Dear Nairalanders, I think I am going crazy and I really need your help. I'm 32 married to a 31year old for 6 years now with two kids (4 & 2).

Recently I figured out I'm having more sex with my wife every night and she's complaining a lot, though she isn't the sex or romantic type of woman but i thought i could teach her like everyone adviced me, it's embarrassing me. Everynight i have a strong erection but no luck from my wife. I want someone who has overcome such experience to please tell me what to do. Be it drugs or social attitude. Please be polite.

neo25:
Dear Nairalanders, I think I am going crazy and I really need your help. I'm 32 married to a 31year old for 6years now with two kids (4 & 2). Recently I figured out I'm having more sex with my wife every night and she's complaining a lot,though,she isn't the sex or romantic type of woman but i thought i could teach her like everyone adviced me,it's embarrassing me. Everynight i have a strong erection but no luck from my wife.I want someone whom has overcame such experience please tell me what to do. Be it drugs or social attitude. Please be polite

Here are a few tips that might help you:

1. Try some romance during the day.Send her nice texts. Call her to check on her etc etc
2. Depending on what your work schedule and hers is like, try and ease up some of the chores/ activities she has to attend to in the evenings. Help the children with homework if possible. see how you can help to make dinner preparation easier, this includes plucking ewedu if necessary .
3. The s.ex doesn't have to be immediately you both get into the room. Give her an hour or more to sleep, then you can warm your way in... you can also try early hours of the morning. She may be better rested and more receptive.
4. Buy her nice gifts to show how valuable she is to you. Doesnt have to be expensive. Even recharge card will do
5.Good luck!

She obviously works and is stressed out at the end if the day, particularly with kids and the stress of taking care of them. My advice- babythug made some nice suggestions.
In addition, can you do some research on how to make sex for her more earth shattering? It's probably become more like a chore to her now. Do new things to make her look forward to night times with you such as giving her head, if you're not doing that already.
And always try to look dapper as in try and dress nicely, smell nicely so that she will be reminded that she married a fine boy who anyone will be proud to call theirs.

babythug:


Here are a few tips that might help you:

1. Try some romance during the day.Send her nice texts. Call her to check on her etc etc
2. Depending on what your work schedule and hers is like, try and ease up some of the chores/ activities she has to attend to in the evenings. Help the children with homework if possible. see how you can help to make dinner preparation easier, this includes plucking ewedu if necessary .
3. The s.ex doesn't have to be immediately you both get into the room. Give her an hour or more to sleep, then you can warm your way in... you can also try early hours of the morning. She may be better rested and more receptive.
4. Buy her nice gifts to show how valuable she is to you. Doesnt have to be expensive. Even recharge card will do
5.Good luck!

Seconded!
If this doesn't work, then I don't know what will.

my question is has she been like this before or she just develop the attitude if just developed it then I will advice you to study her strictly and know what caused it maybe there are ways you have offended her and she just wants to use it as a punishment

babythug:


Here are a few tips that might help you:

1. Try some romance during the day.Send her nice texts. Call her to check on her etc etc
2. Depending on what your work schedule and hers is like, try and ease up some of the chores/ activities she has to attend to in the evenings. Help the children with homework if possible. see how you can help to make dinner preparation easier, this includes plucking ewedu if necessary .
3. The s.ex doesn't have to be immediately you both get into the room. Give her an hour or more to sleep, then you can warm your way in... you can also try early hours of the morning. She may be better rested and more receptive.
4. Buy her nice gifts to show how valuable she is to you. Doesnt have to be expensive. Even recharge card will do
5.Good luck!

Crap.

Op , simply tell her that marriage is called licensed Fuccking and if she isn't willing to play her role then you'll have no choice than to go for an alternative means.
Between, didn't you guys have any relationship before marriage ?

OP sex every night? Me sef go complain, you wan finish the woman. You didn't indicate if she was like this while you were dating, you also need to realise that a lot of women do experience low libido, once the begin making babies, hormonal Fuckup they said. Stress associated with taking care of children and work related stress i.e if she is working. If you really want to be banging every night, probably you need to help out more in house hold chores, relieving of her duties, it helps. You guys might equally need to design a 'time table' for sex, twice a week or once sef, with self control, and lots of soy products, which will reduce your own libido, it is possible and you'll see her respect for you will increase.

