We feel obliged to inform you of a rather troubling incident which happened to Dr. Theresa, a Senior Registrar 1 in the department of Psychiatry of Obafemi Awolowo University Teaching Hospital (Ile-Ife) and a dear friend to us all. She is a very gentle, easy going, ever smiling and hardworking resident doctor, but even if she didn't possess any of the aforementioned attributes, she didn't deserve any of what occurred in the duration of this incident.

It all began on Thursday 25th February 2016 at her service apartment building located outside the hospital. It seemed like just another day- a quiet morning with the dew still on the cars parked in the compound and chirping of insects the predominant sound till it was shattered by the shrill shouts of Dr. Okpara. Dr. Okpara is a Wing Commander in the Nigerian Air Force, a resident Doctor in the Dept of Community Medicine in the same hospital where Theresa works, and also resides in that compound. So what could make this man, slightly overweight and bespectacled, irate early on a Thursday morning?

The obstruction of his car in the parking lot within the compound; that's the simple answer, but as it sometimes happens in life, even simple things can devolve into ugly scenarios. As is common in some buildings, the parking space is inadequate and as such tenants have to park behind other cars within the compound. This doesn't constitute the end of the world and tenants occasionally call each other- through the security guard- to move their cars in the morning so that individuals are able to drive out.

According to an eye witness (who is a doctor in the same hospital and also lives within the same compound), Dr Theresa's car was obstructing Dr. Okpara's car and he called her out to move her car. She had told him she was dressing up and would soon be out. It would seem like the problem was settled but that wasn't good enough for him; he kept shouting and verbally abusing her. He didn't stop even when she came out to move her car. Perhaps affronted by her calm despite his torrents of abuses, he physically attacked her as she got into her car to make way for him.

Truth be told, saying physically attacked is sugar coating things. Truth is- and in the manner of calling a spade a spade- he beat her, with a succession of punches, each one meted out with the intent to humiliate her and put her in her place. And when the punches weren't doing a good job of that, he reached for a metal pedal lock as a coda to the lesson he was meting out. Thankfully he was restrained by some of the co-tenants but he did leave a mark, several marks actually, on her.

Theresa has a right nasal bone fracture, cerebrospinal fluid- the liquid which keeps the brain protected within the skull- leak, a deformed face, several bruises, and that's just listing the physical injuries. As it is, she has to decide if she wants major surgery to correct the facial deformity or live with a disfigured face for the rest of her life.

Life is a lot of things and sometimes we get a choice to either look the other way as though nothing has happened or stare tyranny in the face and make our voices heard. Maybe being a member of the Nigerian Air Force is a powerful intoxicant and what better way to demonstrate this than by beating up a woman- one defenseless woman, one who has overcome several odds to be who she is today, one who has lived with sickle cell disease all her life, one who is your sister, daughter, friend, and companion. Maybe it is easier to look the other way but in this fight, I stand with Theresa! #justice4drtheresa.

Thank you all.
CMUL, 2008 Graduating Class of Medical Doctors & Dentists.

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dis biafra people sef..... Shior

What is the man holding?

Why do i think there's more to this story?

We need to hear from the Wing Commander first but as stated by lumydee, I OPPOSE HITTING OR ANY FORM OF VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN but believe it or not most times if one is not careful, he will do the unexpected because of the way ladies use their tongue!

Just few days ago a firstbank customer care representative in Bauchi acted rudely towards me in the process of opening a saving account with the bank(as this is the only bank in the town) then the next sentence when I hardened my voice in response to a silly question came thus "u ar not d first military man, many have won and removed it"

Luckly enough I was on mufti and never identified myself as a military personnel which gave me the edge in mouth trashing her while he co staffs nod their heads.

Ur friend may ve used such words "ar u the first wing commander?, why u no go build ur own park" etc

Being a military man/doctor, u can hardly tell which senior officer/emergency is breathing down his neck! Sometimes also the stress of the job can make one act irrational!!

All this, is not to support his actions!! Write officially to his unit stating the FACTS!!! I believe the NAF will address the situation to ur satisfaction thanks.

Stressors on doctors these days are much... we seem to be losing our tempers much easily these days... times are indeed hard
But never beat a woman!

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Stressors on doctors these days are much... we seem to be losing our tempers much easily these days... times are indeed hard
But never beat a woman!

That man is no doctor, he's a beast.

I wonder where he came from, definitely not a CMUL
Or OAU Alumnus.

i once lived in such a compound...early in the morning if your car was blocking any other car, you jejely go and repark outside the gate so as to avoid banging on your door later...one of my neighbours even had a funny method... he will just keep his car key on his footmat for anyone he is blocking to remove his car, take your own out, repark for him and drop his key
and we all lived in harmony...
wisdom is profitable to direct!

People should start learning selfdefence tactics and skills and should you have to choose to fight back, here are some basic principles (remember, your goal is to facilitate escape!):

Keep it simple.
Use uncomplicated gross motor moves. Bruce Lee said, "Hack away the unessential." Forget fancy techniques. Under the stress of highly charged emotions mixed with adrenaline and a rapidly increased heart rate, fine and complex motor skills vastly deteriorate.

