husband got involved with another woman and you're calling the woman desperate? Was your husband forced to marry her? Abi he was charmed?

Blame your husband more; he's the one you hv a business with. . he did everything with his eyes open. .

Ofcourse, two of them are one of a kind. Both are desperate!
Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by Nobody: 12:51pm On Jan 03, 2016
byvan03:




How do you know she is aware of you, have you spoken to her? Don't believe a word he says without seeing for yourself. No one can break a marriage that isn't already broken.
Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by Onegai(f): 1:57pm On Jan 03, 2016
shalomp:


She wants him to divorce me. She is so desperate that she
made him to go into another marriage without being
divorced. So how do I protect myself?

Babe,

you and I know deep down that this is not true.


Your husband had no excuse to pursue the relationship with her, because he apparently didn't need her for you to get papers as his wife. He had a relationship which is why she's pregnant and now it's time for you to come over, and he's wondering how to explain the fact that he has to pay child support to another woman, to you. It seems more likely that your man is covering his ars.e

I have never met a man 100% forced into marriage talk less of forced into bigamy. It will surprise you to find out she has no knowledge of you or worse, he swore to her you were forcing yourself on him.

I hate to say this, but just start thinking like a single woman, for now, if you're planning on travelling. But to be honest, don't travel. Don't get yourself into this, don't profit from this. You don't know that country, he does. If you go as his wife, then what? If she calls immigration and alleges a fraud and duplicity on both of you, they may tend to agree with her.

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by byvan03: 2:46pm On Jan 03, 2016
Op if you desire to settle in the western country you can make the most out of your situation than blow it up completely. Read Siena's last paragraph but you need to know how to hustle till you stabilise yourself.

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by cococandy(f): 5:55pm On Jan 03, 2016
shalomp:


She wants him to divorce me. She is so desperate that she
made him to go into another marriage without being
divorced. So how do I protect myself?
You're already calling her desperate.
She's just a victim in this issue as you are. Your husband is not the victim.
One can't force marriage on someone.
So you husband must have married her for reasons best known to him.

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by juman(m): 8:27pm On Jan 03, 2016
If you have tangible thing doing at home you better stay, but if you are less busy at home you can go there and see how things unfold.
But bear in mind that if you go there you have shared husband and need to struggle by yourself to survive.
Don't go there to make trouble, your husband most probably was constraint to engage with the woman because of his situation.
Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by amtheone(m): 10:57pm On Jan 03, 2016
@op, this is difficult. But for him to tell you that he can help you travel but not as his wife and that you will find your way when you get there is enough reason to think deep.

Where will you stay in Europe if you travel?

Even if you have some cash to travel with, where exactly will you put your head and feed from, because your husband presently is being accomodated by his oyibo wife.

If you travel, where will you stay to find your way according to him?

Even if you have relations/friends, will they be willing to accomodate you untill you find your way?

If he successfully convince his oyibo wife that you are his sister just to allow you stay temporary in her house, will you be able to endure such emotional burdens while finding you way?

I think your safety and happiness is more than what this man is trying to get you into. If you go ahead and travel under this context, you are going to have a lot of issues.

Like someone rightly pointed, I dont think you should travel. Its hard, but to travel under this circumstance is not a good idea.

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Re: My Husband Is Committing Bigamy! by oglalasioux(m): 8:43am On Jan 04, 2016
Di obodo oyibo!

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