Bros, everynight? Haba?

You sef pity her na!

I will advice you try every other night

I thinkthis sort of crisis comes with the age because I seem to have similar issues with my wife. I'm 31,she is 30 and I find my sexy drive to be quite heightened lately so I don't think you have a problem and don't bother going tothe extreemlooking for solutions. But just like babythug suggested:

"2. Depending on what your work schedule and hers is like, try and ease up some of the chores/ activities she has to attend to in the evenings. Help the children with homework if possible. see how you can help to make dinner preparation easier, this includes plucking ewedu if necessary cheesy.
3. The s.ex doesn't have to be immediately you both get into the room. Give her an hour or more to sleep, then you can warm your way in... you can also try early hours of the morning. She may be better rested and more receptive. "

That should help.

Lemme add a tin 2 d@, Most men rush der women 4 sex, it shldnt b d@ way. play wit her, gist , joke... probably d lady always gets tired of doin it, mayb its hw d man penetrates her, n goes bout d process, am talkin 4rm experience. He shld always reassure her d@ he loves her n also get her gifts, it makes her feel special. Dnt make d sex look lyk hardwork, 1nce its lyk d@, she wld loose interest.

Keep starving! At least it will help you in losing some weight!

So, what else is new?

Adrielbradshaw:
Lemme add a tin 2 d@, Most men rush der women 4 sex, it shldnt b d@ way. play wit her, gist , joke... probably d lady always gets tired of doin it, mayb its hw d man penetrates her, n goes bout d process, am talkin 4rm experience. He shld always reassure her d@ he loves her n also get her gifts, it makes her feel special. Dnt make d sex look lyk hardwork, 1nce its lyk d@, she wld loose interest.

Hmmm. Finally a woman's perspective. Very interesting.






So u want us to still be giving u gifts? The wedding ceremony never do you?

And what's with the perpetual reassurance? Na wa oooooooo

babythug:


3. The s.ex doesn't have to be immediately you both get into the room. Give her an hour or more to sleep, then you can warm your way in... you can also try early hours of the morning. She may be better rested and more receptive.

4. Buy her nice gifts to show how valuable she is to you. Doesnt have to be expensive. Even recharge card will do

Chai. Men have suffered-ed.

Please what is "STRONG ATTENTION"?

Adrielbradshaw:

also get her gifts, it makes her feel special

babythug: Buy her nice gifts to show how valuable she is to you. Doesn't have to be expensive. Even recharge card will do

Gifts for sex. Hmm. Somehow, yall think there's no brothel on the way to his house, or maybe you're right and marriage is just really legal prostiitution. Or maybe you don't speak for the generality of womanhood, or maybe you do. But I digress. Please, carry on....

NashvilleTN:
Bros, everynight? Haba?

You sef pity her na!

I will advice you try every other night

From experience?

@neo25

1. Everyday is NOT realistic. Find out your wife's frequency (amount of times she's naturally wants sex)

2. Check out if she is overstressed during the day

3. Buy a lubricant and compromise... know you cannot get it everyday and not every time you have sex will be bang! Sometimes will be because you want it: some times will be because she wants it. Sometimes is because you both want it and yep it's fire on the rocks

Now to the lube... when you want it and she's not in the mode and tired (no amount of pre-intimacy will make her interested...) use the lube generously and lie beside her (not ontop ) and penetrate. She might join in after a while and if she can't, you satisfy your need without her doing much work.

Goodluck.

stinggy:

Seconded!
If this doesn't work, then I don't know what will.

I tell ya! Well said babythug. Couldn't agree with you more....

Try thinking about how to make money and provide huge care for your kids and building them maximum financial security. ..it cures extreme attention and take your mind off romping

Truckpusher:
Crap.

Op , simply tell her that marriage is called licensed Fuccking and if she isn't willing to play her role then you'll have no choice than to go for an alternative means.
Between, didn't you guys have any relationship before marriage ?

haba oga licensed what

Amis:
haba oga licensed what

You remember those days when you were still dependent on our parents and they notice you around any girl - They will call you and tell you that if you get somebody pregnant that you'll see what you wouldn't like to see.

