How do you handle a man you can not confide in,whatever you discuss with him he would call his mum and tell her,and definitely it would cause issues between you and his mum.ppl say I am not wise for still discussing issues with him but y wouldn't you be able to discuss issues with someone you call your husband?its so irritating

Tobigirl16:
How do you handle a man you can not confide in,whatever you discuss with him he would call his mum and tell her,and definitely it would cause issues between you and his mum.ppl say I am not wise for still discussing issues with him but y wouldn't you be able to discuss issues with someone you call your husband?its so irritating

Just talk things over with him.
Make him understand how you feel, i believe he will change but if he dont, then call me and i will tell you what to do next.

What kind of issues do you discuss ma?

Did u marry a baby?
Does that still happen in dis 21st century whn guys re becoming independent minded.

Acidosis:
What kind of issues do you discuss ma?

my elder sister told me somethings about our relationship and ofcourse I discussed it with my hubby as usual but I just found out he went and told his mum meanwhile the mum has a hint of what is going on and told me not to mention it to him because they believe he can't handle such things,I now look like a woman whose mouth can not close.

Married people. Make una pack jor. I no get time for una nonsense today.

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I guess you married the first or last born of the house.

Madam op,its your 4th,i use to be like you,ayam a very openminded person,very transparent,i use to discuss issues with my husband,but the dude always use it against me,as in to spite me,and whenever we hav disputes,viam,he would tell his mum n sisters,so i re-branded and now i hardly tell him anything that concerns me/my immediate family.op if you keep it within yu,it wont burst your chest.

ahnie:
Madam op,its your 4th,i use to be like you,ayam a very openminded person,very transparent,i use to discuss issues with my husband,but the dude always use it against me,as in to spite me,and whenever we hav disputes,viam,he would tell his mum n sisters,so i re-branded and now i hardly tell him anything that concerns me/my immediate family.op if you keep it within yu,it wont burst your chest.

Thank you!
The Good Lord spoke through you.
Op take this.

There is no much to do here, keep it to yourself. It's just really an unfortunate situation to be in, if you can't confide in him, who will you confide in?

Sometimes whenever he's around,and his ears itching for gists,he'll be like..annie how z yur mum nah?...me...oh mum z fyne,she sent her regards...or how z bishop yur broda..?me...bishop z dooing great,he also sent his regards,when my guy could no longer bear it,he 'l restrategize,annie you know, you hav changed,and you no longer tell me secrets again,i'l response thus::::haaa mr ahlex,its the lords dooings oh,and its marvelous in my sight.case Closed

GodnGold:
Thank you!
The Good Lord spoke through you.
Op take this.

op has to learn how to shut her loose.

ahnie:
Sometimes whenever he's around,and his ears itching for gists,he'll be like..annie how z yur mum nah?...me...oh mum z fyne,she sent her regards...or how z bishop yur broda..?me...bishop z dooing great,he also sent his regards,when my guy could no longer bear it,he 'l restrategize,annie you know, you hav changed,and you no longer tell me secrets again,i'l response thus::::haaa mr ahlex,its the lords dooings oh,and its marvelous in my sight.case Closed op has to learn how to shut her loose.

the lord's doing.

For me, what annoys me about my man is that we will be on an issue, trying to discuss and take the best decision for us as a couple and he will go and tell his sisters. They will then offer their unsolicited advice and tell him, "so and so and so is how it should be done".

I was quiet till he did the last one and then I reasoned, this behavior needs a radical antidote o, else it will get to a point when they will give advice on the number of years to do child spacing when we start a family or even how to our baby should be named.

Though I know he only does it out of a real desire to be close to them. But I'm close to my folks too. And I choose what to discuss with them.

So the last time, I tried voicing my displeasure to him over the phone immediately he told me he had told darling sisters about what we were discussing. But he got upset and ended the call.

Throughout that day, I was just upset. And then Eureka, it occurred to me that while he discusses our issues with them, darling sisters never mention their husbands in the course of a conversation with him.

So at night when he picked me, I broached the issue again. And he got defensive saying I overreact on little issues. Asking me if its wrong to discuss issues with his blood....

To be continued.

I told him, don't get me wrong. No one is asking you guys not to be close. But our man and woman discussions should be kept between us. But I will agree I am overreacting if you can mention just one thing that your sisters have discussed with you regarding their family decisions. Mention one thing that you know they are planning on doing.

Na so my man lie down in utter silence as it dawned on him that while they seemed to know so much about us, he knew ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about the inner workings of their own families.

So I left him for some few minutes for that to sink in, and we later continued our normal gist.

