I want you to please advise me on this issue. I married my wife about five years ago and we have been blessed with kids. The problem is that whenever we want to have sex my wife always sleeps like a dead person. No amount of pre-intimacy or touching will make her respond. She doesn't touch nor feel moved. You might say that I should talk to her about this. I have so many times but she remains the same.
Î am a virtuous person and don't want to 'look outside'. Please, wise one in the house, what else should I do ?

Then she's disconnected..... What else do you guys do together for fun.....apart from sex

I dont understand ur analogy. She "sleeps" like log during sex or when she is sleeping and you want to wake her up for show she doesn't responds n sleeps on or what? I no undastand o!

After five years

INTERESTING SUPER STORY.WHEN IS THE NEXT EPISODE GOING TO BE OUT

Please configure the lies and repost.

After five years?
Sleeping "during" sex? Tell me, na Borehole u marry?
What kind of work do your wife do, a stressful one?
Or do you overload her with house chores, no help and still u want sex.
Ia there love between you two?

so, how is asking us going to solve your problem?


we are not inside her body to know what's going on there.

look back and try to remember what went wrong and when exactly did her non-reponsiveness start?

don't stop talking to her about it. ask her what she likes.

ODIKWA SERIOUS


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pdppower:
I want you to please advise me on this issue. I married my wife about five years ago and we have been blessed with kids. The problem is that whenever we want to have sex my wife always sleeps like a dead person. No amount of pre-intimacy or touching will make her respond. She doesn't touch nor feel moved. You might say that I should talk to her about this. I have so many times but she remains the same.
Î am a virtuous person and don't want to 'look outside'. Please, wise one in the house, what else should I do ?

Do nothing. It is your cross to bear. Bear it well.

On second thought, is she on the lightweight side? You can be the one to be positioning her like a doll while u do your business. She gets to remain like a log while u position the log front back and sideways. Win-win.

https://www.nairaland.com/2600845/wife-starves-me-sex#38028079

The scenario isn't immediately the same but some of the tips here may help you

Good luck!

SmartChoices:

Then she's disconnected..... What else do you guys do together for fun.....apart from sex

We usually chat together and do so many other things together. What I feel is that she has a poor libido.

SAMBARRY:
INTERESTING SUPER STORY.WHEN IS THE NEXT EPISODE GOING TO BE OUT

But truly some couples don't enjoy sex in marriage! it's a sad but true fact...... Many times it's a complete disconnect like in this case and painful part is because of the awkwardness one may not be able to discuss it freely!

pdppower:
We usually chat together and do so many other things together. What I feel is that she has a poor libido.

Or perhaps you're not stimulating her as much as she would like! Do you caress her very well before penetrating?

Do you use stimulating words to turn her on? Express your feelings to her?

Is your body/personal hygiene on point?

jaymejate:
Please configure the lies and repost.

After five years?
Sleeping "during" sex? Tell me, na Borehole u marry?
What kind of work do your wife do, a stressful one?
Or do you overload her with house chores, no help and still u want sex.
Ia there love between you two?

Yes there's love. And she doesn't do too much house chores, although she does occasionally, but I usually help out. She even said she prefers it early in the morning. Still the same thing happens

pdppower:
We usually chat together and do so many other things together. What I feel is that she has a poor libido.

Like what and what do you do together for fun especially outside the box of your home

Sorry oh! Maybe its high time you gave 'domitilla a call'?

One more reason why pre-marital sex should be encouraged but not abused.

lomprico:
I dont understand ur analogy. She "sleeps" like log during sex or when she is sleeping and you want to wake her up for show she doesn't responds n sleeps on or what? I no undastand o!

Just thinking d same. I think d Op is high on something for him to post this. Gracias

Don't wait for her to fall asleep before making moves then!


After a hard day, you go come dey tap her for night, you get luck say she no bite you sef

Sleep as in S-L-E-E-P?

aaronson:
One more reason why pre-marital sex should be encouraged but not abused.

Crap.

pdppower:
I want you to please advise me on this issue. I married my wife about five years ago and we have been blessed with kids. The problem is that whenever we want to have sex my wife always sleeps like a dead person. No amount of pre-intimacy or touching will make her respond. She doesn't touch nor feel moved. You might say that I should talk to her about this. I have so many times but she remains the same.
Î am a virtuous person and don't want to 'look outside'. Please, wise one in the house, what else should I do ?

She is obviously not in the mood. It seems to be a libido problem in which case you might try foods like chocolate and other herbs that increase the libido or see a doctor. Besides have you been caring to your wife lately ? You know ladies respond to good romance positively.

UyiIredia:


She is obviously not in the mood. It seems to be a libido problem in which case you might try foods like chocolate and other herbs that increase the libido or see a doctor. Besides have you been caring to your wife lately ? You know ladies respond to good romance positively.

Thanks. Been ever caring, but if it needs improvement, will do.

but op what if your wife is a Nairalander LMAO

Early in d mornin is d best time 2 av sex wt her.
Or u can tell her 2ride ur dick dat wll b beta.
Standin is welcom

Vikky014:
but op what if your wife is a Nairalander LMAO

It will be a good way for her to know there's a problem. You'll be surprised the wife doesn't even realise this is a big deal for him.

RiloKiley:

It will be a good way for her to know there's a problem. You'll be surprised the wife doesn't even realise this is a big deal for him.

LOL. I PRAY SHE SEES IT O

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pdppower:
Yes there's love. And she doesn't do too much house chores, although she does occasionally, but I usually help out. She even said she prefers it early in the morning. Still the same thing happens

Oga Sir. No doubt there is love as you have said?
I will ask you some questions.
1: how well do you know your wife? Do u know how she was brought up? Do u knowhow she feels psychologically about sex? I ask you this because a lot of females were brought to believe sex is bad. And so when they finally get married and they are licensed to have the. Sex of their life time, they are still held back by that old teaching, which was inculcated in them to prevent teenage pregnancies.

2: Do an exercise like asking her how she likes to be touched? What she likes and how she likes it. Fine she has said to you she likes t in the morning. Tell you also tell her you'd love her to participate and not just lie there. I feel her lying thereis as a result of what I have mentioned above. And the truth iis when it comes to sex, you've to asks some questiions over and over before people open up nd mehn it takes time.

3: you could sign up for couples/sex therapy classes. You might want to contact Mrs funke abii na funmi akingbade. I can't remember her first name now. She writes on sex in saturday punch newspaper. You and wifey needs serous couple therapy.

Stay blessed!

Houseofglam7:
Don't wait for her to fall asleep before making moves then!


After a hard day, you go come dey tap her for night, you get luck say she no bite you sef

Babe! This cracked me up mhen! Still laughing at the last sentence. God!!!

Take her to shoprite, leventis and kingsway. Buy her all d imaginable she go change

@OP, ur post is not well defined.Is it that anytime of d day-morning,afternoon,night dat u want to have sex,she won't respond or have d feelings,if that's d case,then it is low libido and u can go for herbs and other medications.Or is it that morning,afternoon,night,immediately u start sex,she will be like log and sleeping,then that's another thing,probably u have to intensify fore play and bring her mind to sex.