Do it with your hips!
To deliver power, get your ass into your moves!
Use your strengths against vulnerabilities. Why do you think Tarzan pounds his chest and not his gonads or nose, eyes or throat? Use hard body parts such as elbows, knees, fists, feet, legs, gnarly knuckles and whatever you can get your mitts on! (See slideshow photos below.)

Yell.
Yelling increases power as much as 33 percent and can attract help.
Seconds count! Seize opportunity and exploit surprise. When it's "go time," don't telegraph your intent with obvious wind-up movements. Focus... then blast. Zero to 100 percent! Explode like a bullet directly into your target, not like a firecracker going off in multiple directions at once.

Mindset counts!
Think like a soldier Take charge! Don't just give a smack -- counter attack! Penetrate. Stomp. Gouge. Drive through. Spring into an attacker's face like a coiled cobra.
Breathe. Lower your center of gravity and stay focused. If pinned, for example in a lying down position, abdominal breathing can lower your heart rate and help you collect yourself so that you can think: What part of my body is free... what targets are presenting... where is the nearest exit?

Overcome the fear of injury.
This is hugely important. Sure, you might get hurt, but adrenaline is a wonder drug. Women give birth, for God's sake!
Don't overly rely on "stun-n-runs." Think in succession of rapid fire moves; at least think in threes.

Use the environment!
Whaddya got? Are there handy objects to wield as weapons or shields? Surfaces to shove off of? Can you pull a fire alarm, smash windows to attract help?

Mental disorder can affect any one, people appear normal but they may be suffering from one form of mental health problem or the othe e.g. Stress, depression, anxiety disorders e.t.c. Physically attacking someone unjustly can be an indication that all is not well. I feel for the doctor, she should take the matter to court and sue him for this.

acxlers2014:
We feel obliged to inform you of a rather troubling incident which happened to Dr. Theresa, a Senior Registrar 1 in the department of Psychiatry of Obafemi Awolowo University Teaching Hospital (Ile-Ife) and a dear friend to us all. She is a very gentle, easy going, ever smiling and hardworking resident doctor, but even if she didn't possess any of the aforementioned attributes, she didn't deserve any of what occurred in the duration of this incident.

It all began on Thursday 25th February 2016 at her service apartment building located outside the hospital. It seemed like just another day- a quiet morning with the dew still on the cars parked in the compound and chirping of insects the predominant sound till it was shattered by the shrill shouts of Dr. Okpara. Dr. Okpara is a Wing Commander in the Nigerian Air Force, a resident Doctor in the Dept of Community Medicine in the same hospital where Theresa works, and also resides in that compound. So what could make this man, slightly overweight and bespectacled, irate early on a Thursday morning?

The obstruction of his car in the parking lot within the compound; that's the simple answer, but as it sometimes happens in life, even simple things can devolve into ugly scenarios. As is common in some buildings, the parking space is inadequate and as such tenants have to park behind other cars within the compound. This doesn't constitute the end of the world and tenants occasionally call each other- through the security guard- to move their cars in the morning so that individuals are able to drive out.

According to an eye witness (who is a doctor in the same hospital and also lives within the same compound), Dr Theresa's car was obstructing Dr. Okpara's car and he called her out to move her car. She had told him she was dressing up and would soon be out. It would seem like the problem was settled but that wasn't good enough for him; he kept shouting and verbally abusing her. He didn't stop even when she came out to move her car. Perhaps affronted by her calm despite his torrents of abuses, he physically attacked her as she got into her car to make way for him.

Truth be told, saying physically attacked is sugar coating things. Truth is- and in the manner of calling a spade a spade- he beat her, with a succession of punches, each one meted out with the intent to humiliate her and put her in her place. And when the punches weren't doing a good job of that, he reached for a metal pedal lock as a coda to the lesson he was meting out. Thankfully he was restrained by some of the co-tenants but he did leave a mark, several marks actually, on her.

Theresa has a right nasal bone fracture, cerebrospinal fluid- the liquid which keeps the brain protected within the skull- leak, a deformed face, several bruises, and that's just listing the physical injuries. As it is, she has to decide if she wants major surgery to correct the facial deformity or live with a disfigured face for the rest of her life.

Life is a lot of things and sometimes we get a choice to either look the other way as though nothing has happened or stare tyranny in the face and make our voices heard. Maybe being a member of the Nigerian Air Force is a powerful intoxicant and what better way to demonstrate this than by beating up a woman- one defenseless woman, one who has overcome several odds to be who she is today, one who has lived with sickle cell disease all her life, one who is your sister, daughter, friend, and companion. Maybe it is easier to look the other way but in this fight, I stand with Theresa! #justice4drtheresa.

Thank you all.
CMUL, 2008 Graduating Class of Medical Doctors & Dentists.

Does anyone know how this issue ended?