I hope that habit has been dealt with permanently. If not, I will not be tired because I hate it when someone can't keep secrets. I am the woman and I don't act like that. You guys can discuss your extended family matters from morning till night. It's non of my business. But when it comes to my little family, omo, I won't take kindly to 3rd parties trying to usurp their rightful place as outsiders.

ahnie:
Sometimes whenever he's around,and his ears itching for gists,he'll be like..annie how z yur mum nah?...me...oh mum z fyne,she sent her regards...or how z bishop yur broda..?me...bishop z dooing great,he also sent his regards,when my guy could no longer bear it,he 'l restrategize,annie you know, you hav changed,and you no longer tell me secrets again,i'l response thus::::haaa mr ahlex,its the lords dooings oh,and its marvelous in my sight.case Closed op has to learn how to shut her loose.

Oniovo më, oboh weh gaga!!

#Nunu ra...Nunu ra...Nunu ra...#

ehyaah...sorry.U married a typical mama's boy.

ahnie:
Sometimes whenever he's around,and his ears itching for gists,he'll be like..annie how z yur mum nah?...me...oh mum z fyne,she sent her regards...or how z bishop yur broda..?me...bishop z dooing great,he also sent his regards,when my guy could no longer bear it,he 'l restrategize,annie you know, you hav changed,and you no longer tell me secrets again,i'l response thus::::haaa mr ahlex,its the lords dooings oh,and its marvelous in my sight.case Closed op has to learn how to shut her loose.

Now this is hilarious....
Op, learn how to keep your mouth shut...I write out my feelings down instead of talking.
My writing pad is my best confidant

Tobigirl16:
How do you handle a man you can not confide in,whatever you discuss with him he would call his mum and tell her,and definitely it would cause issues between you and his mum.ppl say I am not wise for still discussing issues with him but y wouldn't you be able to discuss issues with someone you call your husband?its so irritating

Ma, you didn't marry a man; you married a boy.

Did either of you read books and attend programs about marriage and marital life before you got married? I doubt it.

Maybe you just married him because he is well to do and ready for marriage without first finding out his characters.

Or maybe you saw the characters before marriage but decided to still marry him because of so called love or money.

You are in for a long thing.

If you tell him to stop telling his mummy about your discussions, he will still tell his mummy and this will put you in a bigger problem with your mother in law.

Since you decided to marry mummy's boy, I suggest you live with it.

When he was wooing you with gifts and money, you didn't come here to complain. Now that marriage has opened your eyes to reality, you remember nairaland.

Dee'wor bo veh wo yan... ke'veh ewhareh na?

EfemenaXY:


Oniovo më, oboh weh gaga!!

#Nunu ra...Nunu ra...Nunu ra...#

ahnie:
Dee'wor bo veh wo yan... ke'veh ewhareh na?

Vrendo... Ma'rei oh!

Kobuwo? Kor Oza we, avor omomo?

Mé bé cheze ni ne na. Mé oyele gagä!!

Tobigirl16:
How do you handle a man you can not confide in,whatever you discuss with him he would call his mum and tell her,and definitely it would cause issues between you and his mum.ppl say I am not wise for still discussing issues with him but y wouldn't you be able to discuss issues with someone you call your husband?its so irritating

stop discussing such with him since such bring in unsolicited troubles. You should have known his nature before marrying him. He can't keep a secret. Treat him like that accordingly for your peace of mind.

wadetaw202:


Ma, you didn't marry a man; you married a boy.

Did either of you read books and attend programs about marriage and marital life before you got married? I doubt it.

Maybe you just married him because he is well to do and ready for marriage without first finding out his characters.

Or maybe you saw the characters before marriage but decided to still marry him because of so called love or money.

You are in for a long thing.

If you tell him to stop telling his mummy about your discussions, he will still tell his mummy and this will put you in a bigger problem with your mother in law.

Since you decided to marry mummy's boy, I suggest you live with it.

When he was wooing you with gifts and money, you didn't come here to complain. Now that marriage has opened your eyes to reality, you remember nairaland.

For ur mind u jst advised d OP, well u are entitled to ur own opinion, am pretty sure u aint married. Gracias.

teddybear007:


For ur mind u jst advised d OP, well u are entitled to ur own opinion, am pretty sure u aint married. Gracias.

How would you marry a flippant man and claim you didn't know he was like that before marriage? Of course, the op knew before marriage but got carried away with frivolities. She intentionally married a spoilt brat and she should deal with it.

Oh!!!! sorry Dear.... You married a mama's boy....There's no solution to it till the demise of the mum....That is the only marriage problem that got no solution.....

just one plate of Egwusi soup from the mother will be enough for him to tell her how many times you have slept together as couple.....

My dear, u can't do anytin about his mouth. My hubby is like dat, he tell his mum everytin. I had to ask him if he usually discuss our s*x life wit his mum nd he got pissed. I had to wise up; it wasn't easy but I started keepin secrets.