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Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 8:31am On Sep 12
.. what qualities must her future husband have for you to bless their union?

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by ImaIma1(f): 9:49am On Sep 12
He must have a very strong sense of responsibility.

Must have an income.

Must not be verbally, physically or emotionally abusive.

Must love God

More coming...

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by donstan18(m): 11:34am On Sep 12
Any quality(s) my daughter find okay and comfortable with.
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 6:20pm On Sep 12
donstan18:
Any quality(s) my daughter find okay and comfortable with.

have you got daughters?

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by doitforyou(f): 11:41pm On Sep 12
Any qualities that she wants in a man. She is a grown woman and she is the one that will live with said qualities. I trust I have raised her with enough sense to choose what is best for her. Also I think my daughter would know her boyfriend better than I would, she actually dated him. I would have only met him a handful of times on his best behavior to form a true assessment.

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 4:54pm On Sep 13
doitforyou:
Any qualities that she wants in a man. She is a grown woman and she is the one that will live with said qualities. I trust I have raised her with enough sense to choose what is best for her. Also I think my daughter would know her boyfriend better than I would, she actually dated him. I would have only met him a handful of times on his best behavior to form a true assessment.

ok then let me ask you something else
your daughter asks you
mama, what is good husband material?
you: ...
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by tpiar: 5:03pm On Sep 13
desvi:


ok then let me ask you something else
your daughter asks you
mama, what is good husband material?
you:

check https://www.google.com

Or

www.nairaland.com

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by Jentle244(m): 5:08pm On Sep 13
tpiar:


https://www.google.com
Google: if you ask me na who I go ask?
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:28pm On Sep 13
Should be a God fearing type

Should be working

Faithful......not the skirt chasers

A man with a good conscience

His family background must also be checked.

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by bukatyne(f): 7:37pm On Sep 13
desvi:
.. what qualities must her future husband have for you to bless their union?

Only she can tell all the qualities of her husband to be due to numerous interactions.

So the onus is on the parents to train their daughter to recognize and value the right attributes in a man.

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by bukatyne(f): 7:43pm On Sep 13
desvi:


ok then let me ask you something else
your daughter asks you
mama, what is good husband material?
you: ...

Ideally, your dad.

And it is not a question and answer situation. It is training her with the right values over time so she can recognize original.

For instance, telling her that a husband should respect his wife is not as effective or impactful as raising her to have great self-esteem and self-respect. In the second scenario, she would naturally pick a respectful man.

If she is also trained on the difference between healthy self-esteem and arrogance, she would also know how to relate with the respectful man respectably.

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by missjo(f): 10:19pm On Sep 13
doitforyou:
Any qualities that she wants in a man. She is a grown woman and she is the one that will live with said qualities. I trust I have raised her with enough sense to choose what is best for her. Also I think my daughter would know her boyfriend better than I would, she actually dated him. I would have only met him a handful of times on his best behavior to form a true assessment.
Lol,i wish i could show you this in about 30 or 35 years from now

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by ThothHermes: 11:59pm On Sep 13
bukatyne:


Ideally, your dad.

And it is not a question and answer situation. It is training her with the right values over time so she can recognize original.

For instance, telling her that a husband should respect his wife is not as effective or impactful as raising her to have great self-esteem and self-respect. In the second scenario, she would naturally pick a respectful man.

If she is also trained on the difference between healthy self-esteem and arrogance, she would also know how to relate with the respectful man respectably.
Too much sense.

One thing I have discovered is that the best way way to riase a child is by being that thing that you want them to be. Your character and actions are more potent than any other thing I can think of.

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by doitforyou(f): 3:47am On Sep 14
okay.

missjo:

Lol,i wish i could show you this in about 30 or 35 years from now

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by bdchange(m): 6:17am On Sep 14
LilMissFavvy:
Should be a God fearing type

Should be working

Faithful......not the skirt chasers

A man with a good conscience

His family background must also be checked.
Unfortunately most people don't know what a God fearing person should appear as. And most just say it and never act on it.



Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by bdchange(m): 6:19am On Sep 14
bukatyne:


Ideally, your dad.

And it is not a question and answer situation. It is training her with the right values over time so she can recognize original.

For instance, telling her that a husband should respect his wife is not as effective or impactful as raising her to have great self-esteem and self-respect. In the second scenario, she would naturally pick a respectful man.

If she is also trained on the difference between healthy self-esteem and arrogance, she would also know how to relate with the respectful man respectably.
Well said...
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by bdchange(m): 6:20am On Sep 14
LilMissFavvy:
Should be a God fearing type

Should be working

Faithful......not the skirt chasers

A man with a good conscience

His family background must also be checked.




Unfortunately most people don't know what a God fearing person should appear as. And most just say it and never act on it.

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:16am On Sep 14
Yeah, I get your point.
bdchange:

Unfortunately most people don't know what a God fearing person should appear as. And most just say it and never act on it.
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 8:21am On Sep 14
bukatyne:


Ideally, your dad.

And it is not a question and answer situation. It is training her with the right values over time so she can recognize original.

For instance, telling her that a husband should respect his wife is not as effective or impactful as raising her to have great self-esteem and self-respect. In the second scenario, she would naturally pick a respectful man.

If she is also trained on the difference between healthy self-esteem and arrogance, she would also know how to relate with the respectful man respectably.

I understand
it's a good point
but what qualities do you wish your daughter's husband to have ideally
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 8:21am On Sep 14
bdchange:

Unfortunately most people don't know what a God fearing person should appear as. And most just say it and never act on it.

so what does it mean?
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 8:22am On Sep 14
missjo:

Lol,i wish i could show you this in about 30 or 35 years from now

what husband would you want for your daughter?
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by kunleweb: 10:41am On Sep 14
LilMissFavvy:
Should be a God fearing type

Should be working

Faithful......not the skirt chasers

A man with a good conscience

His family background must also be checked.






My chum chum. See why I like ya cheesy
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:20am On Sep 14
Oh...... It's you!
kunleweb:




My chum chum. See why I like ya cheesy
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by missjo(f): 11:20am On Sep 14
desvi:


what husband would you want for your daughter?
One i can see myself marrying just like her dad.
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by kunleweb: 12:17pm On Sep 14
LilMissFavvy:
Oh...... It's you!



My chum chum cheesy its me jaws wink
Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by doitforyou(f): 9:33pm On Sep 14
ok if you put it that way, all the cliches that have already been mentioned on this thread plus a few.

1. Innately good - someone that isn't nice/good to you because you're his SO, observe how he treats his siblings, waiters, cleaners and avoid any guy that badmouths his ex.
2. Open-minded
3. Empathetic - this is good for conflict resolution.
4. Easy going
5. Conversationalist

Desvi, did I pass? cheesy

desvi:


ok then let me ask you something else
your daughter asks you
mama, what is good husband material?
you: ...

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by desvi: 6:10pm On Sep 15
doitforyou:
ok if you put it that way, all the cliches that have already been mentioned on this thread plus a few.

1. Innately good - someone that isn't nice/good to you because you're his SO, observe how he treats his siblings, waiters, cleaners and avoid any guy that badmouths his ex.
2. Open-minded
3. Empathetic - this is good for conflict resolution.
4. Easy going
5. Conversationalist

Desvi, did I pass? cheesy


love this list cheesy

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Re: Your Daughter Wants To Get Married .. by princeking2(m): 10:10pm On Sep 20
Women sef.....

You ladies will just be gisting your checklist into your children's future.

To me it's simple, He must be a GOOD Man.

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