But in marriage your parents and the girl's parents will come together and give you guys every right to fucck as you want - That's what I call licensed fucck.

Any man or woman that refused to play his or her part then shouldn't be taken seriously.

armyofone:
Try thinking about how to make money and provide huge care for your kids and building them maximum financial security. ..it cures extreme attention and take your mind off romping

After the hard day's hustle you need to unwind, come back home and romp someone up - It clears the head for the next morning task.

If you're not married then you can always endure or fix yourself up.

Truckpusher:
You remember those days when you were still dependent on our parents and they notice you around any girl - They will call you and tell you that if you get somebody pregnant that you'll see what you wouldn't like to see.

But in marriage your parents and the girl's parents will come together and give you guys every right to fucck as you want - That's what I call licensed fucck.

Any man or woman that refused to play his or her part then shouldn't be taken seriously.

Yes...it's true but come to think of it everynight He should take the woman into consideration.. Yanshing everyday will soon take a tow on her, she isn't a sex slave now and am sure she has kids to take care of and work. He might as well settle for BJ if he needs to unwind

Amis:


Yes...it's true but come to think of it everynight He should take the woman into consideration.. Yanshing everyday will soon take a tow on her, she isn't a sex slave now and am sure she has kids to take care of and work. He might as well settle for BJ

No one would be having sex every night unless he's completely jobless and of course during courtship they should have sorted out their differences.

Newly wedded couple are suppose to be suffocating each with sex.

Hmnn

Lol, sex for relaxation and unwinding ? Why not yoga, meditation, exercise, planning trip/vacation, trip to a petting zoo, community service etc
O doesn't clear your head. Op wants it every day it is food, liquid carbohydrate.

Truckpusher:
After the hard day's hustle you need to unwind, come back home and romp someone up - It clears the head for the next morning task.
If you're not married then you can always endure or fix yourself up.

Do like I do.
Send her a video of you playing with your "strong attention"!
Any time I want to drive my husband NUTS, I send him a pic or video of my pooohsie with a lot of juice ALL OVA IT!

Have you tried MASSAGING her clintoris with your "juice"?
It always works for moi o!

Adrielbradshaw:
Lemme add a tin 2 d@, Most men rush der women 4 sex, it shldnt b d@ way. play wit her, gist , joke... probably d lady always gets tired of doin it, mayb its hw d man penetrates her, n goes bout d process, am talkin 4rm experience. He shld always reassure her d@ he loves her n also get her gifts, it makes her feel special. Dnt make d sex look lyk hardwork, 1nce its lyk d@, she wld loose interest.

U are right. most guys don't know how to romance. Almost 10yrs of knowing hubby, its just few days ago, we discover u can squirt without penetration. I initiate him for urs to watch porn together in order to learn new technique. I actually got raw romance afterwards cos we learnt so many things. Techniques wey dey blow person brain.
Oga, don't just rush into d web, confuse her with different touching n sucking, na she go dey beg for mercy. U will hear different gospel songs in d morning from her with so much joy.lol

thelish:


U are right. most guys don't know how to romance. Almost 10yrs of knowing hubby, its just few days ago, we discover u can squirt without penetration. I initiate him for urs to watch porn together in order to learn new technique. I actually got raw romance afterwards cos we learnt so many things. Techniques wey dey blow person brain.
Oga, don't just rush into d web, confuse her with different touching n sucking, na she go dey beg for mercy. U will hear different gospel songs in d morning from her with so much joy.lol

. some Men really need to understand the act of sex does not revolve around them alone...we women too want to reach cloud 9 and testify to the goodness of Sex

Op. Your wife is not enjoying it because you are not doing it right. Same old Same...Guess nothing new.

There is nothing bad in having it everyday...just like me
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Point of Correction: Am not Jobless. And no matter how busy I am...I must Swindle a Fanny Everyday. Infact that is my reward after a busy day.

You need to Double Up in the bedroom.

When you do it right...She will want it every day.

Can't imagine being with a woman and can't Swindle her Fanny Everyday. Because No day is ever the same.


Op be creative in bed and add some fun to it...not just ere..ction to discharge.

Probably you two are sexually incompatible. And consequences of which one person will be sexually malnourished. (OP).

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